Your kids are always at logger heads with their step mother/father and this is threatening the peace in the family. Whose side will you be? Your kids or their step mother/father?

The person who is right.

Investigate.


You do not take sides in family, you investigate and settle scores.

rokiatu:

The person who is right.

Investigate.


You do not take sides in family, you investigate and settle scores.

why did u speak my mind?

There is nothing to investigate - they just bicker all the time.

In that case the step-mom/dad being older, should understand the sentiments of the kids and try to find a place in their heart instead of going down to their level and making a mountain out of a molehill . Side by side, the kids should be given a very strict warning to respect their dad/mom.

againstGEJ:

There is nothing to investigate - they just bicker all the time.

then both need to be told were they fit in your life and they should respect each other on that position and make it clear that no one is favoured among the two sides and kids should respect adults and adults should also give respect in return

Shame on any adult picking quarrels with kids!
An adult should be able to firmly correct a child and still live peacefully with them;that is what makes them adults and distinguishes them from the kids.The parents need to grasp restraint :u correct a child and leave the child to sulk for sometime then u still go ahead show the child love and live on like nothing happened.Don't start sulking cos your child is sulking,it wud only reduce whatever respect the kid had for u.example,u corrected a child at night,verbal correction,the next morning,the child wakes with a long face,tries to step out without as much as a word to you and adult/parent allows that or shrugs it off.who is the child now?lolz
@OP,i wont take side with any party.caution the kids and let the elder respect himself.

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The situation as it is, is already complicated. Taking sides therefore will only worsen matters. Assuming we are refering to step-mother here, the man, must make his kids & their step-mother believe he loves them all. He should tell his kids to respect their step-mother always. He should also appeal to their step-mother to be patient with them. If there is anything the step-mother is not doing right, the man should discuss that with her in the privacy of their room & correct her nicely. He has to handle things maturedly in order not to offend either party.