Its normal for a Dad to exude much love and attention towards his children, but when he performs this task[b] to the detriment of his wife[/b], does she get jealous or is she happy? Air your views if they'll help.

i think the woman should be happy not jealous but it depends on the kind of woman she is some may get jealous tho.

clarissa:

i think the woman should be happy not jealous but it depends on the kind of woman she is some may get jealous tho.

me too

The answer to the question in your title is a capital NO!
If dad pays more attention to her children, mum will not get jealous. She will be happy.

The answer to the question in your post is an obvious YES.
If dad pays the children attention "to the detriment of his wife", of course she won't be happy.

Common sense says that you should pay more attention to your children, but not "to the detriment" of your wife.

She'll gate jealous when the kids starts talking too much about there dad. Even when he's not in the house.

- like the toy daddy bought for me
- when daddy took me to tantilizers
- daddy where my shoes faster
- u dont know the name of the biscuit daddy bought yesterday
- Bomboy!!! eat now. No I'm waiting for daddy

daddy this daddy that will piss her off

Detriment or no detriment. She Gets Jealous

Nigerian men don't pay enough attention to their children. You men are just looking for an excuse.

I read a letter from an American lady who complained that she felt slightly jealous because her baby preferred her husband's company over hers. I don't know for men, I highly doubt if men would feel threatened or be jealous if their infant son or daughter choosed their mom over them, but for women, I think it may be different.


Happy New Year.

Off course she gets jealous.

a man assumes the children are his but it is the woman that really knows who is the father of her children.

if she gets jealous then she needs to confess her sins

Men!!!! Dont forget to do DNAs

I my own case its the reverse, my dad gets jealous, cos my mum dedicates her time.

it would actually depend on the woman involved,but i think a man should be attentive to the kids but he should not over do things to the detriment of his wife.

ofcourse she'll be jealous.there's noway she wont be

Wel l there's nothing wrong if she gets jealous as long as she doesnt take
it to the extreme,and making a fight out of it.

she shouldnt be jealous its the love tht the man has for her tht he has extended to her kids she should be happy alot of women r praying for such love nd attention nd u av a hubby who cares for ur kids nd u r complaning tht woman's brain shuld be checked!

If the kids are few in number, the attention required will be proportionately less, which is good.
Kids require much more attention than they get, but spouses also do. One should not neglect any one.

I love watching my kids playing with their dad,they spend more time with me,so i encourage them to spend more time with him
why on earth would i be jealous!

I am his wife and they are our kids!unconditional love all round.

If the dad pays more attention, I don't see any big deal except if he refuses to give the mum enough attention anymore.

mama-gee:

What's there to be Jealous of? . . .Unless the woman is quite immature and a jealous person by nature.

because the woman feels like she was just used to bear children for the man.

which is common in 9ja

the wife and the child should have equal attention.

platinumnk:

the wife and the child should have equal attention.

Not possible

^^ how can u appreciate the mother of your children less?

the woman fades in the background when she has kids?

God forbid, i must ask the man I marry this, cux ill never step towards babies

not that im selfish but ive seen countless marriages disentergrate because of lack of affection towards the spouse.

Which makes me think that 9ja men view women as childbearers and nothing else.

How would u like it if a wife denied u sex because she was playing with the kids all the time, u wouldnt like it?


Jeeze- the more I see where marriage is an institution.

Women get jealous over anything and everything. Kids'd naturally have affection to any person that pays them attention more. Is it the husband's fault that the wife pays more attention to her clothes and outlook than the children?

^^ thats illogical- why would you go ahead and marry someone that values material things over family?

the more I learn, the more I back away from 9ja men at home, I think the ones abroad have better templates though they have very very rare ones in 9ja. . .

9ja's society views women as disposable childbearing portapottys for their pleasure.

We cook, we clean, we have babies, some of us has career.
Even after all that, we loose touch with a man that is supposed to be our companion for life?!

why bother even getting married?
Kids are important I get that, but to place one above the other?
One of my close pals at home lost his mom at a young age because his father was so intent on having children
she died giving birth to her 7th child.
I believe if he had actually paid attention to his wifes condition , she would be here now.


Is it because poverty so rampart in Nigeria that women are desperate to become wives nomatter the conditions?



If a man cannot love both the children and  the wife equally, then that is not a man.
If you think she is not worth it in the first place, why marry her?
Because of kids?
Plenty full in orphananges

Common sense says that you should pay more attention to your children, but not "to the detriment" of your wife.

agree.

Its normal for a Dad to exude much love and attention towards his children, but when he performs this task to the detriment of his wife, does she get jealous or is she happy? Air your views if they'll help.

Notice what the OP has bolded out, as it is the crux of the issue here. I am new to this thread, and i must say i am slightly puzzled by the naivety of most posters here on this subject. Nothing wrong with the love and attention shown by the father to his kids, rather, It is the cost of this "attention" to the other party that is the main issue.

This phenomenon of a spouse (man or woman), being jealous of the attention the other spouse gives to a child, or the attention they get from a child is very well known and quite normal.
Men tend to exhibit this trait more than women, as their place in the relationship is usually usurped by the new child. The mother usually devotes most of her attention to the baby, thereby depriving the husband of his usual allocation of attention. This can result in jealousy on the part of the husband. On the flip side, Women have been known to be jealous of the relationship some men have with their children.

Do note that Jealousy is a normal human emotion. It usually occurs when there are negative thoughts that arise from feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that a person values, such as a relationship, friendship, or love. The key is to communicate and reassure, and also make an attempt to redress the balance in the context of the circumstance.

Mothers are well known to be jealous of their children's relationships with their Nannies, or the kids Father. Children are well known to be jealous about another newborn in the family. Even dogs are well known to be jealous of newborns in the family. It is all about a change, or perceived change in the relationship, and the insecurity that stems from that.