You’re not even the side chic.
Why are you calling his main woman the ex?
He’s just cheating on her with you.
And I said you’re not even the side chic because if he saved your name with your location, that means he has to work on remembering you when you text or call him. So your location helps him remember.

There might be 3 or 4 of you with whom he is cheating on his woman. He has the keep it straight in his mind so your location helps him remember who you are.

And this is the same j*rk that was treating you like his servant in your former thread. If a man loves you, you won’t confused by his actions towards you.

cococandy:
You’re not even the side chic.
Why are you calling his main woman the ex?
He’s just cheating on her with you.
And I said you’re not even the side chic because if he saved your name with your location, that means he has to work on remembering you when you text or call him. So your location helps him remember.

There might be 3 or 4 of you with whom he is cheating on his woman. He has the keep it straight in his mind so your location helps him remember who you are.

And this is the same j*rk that was treating you like his servant in your former thread. If a man loves you, you won’t confused by his actions towards you.

Thank you. I dont know why I am not lucky with guys

Vikky1425:

Thank you. I dont know why I am not lucky with guys

Be of good cheer. Your man will still come.

As for this your so called boyfriend kindly know that you are not in a relationship. You should not be anybody's spare part because you a flower and should be treated like one. Ex him if you know you want to be happy.

Let him who has ears HEAR

Vikky1425:

Thank you. I dont know why I am not lucky with guys

It’s alright. Many women feel like this because they are ready to be in a serious relationship but keep meeting partners who are not interested in being serious. Hence they get desperate and the cycle keeps repeating itself.

Once you come to the realization that you can have a great life with or without a romantic relationship and/or marriage, You will have a kind of peace that even attracts the relationship that you’ve been chasing after. Effortlessly.

cococandy:


It’s alright. Many women feel like this because they are ready to be in a serious relationship but keep meeting partners who are not interested in being serious. Hence they get desperate and the cycle keeps repeating itself.

Once you come to the realization that you can have a great life with or without a romantic relationship and/or marriage, You will have a kind of peace that even attracts the relationship that you’ve been chasing after. Effortlessly.

Thank you

Well your relationship is barely a month old.

Perhaps he hasn't remembered to change how he saved the exes' contact info.
Try giving him up to 3months to make the changes.

Unlike women, when a man breaks up with a lady, we don't usually rush into changing how we saved their contact or start blocking them on every social media platform - it's chics that behave that way.
We are just not concerned about making those immediate changes to prove anything, and it doesn't mean we are still into the ex.... Far from it.

One month is still too early for your boyfriend to come up with a unique pet name for you, this is probably why you're still saved as Victoria Benin.

Kai, sense wee not kill me...

This guy is probably your life purpose. The only thing you do and think is him. So sad. Note this: It would end in tears. You are just a sexmate so stop calling him your boyfriend.

Love is a mad circle

Vikky1425:
I have a previous thread about this man. We started dating like a month now. When I was at his place one time like that, he wanted to show me something on his phone and a whatsapp message popped up from MY LOVE, obviously I wasnt the one that sent the message.
I didnt say anything immediately, I got home and asked him about who that person was, and he said the lady is his ex. He is not in his twenties anymore and it's hard to see a man in his 30s that is actually VERY SINGLE, so I asked him if there is any woman in his life and he told me about a ex that his mum said he cannot marry.
This same ex was the lady that sent him the text that day, they are still in touch and constantly talking.
I was surprised last week when we saw again, fortunately I got to see that he saved my own name as VICTORIA BENIN. I didnt say anything either.
I got home and talked to him about it then he said "with time that will change" what's all that? He knows am not too happy with him, then two days ago he said he called his mum to talk to her about this same ex, whether he can still marry her or not. He then said his mum said NO that am the only lady in his life, that he just called to co firm things from his mum.
This is crazy

Relationship is not by force. To him, You are just one of them (Victoria Benin) just imagine.
U've just found a new fvck boy and not a serious bf.
Here's my advice, leave options opened for a serious relationship and take this guy as a mere friend. He is not serious.
I am sure he has Sandra Asaba on his contact.

