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How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife / How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband / How Do I Deal With This Issues Between My Wife And I? (2) (3) (4)
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Re: How Do I Deal With This. by uboma(m): 9:25pm On Jul 10, 2020 |
Acidosis: Are you still saying that he is not being lazy? I give up on you. No need to debate on this with you any further. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Nobody: 9:25pm On Jul 10, 2020 |
Acidosis: Courage, how? Meanwhile your first post is a total horror, you need to see it for the no-no that it is. Insight, the first step I reacted to it accordingly, because it rubbed me off the wrong way. But with your second post you showed some acknowledgement of the lady’s efforts, you tried to be understanding and were not the usual judgemental you. I quoted you because I liked that particular post. It was a much nicer and human post than the first one. I didn’t know I needed to have a shot of whiskey before quoting the big bad wolf I contested the issue of savings? You sanctimoniously decided how long it was supposed to last and because that’s not you wearing the particular shoe, I called you out on that. So what are you saying? You know what? You are the person who found a special way to judge the woman, poor people who lose their jobs and run down their savings sooner than you are comfortable with, people who can’t save, people who feel overwhelmed with life’s problems, all in one post! That is all shades of taking the cake. 6 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Munzy14(m): 9:26pm On Jul 10, 2020 |
Funmilehot:Your house rent on annual bases,should be sum total of your two months salary. Anything above that, u are living above your income. You have the piper, you should detect the tune...After all cut suya cut suya, na from cow body. To your husband ego, keep massaging it until u push yourself 6ft below, he will re-marry. las, las everyone has his/her cross to carry, maybe this is your own. E go better...... 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Acidosis(m): 9:46pm On Jul 10, 2020 |
uboma: A man that worked up until 2017, worked so much that he saved up 900k, and has continued to travel (may be wrong priorities) in search of greener pastures is not lazy in my own definition. That I choose to pursue white collar job rather than a blue collar doesn't mean I'm lazy. Laziness is making effort at nothing, blue, white or black collar. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Acidosis(m): 9:48pm On Jul 10, 2020 |
merahki: You have issues. Where in my post did I judge her or her husband. Those that called him lazy weren't judging but the same me that defended the man against your assumptions of being a lazy man that depend on his wife for 2 years is judgmental? You truly have issues. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Acidosis(m): 9:57pm On Jul 10, 2020 |
GboyegaD:
His elder sister do send him something at times but he will lie to me she sent something lesser. Last December I saw alert of 150k on his phone but he lied to me his sister sent him 40k. He took us to shoprite, next day he bought loads of turkey shirts and other stuffs worth more... |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Munzy14(m): 5:51am On Jul 11, 2020 |
uboma:Very very annoying, Especially those with ego. Same goes to lazy wives who aren't working and are not ready to...... 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Munzy14(m): 5:54am On Jul 11, 2020 |
Mariangeles:He is a trophy husband.... At least no be every time trophy wife trophy wife.
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Re: How Do I Deal With This. by dingbang(m): 6:10am On Jul 11, 2020 |
MArriage sef. This single that I am singling now, the peace of mind I am experiencing is on a celestial level. I just cannot come and go and come back again and buy wahala for myself. Until I meet someone who isnt selfish and filled with understanding, omo eeh , money for marriage go still dey akant! |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Munzy14(m): 6:20am On Jul 11, 2020 |
Funmilehot:This your story is coming in episodes o. Madam go and reason with your husband....You both don't even understand each other to an extent, which is very bad. The companion is almost gone. And trust is fading away with the way you are monitoring each other.... In the end if you aren't ready to fix things and come to a common terms, u will be the loser o. |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Coldplay007(f): 7:09am On Jul 11, 2020 |
Acidosis: Nobody should be jobless for years.. there is always something to do. Guys in Lagos and PH can relate, but he wants to stay in his village and be doing fine boy.. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Mariangeles(f): 9:32am On Jul 11, 2020 |
Munzy14: So, are you a potential trophy husband? Good morning |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Munzy14(m): 10:14am On Jul 11, 2020 |
Mariangeles:good morning. No be only trophy na friendly match husband... Local man has learnt to make his money from childhood biko. It is common for a man to carry the family for lifetime. but give it to a woman for a day, ooohh!!! the whole thing moves down south..lol 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Mariangeles(f): 10:47am On Jul 11, 2020 |
Munzy14: Well, that's because it's not supposed to be so. It'll wear her out. |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Lucyspa: 11:23am On Jul 11, 2020 |
sisisioge: God bless you for saying the truth.. Yoruba men only marry financially stable women, they most times don't care beauty. I know this because i live in Akure and i see this a lot. I attended big schools and most of my classmates have mothers who were divorced or married but still paying all the bills. Most of these women were very rich too with financially unstable men. Sometimes, i wonder how u guys cope and on top of that, the man will still cheat. Yoruba women are hustlers and hard working while their men are not men enough. I really dont like yoruba men but i dont hate them either just that their attitudes towards life and family is not great. |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Lucyspa: 11:25am On Jul 11, 2020 |
