victorian:










Ok. That's your idea about marriage.
And if we are to ask millions of people what marriage is all about, they will have different views about it.

Anyways in Nigeria, I've come to understand 80% of people both male and females view marriage as poverty allevaitaion scheme and an avenue to have constant sex anytime Anyday without feeling guilty but seeing it as God's mandate on humans.


Anyways why I wish to get married is this : I was born in a family where there is father, mother, brothers and sisters. Although it was a polygamous family but I grew up in the setting of knowing the love & responsibility of a dad, love & motherly responsibility of a mom and love of my brothers. But Years later, I lost my family to death, through natural causes. I can't complain. That's how God want it.

I'm not used to live the rest of my life alone even though I'm financially balanced and I've been trained from day one, having a family through marriage is good and the best. I'm a family and traditional oriented woman.
I frown at having kids through insemination or through adoption or through bf and gf. Those kind of lifestyle is strange to me and I don't want it.

I wish to marry for Companionship wit one man not with numerous men or women and also have my own nuclear family that will us bind by love, Responsibilities ,God, and the law.
Mind you I'm not lonely but I don't fancy being with different men,day in day out all in the name of I can have any man I want. That's not my kind of person.

So that's why.

tevinsolt:
Power intoxicates.

Older Siblings abuse their power over younger siblings

Parents abuse their power over their kids

Husbands abuse their power over wives

Teachers abuse their power over students

Pastors/Imams/priests abuse their power over followers

Policemen/soldiers abuse their power over citizens

Government officials abuse their power over citizens

The belief in an arbitrarily bestowed right of superiority over another by a diety, nature or some written document.

Any attempt by the oppress to speak or fight back is rebellion against the aforementioned.

mrchineke:


Make sure you find someone who share your values 100%, and not just for today but till eternity.

I wish you luck oooo

joseph1832:
I believe some Nigerian men abroad likes to keep their wives here in Nigeria, because they're afraid of what they might do, when they discover what it truly mean to be free.

Rest In Peace Lady.

danny56:


Shut up... What is free about their perverted law going against what bible said?

OLDESTWARRIBOY:
#SayNoToMurder

But what I can say us most Nigerian girls...once they discover they are richer than you (male), they start seeing you as shi..it, like you irritate them or something..

No one knows tomorrow...So please we should all learn to do better...

Galactico4ever:
This matter wey make you to speak correct oyibo sha...ogbeni you sure say na you get dis account?

Dem hack my account be4 . Me speak English? For where

mrchineke:


The answer= a functional upstanding full human being!

All these rubbish about family.............what family?

Men who adopt this mentality die early mostly out of pain and bitter disappointment.

abeggnow:
If u are are a man then you will understand that a man lives for his familly.Familly being wife and children.When a man looses these things then there is no point.

kizyalex10:
bro most of these men cant really woo someone already based or established in America because they do meager work and our sisters who find their way to america themselves always look for big boys who re in medical line etc and sees an average guy as a nobody,thats d fact.while an average guy in the US is seen as a big boy here in nigeria and will want to bring a girl he can afford there in America and upgrade them to the standard of women they want so they can earn real big nd support the family,the truth is that women abuse power alot so they take advantage of the fact that the western world gave them the whole powers to frustrate the man

kuntama:

Yes. That is the right of every human being.
Honestly!! The sense
Of male entitlement in this thread is unbelievable!

lagosrd:
This is the result of
Pride
Accumulated anger
Nonchallancy
Being Disrespectful
Betrayal
Trying to be smart
Unforgiving spirit
Stupidity
Distrust

Etc

First, may her soul rest in peace Perhaps its a terrible trend going south and if not checked there will be thousands of motherless Nigeria children in the US with hopeless fath


........later

LadySarah:


What of the kids

VULCAN:
You don't sound very matured.

You ignored the root cause of what led to the murders in order to make yourself sound self righteous.

If the reason for the murders is eradicated then the murders themselves will stop.

Perhaps that is beyond your ability to comprehend.

I hope you are not a medical doctor because its obvious you would ignore the cause of a fatal disease only to focus on its symptoms.

Which guarantees that the patient will eventually die.

victorian:









That's Nigerian men for you.

The men marry village girls till date, thinking they can control the village wives imported to abroad.


And I laugh at their foolishness.

Even in Nigeria here, some husbands are adocating their wives gives them their paycheck every month.

One unfortunate useless banker while courting me in the past says, every money I make in my company will be paid into his account when we get married. Do I agree or not?

I laughed and looked at him, then I asked him? Where were u when I was struggling to build my biz? Because of dangling marriage like a carrot in my face, u think I'm so desperate to hand over my life savings to u?

You use jazz in your tongue? Cos i don't understand your English.

Thief! Ole!

Smhhhhh.

emkz:


Guys please, except you have dated her and you understand her value system in Nigeria, don't marry an unexposed and mentally-unprepared girl to take abroad. There are highly accomplished single black girls abroad who'd adore you. Date them and marry them. Leave Naija local champions for Naija.

One day, I shall share my story on this forum so tha many would learn.

Wolgrace:


You are too loaded with knowledge! They promote violence in other to promote bloodshed because its the food and drink to the devils, they feed on and live by blood. And legalising abortion is their mode of worshipping and sacrificing the infants to their MOLOCH god of their ancient fathers for national prosperity. Rome is the god head/father of America because they shared the whole world into ten parts.

solite3:
deep! I thought I was the only one who saw this. And the thing is that they export all these filt outside the shores in the name of woke, progressivism and rationality. This is the modus operandi of witchcraft.

Dyonne:


You really dodged a bullet.

Dyonne:




Both of you should shaddup.

atheistandproud:


Look for a white woman that love you and marry her inugo. Get citizenship and assure the future of your mixed race children.

Lemme leave this country fess. Thunder gbagbuo gi any useless Nigerian lady in my DM.

tevinsolt:
Power intoxicates.

Older Siblings abuse their power over younger siblings
Parents abuse their power over their kids
Husbands abuse their power over wives
Teachers abuse their power over students
Pastors/Imams/priests abuse their power over followers
Policemen/soldiers abuse their power over citizens
Government officials abuse their power over citizens

They all have 1 thing in common,
The belief in an arbitrarily bestowed right of superiority over another by a diety, nature or some written document.

Any attempt by the oppress to speak or fight back is rebellion against the aforementioned.

Korllami007:


The thing just de funny to me. How many village girl de do SSCE talk more of passing it?
No be the same village girls come cities de do housemaid? How many of them can even construct two sentences together in English?

Most girls going to USA from Nigeria to study nursing are well learned and experienced person. Some people that have in the system find it hard to pass the nursing, na one village girl that can't speak anything aside her dialect will pass it.

Why would someone gamble with more than $20,000 to $30,000 to sponsor a village girl that has no experience in health field, whereas there are more than hundred of thousands of girls in health field that have higher percentage of passing the course in Nigeria.

The man will leave the girls in the health field that are expericed in health care and spend thousands of dollars on girl that cannot even spell chloroquine. Abeg, what kind of stupidity is that?
Nursing in USA has become a joke to this people.

It seems like their own "village girl" has different meaning.

lefulefu:
if u like make money 50 times more than her as far as na US una dey she will take advantage of the system and collect all ur money and kids from u.