zangaozanga:
There is an entitlement culture in Nigeria, everyone thinks you owed them something

CsRockefeller:
Welcome to the club.

People just keep asking you for money from right, left and centre. Some don't even bother to say thank you after you send it.

A female family friend sent me a message last week after a very long hiatus that I shouldn't forget her birthday coming soon, I just smiled and said I've heard.

Once you start giving them they begin to see you as a mumu. My giving bundle for the year has exhausted, make everyone go find work.

lekki1444:


ahhh so you think its because they see those who give as mumu ? hmm thats a different angle

CsRockefeller:


Yes nau, after d first giving they begin to ask you anything to solve whatever issue they have. They can ask you at odd times if the month without recourse to your financial situation.

In my own case, because I have a big heart they decided to abuse it, so I've changed, I just hear them out and go my way.

How can you ask me for feeding money, ask me for recharge money, ask me for birthday money, ask me to take you out, because you are who?

It's because I've not attached myself to a woman or have a child, that's why everyone thinks they can deep into my pocket. Funny enough, I don't even earn so well.

narrowpathy:
It's a bad habit I noticed too. I love giving but past experiences has discouraged me. These days if I want to give it will be anonymous. The receiver won't know who gave.

As for those who I've already entered their "trap", I start complaining about life's issues. Especially the financial part. Lol. I complain so much as if to make them dip their hands into their pockets to help me. Hehehe. They usually avoid me after that

lekki1444:
Yeah I plan to use this your method. although to be honest with you i dont even want to get that familiar with them to where i start telling my business but its a good idea that will work with say relatives etc but with gatemen i dont even get close to them like that.

narrowpathy:


Lol. I use that method for colleagues, friends and relatives.

As for your gatemen, always give the lowest denomination possible or food items. Always be ready with N100, N200 or even N50. That will make you an unattractive prey. When in a good mood buy them bread. If you want to help their life with big money be as anonymous as possible

generationz:
They turn you into arm because you don't set boundaries.

I can't give whatever I'm not comfortable with and I can't share my meals when I'm just a tiny bit hungry except you are dying of hunger yourself. I out myself first always and people still thank me profusely when i help them because they never esperreted it.

I don't have many friends so I don't feel the burden to spend money to keep friends.

lekki1444:
AHHHH THANK YOU THATS THE SECRET. BREAK A BUNCH OF 50 NAIRAS I LOVE IT BRO. JUST HAND OUT 50 NAIRA NOTES FROM NOW ON GENIUS

lekki1444:
You are very correct. I didnt set boundaries. I am about to correct that mistake now

CHoccolaTE:
Very real entitlement mentality is in many Nigerians.

Some will keep increasing their demands the more you give them money, I don't understand how they reason.

I once had a colleague like that. Worst part is that they don't show gratitude sometimes, they think collecting your money is their right

lekki1444:
Alright so i am having this issue with several gatemen in my estate and the mstake i think i made was being generous to all of them when i just moved in. Its about 16 gatemen in this estate and i would give them 1000 each. I did it like 4 times for each of them. then COVID game and you know the money flow stopped as all man business done pafuka. Anyway I noticed that everytime i go past the gate now these guys are animatedly greeting me excessively hoping something will drop and the aggressive ones amongst them come up to the car and start passively demanding for money. One story, one time i drove pass on a weekend and the guy was just over the top in his greeting and just out of embarrassment I said i would settle him when i come back, and i did intend to but when i came back he was not there. I saw the guy 3 days later and he walked up to my car and demanded that i said i would give him money and why did i not give him ? this guy is acting like he worked in my pocket. These guys think I am ATM. and so now i understand why people dont give money at all. BECAUSE ONCE YOU START GIVING ? THERE IS NO ENDING TO IT. these people dont understand that just because you are nice onetime means its a one off. once you are nice they think this is an ATM avenue that has just opened up for them. even just greeting someone or asking for directions is an ATM opportunity for most. HOW DO YOU HANDLE THESE TYPES OF PEOPLE ?

Winneygirl:
Some people know no boundaries and will move from asking for 1k to asking for their childrens school fees. How now??
Is it because I am single, you assume I have zero responsibilities, so I should start solving yours?

CsRockefeller:


Yes nau, after d first giving they begin to ask you anything to solve whatever issue they have. They can ask you at odd times if the month without recourse to your financial situation.

In my own case, because I have a big heart they decided to abuse it, so I've changed, I just hear them out and go my way.

How can you ask me for feeding money, ask me for recharge money, ask me for birthday money, ask me to take you out, because you are who?

It's because I've not attached myself to a woman or have a child, that's why everyone thinks they can deep into my pocket. Funny enough, I don't even earn so well .

CHoccolaTE:
Very real entitlement mentality is in many Nigerians.

Some will keep increasing their demands the more you give them money, I don't understand how they reason.

I once had a colleague like that. Worst part is that they don't show gratitude sometimes, they think collecting your money is their right