Gone were the days when children prostrate to greet their elders or see an old person carrying a load and offer to help.

I know I will be criticized for this but the truth is that this generation has failed in terms of parenting if we cannot raise a child that can tell his mate from his elder, honor, respect, genuine love, care, discipline, the importance of family ties and good morals in general has been replaced by the pursuit of more money, fame and selfishness.

We have left our children to the mercy of the teachers whose hands are already full, caregivers, maids and the internet since the advent of smart phones. This ought not to be.

Here is a list of tips I have compiled through research and personal experience that will help us correct the way we go about raising our kids and help you mold them into successful adults.

#1 Lead by Example
This is a crucial and the most effective way to get kids to do something or change a negative habit. For instance, my little girl who is 2 years and 8 months old now started greeting people we met on the street at 11 months old as she talked quite early. One phrase she learnt early in life was “good morning” she will tell everyone she met good morning no matter the time of day. This is so because she has listened to me and my mom who was helping me look after her at the time greet people every time. Now, she is known by people as a very respectful little girl and she sometimes receives gifts for that and the joy of this is that it will follow her into adulthood.

There are certain attitudes in life that cannot be taught, but can be lived and seen by all. These include: love, meekness humility, faith, patience, empathy, giving, the list is endless. To teach your child integrity for example, the best way is to be truthful at all times. Never ask your child to tell a friend who is knocking at the door that you are not at home when indeed you are, when you make your child a promise, keep it. Just imbibe these character and you will raise a replica now and as an adult.

#2 Do not be afraid to tell your Child “no”
You must not grant your child`s every wish. Sometimes no will keep them from harm`s way. This will also help your child know that life is not all about their wants and desires and help them cope with disappointments well into adulthood.

#3 Help your child make the right decisions
in life Most parents think that it is hard to communicate effectively with their children, it is not true because I have a 4-year-old son and I try to discuss with him even when he`s throwing tantrums. I first try to calm him down by hugging him tightly, sits him down and we discuss. Sometimes providing him with an alternative or just a promise of getting him another or a better one if he was crying for something like a toy and he says okay, phew! The truth is we don`t have the time to spare as it is time consuming and sacrificial to explain to our children the advantages and disadvantages of certain decisions and choices they make and how it will affect them now or later depending on what is involved.

#4 Teach your Kids the Benefits of Delayed Gratification
Last night as we were returning from prayers, we passed my neighbour`s flat whose son is my little boy`s friend and instead of climbing the stairs with us, my son charged towards their flat but I and his father stopped him immediately. He was about crying when his father explained to him that it was late and his friend was probably asleep by now and even if he was awake, they will not be allowed to play for long as it was already past bedtime We promised to take him to visit his friend the next day so they can both play for a longer time. He was very pleased and we all went home.

Delayed gratification is where you put off a reward for a greater benefit in the future. Teaching your child this is simply teaching them to make the right choices as they grow into adulthood as you will not always be there to make choices for them. Now is when you teach them all they need to know. Remember the bible admonishes us “train up a child in the way he should go and when he` s old, he will not depart from it”.

#5 Teach Them the Way of God Early
As a Christian parent, your approach towards raising godly children should go way beyond making sure everyone in the family goes to church on Sundays. There are intrinsic Christian values that you must introduce into the menu which are:

Setting up a family alter: in doing this, you should make it lively by encouraging everyone to partake in the program like leading the praise session,....continue reading herehttps://annomale.com/how-to-raise-kids-into-well-rounded-successful-adults/

Good advise.

Eboski:
Good advise.

Thank you very much Eboski.