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Settling Disagreement On Matters by BalogunIdowu(m): 10:21pm On Jun 04, 2020
As humans, 'disagreement' is a garb we wear like kimono. We get into disagreement with our heads raised high - wanting to win the situation. We need to realise that our imperfection is a key to realise we can't always be right, our views can't always be accepted, we can't always win someone over in a disagreement on any matter.

I have therefore briefly explained below what we should and shouldn't on matters relating to the topic and how we should handle them. Here we go!

Our aim when trying to explain our views to another person or a group of people shouldn't be to make them 'accept' or 'agree' to our perspective or explanation.
This is important because we'll be distracted with wanting them to 'accept' rather than to 'understand'. If upon all the energy, they still 'disagree', we'll be agitated and see then as not ready to 'learn or change'.

Our goal should be rather to make them 'understand' our view(s) - explaining to them as succinct as we can with our experience, reasoning or evidence(s) if available.
With this, you leave them to decide agreeing with you or not; understanding your points but not accepting them.

Don't hate or have reservations if people don't agree with all you have to say - perhaps it may be on that matter but if it is forever consistent, you can choose to avoid discussing issues not having general acceptance or simply accept them for whom they have choose to become.

If they feel connected with your explanations and are convinced, they'll tell you they 'agree' and if they don't align with your thoughts, they can still decide to extend the discussion with you. Proceed if you find the the discussing enlightening to both rather than being more of argument and if not time constrained amongst other personal factors.

If they tell/reply you with just 'okay' after your explanation, it is most likely of this two reasons:

They understand everything you say but do not accept it - they simply don't want to go further with the discussion.
They don't agree with all your conscientious explanation and to avoid more from you, they just prefer to 'okay' you.

When any of this happens, don't push further trying to be a superman. It is likely to be a waste of energy and time - better still turn to another topic like 'did you follow the recent update on COVID19 safety from the government?'

If you have a bottle of water with you, drink some and find peace.


Balogun idowu ismaheel

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