uboma: I bet that acidosis is a yoruba man, no cap. They are mostly lazy and do not see anything bad in a woman feeding them for 2 years. Tueh 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Lucyspa: 11:29am On Jul 11, 2020 |
Munzy14: Where are you from pls? I like the way reason |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by bukatyne(f): 11:34am On Jul 11, 2020 |
Lucyspa: Hahahahahahaha! See how you washed our men! Na wa o! |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by uboma(m): 11:37am On Jul 11, 2020 |
Lucyspa: Hey! Stop it! There are Yoruba men who are very responsible. We have irresponsible men cut across all tribes. It isn't about one's tribe or culture.... 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Munzy14(m): 11:49am On Jul 11, 2020 |
Mariangeles: so it wears the men in ?.....smh Do you know in other animals, the mothers hunt for the family most... Humans are said to be higher animal. E no easy at all. Bread and akara is a nice combo, at least if one person win bread, let the other win akara so life will strike a balance..No mata how wealthy a man is, a working wife is an icing on the cake at least for the kids... Death can strike anytime. |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Munzy14(m): 11:51am On Jul 11, 2020 |
Lucyspa:Thanks...I am from eastern heartland. |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Nobody: 12:08pm On Jul 11, 2020 |
bukatyne:I wan cry self but tears fail me. Nawa o |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Acidosis(m): 12:10pm On Jul 11, 2020 |
Lucyspa: Lol. Your issues are beyond redemption. Even after the woman came back to clear the air, you still choose to remain stup/d with your 2 years feeding money assumptions. Now the issue has translated from laziness and joblessness to tribal. Good luck to you with your diagnosis of another woman's home while yours remain a future and nearly impossible tense. |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Acidosis(m): 12:15pm On Jul 11, 2020 |
Coldplay007: It's obvious we all didn't read the same post and majority didn't read between the lines. |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Nobody: 12:31pm On Jul 11, 2020 |
Lucyspa:Lol Yoruba Men aren't lazy, they are just no industrious and most lack enthusiasm to start from scratch unlike their Women. Yoruba Men not all but most prefer white collar jobs that getting their hands soiled and their great educational achievement is their undoing. Unlike An igbo man who will start from selling bras and pants at alaba market,to producing lingeries,A typical Yoruba Man will rather wait for the igbo man's company to kick off then come to apply as a manager in the company. Lol, although I must say they are intelligent and can make business grow but will hardly start it . They don't like their hands getting dirty. Lol Although not all but most. Little wonder Op's husband used his savings of 900k to search for jobs and connections in Abuja. Lol who does that? If that savings was the wife's believe me that family's financial status would be booming by now. Because Unlike Yoruba Men,There women are hustlers and very industrious.Like they can do anything even jobs their husbands will reject. Although not all but Most. Hardly will you see a Yoruba woman without a job or something doing even if her husband is rich.In Yoruba society,a Jobless wife is a menace, she will be labeled all sort of names and blamed for anything that goes wrong around because Yoruba believe that a Jobless wife is automatically a rumour monger . No doubt Their women are richer but they hardly show it. But why won't they? We all know that there's salary job can never make one wealthy! Never! Anyways back to the point, Op's husband is a typical Yoruba Man who would rather wait and dream to hit it big than starting from scratch, and his Yoruba pride will not let him move to a smaller apartment because he wants to keep his fake status quo. Op is really in for a long thing, expect she pushes responsibility back to him and wake him from his slumber. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Coldplay007(f): 1:08pm On Jul 11, 2020 |
donbachi: A man that is jobless for 2 years is a lazy man.. there is always a job available if you can leave your comfort zone.. Comfort zone does not only denote location, it also refers to the type of job.. Some people are only looking for white collar jobs.. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Lucyspa: 1:52pm On Jul 11, 2020 |
Acidosis: Are you yoruba or not? Simple question |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Lucyspa: 1:55pm On Jul 11, 2020 |
bukatyne: To be fair, is it not true? I've in Akure, Ondo state most of my life so i know what i am saying. I am not bashing them sis, just stating the obvious. I know most men's tribe on here by just their comment especially igbo and Yoruba as i have in both worlds. |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Acidosis(m): 3:17pm On Jul 11, 2020 |
Lucyspa: I am. What's the next question? Is my wife feeding me or not? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by Lucyspa: 3:27pm On Jul 11, 2020 |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by emmaodet: 3:34pm On Jul 11, 2020 |
Acidosis: 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Deal With This. by walexyll(m): 5:28pm On Jul 11, 2020 |
Mariangeles:I thought we are in the era of gender equality �� There are dozens of stay-at-home mom trying to get a job for over 5 years without any "show". The husband will support and even deny himself of good things just to please the wife...we no go hear anything ooo...Now when the table turns, we no go hear word again... Ladies should know what they really want |
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