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Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by seyi360(m): 10:15am On Aug 24, 2020
I have noticed the trend amongst most women divorcees.
Perhaps they don't want to draw attention and investigative questions from friends to themselves . For whatever reason, they are just reluctant to drop the name and revert to their father's name.
I thought dropping the man's name is part of the divorce package.
Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by mamaafrik(m): 10:27am On Aug 24, 2020
The stigma of "Eeeiyah ,so you and Jacob are no more together,sorry,it is well" is the main reason

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Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by seyi360(m): 10:33am On Aug 24, 2020
[quote author=mamaafrik post=93165206]The stigma of "Eeeiyah ,so you and Jacob are no more together,sorry,it is well" is the main reason[/quote

I thought as much
Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by seyi360(m): 10:34am On Aug 24, 2020
mamaafrik:
The stigma of "Eeeiyah ,so you and Jacob are no more together,sorry,it is well" is the main reason

Perhaps there could be some technical reasons, let's hear from lawyers.
Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by chii8(f): 10:50am On Aug 24, 2020
Or they might have acquired a property or investment with the name,or even have some certificate with their husband's name.Just like some women still bears their father's surname few years after marriage.

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Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by frozen70(f): 11:02pm On Aug 24, 2020
seyi360:
I have noticed the trend amongst most women divorcees.
Perhaps they don't want to draw attention and investigative questions from friends to themselves . For whatever reason, they are just reluctant to drop the name and revert to their father's name.
I thought dropping the man's name is part of the divorce package.

Real divorce from a higher court drops name

Customary divorce to me is like a separation that will lead to legal divorce and so may or may not continue to bear his name
Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by Nobody: 11:05pm On Aug 24, 2020
frozen70:


Real divorce from a higher court drops name

Customary divorce to me is like a separation that will lead to legal divorce and so may or may not continue to bear his name

You're right
Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by liberalchick(f): 11:33pm On Aug 24, 2020
frozen70:


Real divorce from a higher court drops name

Customary divorce to me is like a separation that will lead to legal divorce and so may or may not continue to bear his name
You don’t have to drop your ex-husband’s last name after any type of divorce. No man/court can compel the woman to drop the name, it’s her name and she can do what she wants with it.

OP, some keep it for..

a. They’ve had it for a while and are used to it.
b. Hassle of changing it.
c. Consistency, they want to have same last name with their kids.
d. Prestigious last name.
e. The woman has created a successful business with the name.
f. It’s a nice name.
The only Nigerian woman I can think of is Senator Ita-Giwa, even though she was married to Dele Giwa for 10 seconds.

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Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by merieam16(f): 11:51pm On Aug 24, 2020
Does it really matter, i dont tink dez any serious reason behind it cos 4 me it just a name.Wat happens to women dat didnt change der surname after gettin married

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Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by MMotimo: 2:26am On Aug 25, 2020
A common reason is to have the same last name as the kids of the union.

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Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by frozen70(f): 11:36am On Aug 25, 2020
liberalchick:

You don’t have to drop your ex-husband’s last name after any type of divorce. No man/court can compel the woman to drop the name, it’s her name and she can do what she wants with it.

OP, some keep it for..

a. They’ve had it for a while and are used to it.
b. Hassle of changing it.
c. Consistency, they want to have same last name with their kids.
d. Prestigious last name.
e. The woman has created a successful business with the name.
f. It’s a nice name.
The only Nigerian woman I can think of is Senator Ita-Giwa, even though she was married to Dele Giwa for 10 seconds.

The choice of dropping an ex name goes two ways

It's either both parties agrees she keeps the me after divorce

Or she drops the me for her to return to her maiden name and either remarry bear the new husband's name or retains her maiden name

There is nothing like she bears it before and there is no big deal about it
Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by liberalchick(f): 12:46pm On Aug 25, 2020
frozen70:


The choice of dropping an ex name goes two ways

It's either both parties agrees she keeps the me after divorce

Or she drops the me for her to return to her maiden name and either remarry bear the new husband's name or retains her maiden name

There is nothing like she bears it before and there is no big deal about it
That’s not how it works, there’s nothing like “both parties agree” the name is the woman’s and she can do with it whatever she wants. Keep it or not keep it. Nobody can force her not to use it, it’s literally a name.

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Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by Bluette(f): 3:40pm On Aug 25, 2020
Most of the time, the names are on official documents etc. So it's difficult to change or alter.
I have a family member, who is divorced and she told us she will change her name but that will be after her retirement.

Due to the facts that, some of her certificates and the bank she uses especially the one connected to her pay slip is on her husband's name. And that's not so easy to change.

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Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by mariahAngel: 4:32pm On Aug 25, 2020
liberalchick:

You don’t have to drop your ex-husband’s last name after any type of divorce. No man/court can compel the woman to drop the name, it’s her name and she can do what she wants with it.

OP, some keep it for..

a. They’ve had it for a while and are used to it.
b. Hassle of changing it.
c. Consistency, they want to have same last name with their kids.
d. Prestigious last name.
e. The woman has created a successful business with the name.
f. It’s a nice name.
The only Nigerian woman I can think of is Senator Ita-Giwa, even though she was married to Dele Giwa for 10 seconds.
grin grin grin

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Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by SURElee(f): 5:37pm On Aug 25, 2020
Is only in Nigeria a woman will be divorced and still be carrying the man's name like gala on their heads.

