Any culture that attaches importance to the perception of reality than its reality is in trouble. The value of money is infused into the DNA of the Igbo culture. It controls everything from how an individual is treated, to how much an individual is allowed to express.
In families, the siblings with the least money are expected to say less and become generally submissive to the orders of the richest. As with everything else, the chain of command comes from where the money is. The Igbo's adoration for money is in everything; it's in the songs, it’s in the titles, it’s in the value of perception.
Perception is the driving force behind residential infrastructure, marriage and religion. The size of your house in the village matters. The kind wife you marry matters, particularly her physical appearance. The church you attend matters if you can get a deacon title, super! Invariably, in a culture where perception is gold, most things intangible is swept under the carpet, just like the effects of the war was.
Igbos have always been risk-takers, industrious and curious, it’s what makes any Igbo thrive anywhere in the world. However, after the war, the Igbos learned bitterly that their industrial aggressiveness wasn’t appreciated by the other tribes and in extreme cases, will not be tolerated. The Igbos lost their wealth, lost lives and lost their dignity. They went inwards to rebuild, which culminated in decisions like mass exodus to different countries, intense practicality in choosing a spouse; the man’s role and woman’s role were clarified, and the woman had to bear children, especially male children. A woman’s worth was measured by how many male children she could bear. It was practical, many soldiers had died. The men had to prove themselves and regain family dignity by how much wealth they could build in the shortest time possible, again practical given that most had to start afresh.
Eventually, a culture was reinvented where, perception of reality, money, marriage and religion sat as the four pillars in a family. Unfortunately, generational wounds don’t heal themselves because time passed, they replicate. Healing can be quantified neither can it be reflected on a list of assets so, it's negligible.
Now, there are two generations of Igbos at war; we do not want to be like our parents, we do not want to have marriages like our parents', we do not want to be subjected to traditions we deem useless, we do not understand why it matters what everyone else thinks. On the other hand, we have parents who have experienced war, the effects of war, starting with nothing and were built by practically. The culture isn’t necessarily useless, it simply needs to evolve. We need to have conversations on why certain things are the way they are.
"That's how it is," isn't enough.

Round it up, the beginning of the text was fantastic, the concluding part wasn't so good.

Derajoyce:
Any culture that attaches importance to the perception of reality than its reality is in trouble. The value of money is infused into the DNA of the Igbo culture. It controls everything from how an individual is treated, to how much an individual is allowed to express.
In families, the siblings with the least money are expected to say less and become generally submissive to the orders of the richest. As with everything else, the chain of command comes from where the money is. The Igbo's adoration for money is in everything; it's in the songs, it’s in the titles, it’s in the value of perception.
Perception is the driving force behind residential infrastructure, marriage and religion. The size of your house in the village matters. The kind wife you marry matters, particularly her physical appearance. The church you attend matters if you can get a deacon title, super! Invariably, in a culture where perception is gold, most things intangible is swept under the carpet, just like the effects of the war was.
Igbos have always been risk-takers, industrious and curious, it’s what makes any Igbo thrive anywhere in the world. However, after the war, the Igbos learned bitterly that their industrial aggressiveness wasn’t appreciated by the other tribes and in extreme cases, will not be tolerated. The Igbos lost their wealth, lost lives and lost their dignity. They went inwards to rebuild, which culminated in decisions like mass exodus to different countries, intense practicality in choosing a spouse; the man’s role and woman’s role were clarified, and the woman had to bear children, especially male children. A woman’s worth was measured by how many male children she could bear. It was practical, many soldiers had died. The men had to prove themselves and regain family dignity by how much wealth they could build in the shortest time possible, again practical given that most had to start afresh.
Eventually, a culture was reinvented where, perception of reality, money, marriage and religion sat as the four pillars in a family. Unfortunately, generational wounds don’t heal themselves because time passed, they replicate. Healing can be quantified neither can it be reflected on a list of assets so, it's negligible.
Now, there are two generations of Igbos at war; we do not want to be like our parents, we do not want to have marriages like our parents', we do not want to be subjected to traditions we deem useless, we do not understand why it matters what everyone else thinks. On the other hand, we have parents who have experienced war, the effects of war, starting with nothing and were built by practically. The culture isn’t necessarily useless, it simply needs to evolve. We need to have conversations on why certain things are the way they are.
"That's how it is," isn't enough.

What type of wee do you take??

Its is well

some people need to be in chains

Biggest idiot I have ever seen.