Nairaland people.


I have been married for a year past , I dated my wife for good 4 years without sex.


After our wedding, she was still refusing sex, anytime we tried, she will be closing up her pelvic. Tightening it up, we seek counsel from her pastor, her parents, everyone had meddled but all still remain the same. We went route of medicals, I spent so much on examination and surgery. After all this, all things is still same. I thought she was not sexually active or doesn't love me.


But on going through her browser, I discovered she had been watching pornography movies, to be sincere, she told me like 2-3 times into this marriage to have masturbated. I can't get my destiny affected if I venture into adultery. I don't want my generation habits to catch up with me.


Jesus only prescribed adultery as the only ground for divorce in Christian homes.

Do you think masturbation is adultery and it's a ground for me to send her packing?. Do I have any fault in this?. I am tired


Mod, please don't push to front page to avoid rodents. So sorry for my choice of words. Thanks

Hehehehe I laugh you in spanish..
Guess you're the type that GO TO THE PROMISE LAND WITHOUT pre-intimacy ..

She hasn't Gotten that vibe from you that will make her open up to u freely...

You have to explore her since you now know she likes being Touched....

She needs your touch not you Di,*k...

Make her feel you... Secondly she didn't commit any sin... You're the sinner here

MajesticKris:
Hehehehe I laugh you in spanish..
Guess you're the type that GO TO THE PROMISE LAND WITHOUT pre-intimacy ..

She hasn't Gotten that vibe from you that will make her open up to u freely...

You have to explore her since you now know she likes being Touched....

She needs your touch not you Di,*k...

Make her feel you... Secondly she didn't commit any sin... You're the sinner here

Thanks for your feedback. I have done all this. She finds me giving her BJ irritating. She can't use her finger to touch vaginal herself. I don't think there's anywhere I haven't touched.

Righteousness89:
I Don't Think so..

What She Needs is Prayers, Deliverance and Godly Counseling

I told her pastor this, he said no, . The pastor is a regional overseer of leading deliverance ministry in this country.

Righteousness89:


What does he mean by No!

He said it's a physical thing, not spiritual, though I didn't tell the pastor that she's masturbating cos I was not taking it serious until last week that I saw it on her phone.

Dilemma24:




Thanks for your feedback. I have done all this. She finds me giving her BJ irritating. She can't use her finger to touch vaginal herself. I don't think there's anywhere I haven't touched.

Ah!

Who go settle this matter like this?

Your wife is cheating on you with her hands. The Ruth is that she loves her hands more than she loves you sexually.


Have you try finding out if she's bisexual?

Pornography isn't ordinary, it's involvement with demons.

Surely she needs deliverance as soon as possible.

She needs an Explorer

They're people destined for such jobs

If u know u knw

Dilemma24:




Thanks for your feedback. I have done all this. She finds me giving her BJ irritating. She can't use her finger to touch vaginal herself. I don't think there's anywhere I haven't touched.

Dilemma24:




Thanks for your feedback. I have done all this. She finds me giving her BJ irritating. She can't use her finger to touch vaginal herself. I don't think there's anywhere I haven't touched.

Oga you married a Log of wood

I don't think your romance with her is very lively, you need to position a woman's brain in a way she will even be wetting before you touch her, how often do you talk silly with her? , how often do you play like couples and best friend? , you think it's a sin to do that? no my brother, she's your wife and you are free to explore yourselves.

DaddyRochie1642:




Oga you married a Log of wood

Please explain better?.

Freestainworld:
I don't think your romance with her is very lively, you need to position a woman's brain in a way she will even be wetting before you touch her, how often do you talk silly with her? , how often do you play like couples and best friend? , you think it's a sin to do that? no my brother, she's your wife and you are free to explore yourselves.

Sir, you won't understand, we've crossed this line already. Trust me. I licked ice cream, suck breast, while talking dirty, she finds it annoying. Doctors couldn't examine her. She can't deep her fingers into her vaginal, claiming fears.



I left my first relationship cos I was getting addicted into sex. And when I met her, I decided to be free from sex till marriage.