I remember asking a woman in my office why she was still bearing her hubby's name and she told me to ward off all those ogas in the office who once they know she is divorced will be on her neck. Some women say they keep the name because of their kids. We Sha know it is mainly because of societal stigmatization divorcees go through.
Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by KanwuliaExtra: 7:22pm On Aug 25, 2020
1. Too much paper work abeg. All credentials acquired during marriage will have to be changed? undecided The stress is too much.

2. To identify with the child’s/children’s last name.

3. To differentiate from single-single/never married.

4. Divorce does not mean you have to change your name. All about choice. kiss

I will take my time to change my name. No rush.

Tina Turner is no longer Anna Mae Bullock!
Shikena!

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Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by yourgistpartner: 7:36pm On Aug 25, 2020
frozen70:


Real divorce from a higher court drops name

Customary divorce to me is like a separation that will lead to legal divorce and so may or may not continue to bear his name

Fathia Balogun changed her name o, if I can remember well. I think her husband dragged her to court over the name issue sef. guess the lady can keep the name if the husband is not a petty being
Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by liberalchick(f): 8:33pm On Aug 25, 2020
mariahAngel:

grin grin grin

All of 10 months grin

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Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by liberalchick(f): 8:47pm On Aug 25, 2020
yourgistpartner:


Fathia Balogun changed her name o, if I can remember well. I think her husband dragged her to court over the name issue sef. guess the lady can keep the name if the husband is not a petty being
FALSE

She changed her name because she wanted to not because of a court order. Also, we know she changed it on her social media but officially we don’t know if she really did.

Celebrities say they take people to court all the time but they never do. No court will ever tell you to stop using your own name.

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Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by NoToPile: 9:27pm On Aug 25, 2020
Changing of name is so stressfull in naija ooo


Just try changing name on BVN, international passport, NIMC and you will understand why some people don't even bother .

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Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by pocohantas(f): 9:35pm On Aug 25, 2020
They shouldn’t change it. Let him cry and wail. After all, if she doesn’t drop her father’s name, he will come online to create thread and bride-price-pipu will not allow us hear word.

Hold the name, make e cry well well.

I like Senator Ita Giwa for that. grin

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Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by bukatyne(f): 9:58pm On Aug 25, 2020
1. Change of name is soooooo stressful
2. Some women want to bear same name with their kids
3. Some women have built influence with his surname
4. His surname open doors

The husband is within his rights to demand his ex drops his surname though.
Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by crackhaus: 7:36am On Aug 26, 2020
Lol, if na so the man name dey sweet dem to use, they should have done more to make their marriages work na.

Maybe these women who don't change their surnames after a divorce are still full of regret, perhaps they miss being a Mrs. Somebody.
Being married must have meant a lot to them, yet dem still run comot from inside, women sef..

I mean if you really hated your husband that much and couldn't stand being married to him, that you then had to divorce him, shouldn't his name be irritating to you?
Shouldn't you be doing everything possible to drop it no matter the processes it takes?
An opportunist will always be an opportunist sha.

Do divorced women plan to keep using the ex-husband's surname even after they have remarried another man?
Shey dem no go change am las las?

It's like some of these women don't even have sense at all.

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Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by Oluchia(f): 3:19pm On Aug 26, 2020
crackhaus:
Lol, if na so the man name dey sweet dem to use, they should have done more to make their marriages work na.

Maybe these women who don't change their surnames after a divorce are still full of regret, perhaps they miss being a Mrs. Somebody.
Being married must have meant a lot to them, yet dem still run comot from inside, women sef..

I mean if you really hated your husband that much and couldn't stand being married to him, that you then had to divorce him, shouldn't his name be irritating to you?
Shouldn't you be doing everything possible to drop it no matter the processes it takes?
An opportunist will always be an opportunist sha.

Do divorced women plan to keep using the ex-husband's surname even after they have remarried another man?
Shey dem no go change am las las?

It's like some of these women don't even have sense at all.

Story!! What's in a name that you guys are so fixated on? I know someone whose surname is Taiye, got married to a man whose surname is also Taiye. So what is there to change if they divorce?? Abeg the major reason is the stress involved in changing names especially on documents.

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Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by Mindlog: 3:54pm On Aug 26, 2020
SURElee:
Is only in Nigeria a woman will be divorced and still be carrying the man's name like gala on their heads.

I remember asking a woman in my office why she was still bearing her hubby's name and she told me to ward off all those ogas in the office who once they know she is divorced will be on her neck. Some women say they keep the name because of their kids. We Sha know it is mainly because of societal stigmatization divorcees go through.

So Angela Merkel is also a Nigerian woman?

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Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by vhuqnl(m): 10:12am On Oct 26, 2020
KanwuliaExtra:
1. Too much paper work abeg. All credentials acquired during marriage will have to be changed? undecided The stress is too much.

2. To identify with the child’s/children’s last name.

3. To differentiate from single-single/never married.

4. Divorce does not mean you have to change your name. All about choice. kiss

I will take my time to change my name. No rush.

Tina Turner is no longer Anna Mae Bullock!
Shikena!
Nigerian women go abroad and divorce their husbands after becoming nurses. Edo woman, who not talk to your sisters to stop being wicked?
Re: Why Do Women Divorcees Still Bear Their Ex Husband's Name After Divorce by KanwuliaExtra: 11:24am On Oct 26, 2020
pocohantas:
They shouldn’t change it. Let him cry and wail. After all, if she doesn’t drop her father’s name, he will come online to create thread and bride-price-pipu will not allow us hear word.

Hold the name, make e cry well well.

I like Senator Ita Giwa for that. grin

cheesy grin cheesy grin cheesy grin


Cheers!

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