Vikky1425:
I have a previous thread about this man. We started dating like a month now. When I was at his place one time like that, he wanted to show me something on his phone and a whatsapp message popped up from MY LOVE, obviously I wasnt the one that sent the message.
I didnt say anything immediately, I got home and asked him about who that person was, and he said the lady is his ex. He is not in his twenties anymore and it's hard to see a man in his 30s that is actually VERY SINGLE, so I asked him if there is any woman in his life and he told me about a ex that his mum said he cannot marry.
This same ex was the lady that sent him the text that day, they are still in touch and constantly talking.
I was surprised last week when we saw again, fortunately I got to see that he saved my own name as VICTORIA BENIN. I didnt say anything either.
I got home and talked to him about it then he said "with time that will change" what's all that? He knows am not too happy with him, then two days ago he said he called his mum to talk to her about this same ex, whether he can still marry her or not. He then said his mum said NO that am the only lady in his life, that he just called to co firm things from his mum.
This is crazy

He is simply a weak man. Dump his ass now before it ends in tears

ednut1:
You are not a serious person. After the last thread you still stay put. Keep dating yourself

lol, you know matters of the heart can be very dicey... its just a matter of time she would realise

What was the problem Dear? Because I can see three issues.. so rank them according to your scale of preference....

<<< Was it the fact that he saved your name as Victoria Benin (which is kinda funny though ) and not my love as u expected?

<<< was it the age differences between the two of you? (Considering what u typed up there, If u are really serious that u can hardly find a Nigeria man in his 30s who is not in a serious relationship, that means Nigerians are trying as far a committed relationship goes..)

<<<Was it the fact that he takes permission from his mother for every single decision? Which one do u want to solve?

Vicky, I just read your last post on this same guy. This is a typical traditional man who doesn't love you yet, so get ready to be the traditional woman who just obeys and not complain.

It's your choice to either stick with him and endure everything so that he can marry you since he seems ready for marriage or you break free now.
Mind you, don't think of changing him. You can't.

infogenius:


Relationship is not by force. To him, You are just one of them (Victoria Benin) just imagine.
U've just found a new fvck boy and not a serious bf.
Here's my advice, leave options opened for a serious relationship and take this guy as a mere friend. He is not serious.
I am sure he has Sandra Asaba on his contact.

Thank you

Candoit:
Vicky, I just read your last post on this same guy. This is a typical traditional man who doesn't love you yet, so get ready to be the traditional woman who just obeys and not complain.

It's your choice to either stick with him and endure everything so that he can marry you since he seems ready for marriage or you break free now.
Mind you, don't think of changing him. You can't.

I dont see myself with a traditional man. Thank you

Richy4:
What was the problem Dear? Because I can see three issues.. so rank them according to your scale of preference....

<<< Was it the fact that he saved your name as Victoria Benin (which is kinda funny though ) and not my love as u expected?

<<< was it the age differences between the two of you? (Considering what u typed up there, If u are really serious that u can hardly find a Nigeria man in his 30s who is not in a serious relationship, that means Nigerians are trying as far a committed relationship goes..)

<<<Was it the fact that he takes permission from his mother for every single decision? Which one do u want to solve?

...I wouldn't mind if he saved my name as just VICTORIA, which one is adding my location to it again.
...the age difference is okay for me. I'm not saying all men in their 30s are in serious relationship. I just mean that one way or the other there is a woman in a corner, maybe a long term girlfriend that they cannot let go now, or a fiance or whatever but there is a woman. That's why I asked him if theres any woman, since he is over 30.
...that he takes permission from his mother is a red flag too. I remember him telling me how am going to be cooking and doing all sort. He is the last born too. So maybe that is where the mommy's boy part is coming from.