The most annoying parts is that she's not seing it as a problem.

Religion won't solve this.

See them talking about demons and deliverance up there.

I feel for the girl because maybe all the pastors and GOs are already aware of this matter.

Please my question is that, do you think masturbation is enough ground to divorce.



I am not seeking any further solution again...

Dilemma24:
Please my question is that, do you think masturbation is enough ground to divorce.
I am not seeking any further solution again...

You've not been sexy enough my guy!

You've got a tongue in your mouth {Proverbs 5:19} you can talk to stimulate her organ without even touching her {Song of Solomon 7:1-13} you have the right to touch any part of her body, yet a common video game of some people far away is stealing your love!

Abeg divorce her and start looking for another.
Who told you you'll get something better?

She is suffering from vaginismus
Na serious psychological problems that will not allow you to have penetrative sex.

Consult psychologist for psychotherapy
You can consult me by sending your msg to my email for direction on how to consummate your marriage.

Dilemma24:




Sir, you won't understand, we've crossed this line already. Trust me. I licked ice cream, suck breast, while talking dirty, she finds it annoying. Doctors couldn't examine her. She can't deep her fingers into her vaginal, claiming fears.



I left my first relationship cos I was getting addicted into sex. And when I met her, I decided to be free from sex till marriage.


The most annoying parts is that she's not seing it as a problem.

You licked ice cream Maybe you didn't lick it very well.

On a serious note you bleeped up. That's the problem of over spirituality. Even if you didnt have sex before marriage. No kissing. No handling. Nothing. Things you are supposed to trash before marriage, you carry it into marriage.

Your wife is going through a trauma...It's either she was raped or something worst. Don't divorce yet. Be patient. If you can help her to get through the trauma, people like her later become the best sex mate.

DaddyRochie1642:



Oga you married a Log of wood

This is wicked

Freestainworld:
I don't think your romance with her is very lively, you need to position a woman's brain in a way she will even be wetting before you touch her, how often do you talk silly with her? , how often do you play like couples and best friend? , you think it's a sin to do that? no my brother, she's your wife and you are free to explore yourselves.

So it is the man's duty to always romance and initiate sex?
A good married woman should be willing to satisfy her husband if she truly love him.

Thanks all for your inputs...

Righteousness89:
I Don't Think so..

What She Needs is Prayers, Deliverance and Godly Counseling

Sir, I think mastubation is a sin. There is no basis to do it.

Righteousness89:
I Don't Think so..

What She Needs is Prayers, Deliverance and Godly Counseling

what she needs is more touch from her husband to loosen up before the husband enters the promise land. the husband have to learn more about pre-intimacy,

Dilemma24:
Nairaland people.


I have been married for a year past , I dated my wife for good 4 years without sex.


After our wedding, she was still refusing sex, anytime we tried, she will be closing up her pelvic. Tightening it up, we seek counsel from her pastor, her parents, everyone had meddled but all still remain the same. We went route of medicals, I spent so much on examination and surgery. After all this, all things is still same. I thought she was not sexually active or doesn't love me.


But on going through her browser, I discovered she had been watching pornography movies, to be sincere, she told me like 2-3 times into this marriage to have masturbated. I can't get my destiny affected if I venture into adultery. I don't want my generation habits to catch up with me.


Jesus only prescribed adultery as the only ground for divorce in Christian homes.

Do you think masturbation is adultery and it's a ground for me to send her packing?. Do I have any fault in this?. I am tired


Mod, please don't push to front page to avoid rodents. So sorry for my choice of words. Thanks

Masturbation and adultery does it have the same meaning? Stop asking useless questions

Thanks for your opinion everyone...

She might be asexual or something like dat Those people dat does like or want to have sex

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Dilemma24:

. . . She can't use her finger to touch vaginal herself . . .

, she told me like 2-3 times into this marriage to have masturbated

These 2 posts of yours don't agree . Which one is true?

Lastly I belive the counsel of Righteousness89 to take her for deliverance first and also the counsel of the guy who said you should make her feel you . Give her surprise gifts. Make sure there is not quarell . You breath is fresh . Its a simple matter .