supportnija:
Op, I apologise not because I am guilty , not because I am a coward not because I don't know my right , I apologise because I want peace, I apologise to show you my humility and love...........ABOVE ALL I ADVISE MEN & WOMEN WHO WHO HAVE NO YET MARRIED to study their supposing wife to be, any man who is always right is not a husband and any woman who is always right is not a wife, learn to tell each other I am sorry whenever you are wrong, it is not the soul responsibility of man or woman to be saying I am sorry If any is wrong learn to say I am sorry.

Zzor:
Men should learn and try to apologize first in most issues, they should learn to appreciate women

HarunaWest:

so even if the lady in question erred the man should always apologize ba?..
wawa

supportnija:
Op, I apologise not because I am guilty , not because I am a coward not because I don't know my right , I apologise because I want peace, I apologise to show you my humility and love...........ABOVE ALL I ADVISE MEN & WOMEN WHO WHO HAVE NO YET MARRIED to study their supposing wife to be, any man who is always right is not a husband and any woman who is always right is not a wife, learn to tell each other I am sorry whenever you are wrong, it is not the soul responsibility of man or woman to be saying I am sorry If any is wrong learn to say I am sorry.

Zzor:
You African men are so annoying its such a big stress dating you lots ewww

Zzor:
You African men are so annoying its such a big stress dating you lots ewww

Richy4:


I don't mean to quote you here but did because of the bold.. But don't u think it's save to dish out a realistic advice so that you don't put a lot of brothers and sisters into confusion..

Are you indirectly saying that assuming a Brother is working and the wife is a stay at home mum with one kid,.. The Bro came back from work and no food because the wife was very busy watching a programme she usually follow on TV..... Didn't pick the kid from school.. the man has to rush to his kid's school and pick him up.. The man should apologize to her because he wants peace?

On the other hand, Are you saying that it is Ok for a woman who discovered that her husband was cheating on her without protection, Got an apartment for the side chick and stay at out very late should go down on her knees and apologize to the man because he is the breadwinner of the home?.. and because she wants peace?

If as a man, your son/ daughter came back on a good day and narrated some of this stories... and how it has been happening constantly, and that he/ she has been apologizing for peace to reign, will you be happy and proud?

Yusufisraelj:



Get his context, the goal is to see through a situation that will lead to both parties holding onto their ego, and silently the issue will degenerate into not talking, two people living under a roof but no love, no communication, no respect until they find solace outside and infidelity begins and before you know the marriage is history.

The context you are bringing has to do with fundamental character problems not offenses in a home where the two are locked on each other.

Secondly the way a child should handle wrong confrontation is different from the way you are painting it, for a child it has to do with a situation being right or wrong and advising them to avoid fights. It's a different ball game than in a marriage setting.

Even more importantly no one in a relationship should be a door mat, one must have his or her do's and don't, and it should be clear to the other party.

Apologising first does not make anyone weak, being taken for granted does, it's different and should be dealt with appropriately. Apologising first means the union matters more than anything else, and sincerely it does.

@ Bold... You really got my attention there...Oh!!! So the context I presented cannot be classified as an offence but character problem because by so doing, no one was offended by it/ no offence was taken correct?...I got you buddy...I whole heartedly understand ...

Also, you mentioned something that I loved so much... you said and I quote "no one in a relationship should be a door mat, one must have his or her do's and don't, and it should be clear to the other party.".. After all is said and done, he/ she did those "don't..", And you as the spouse jumped in to apologize first because you don't want to appear weak in that relationship, Have u not made yourself a door mat? whatever happens to accepting responsibilities?

I thought that this nollywood movies I see on YouTube was a make believe.. Where a man/ woman will keep doing something to their spouse..to an extent of irritating the viewers and u see the spouse going to apologize.. when they have done practically nothing... Hmmm!!!

Anyways, Good luck with it.. I was not raised to be stupid and I will not start now.. Anyone that wronged me should apologize.. and If I wronged anyone, I will apologize.. That's how it works in my own book.. Everyone needs peace and we don't have to play the fool just to achieve that..
No one, no matter how you pretend to want peace like a spouse that plays over his/her intelligence... Those that pretends and are quick to apologies even when they did nothing wrong, I see them as a ticking timebomb.. when they explode, the spouse won't know what hits them... To be real is just the best option for me..

Zzor:
You African men are so annoying its such a big stress dating you lots ewww

Zzor:
Men should learn and try to apologize first in most issues, they should learn to appreciate women

Richy4:


@ Bold... You really got my attention there...Oh!!! So the context I presented cannot be classified as an offence but character problem because by so doing, no one was offended by it/ no offence was taken correct?...I got you buddy...I whole heartedly understand ...

Also, you mentioned something that I loved so much... you said and I quote "no one in a relationship should be a door mat, one must have his or her do's and don't, and it should be clear to the other party.".. After all is said and done, he/ she did those "don't..", And you as the spouse jumped in to apologize first because you don't want to appear weak in that relationship, Have u not made yourself a door mat? whatever happens to accepting responsibilities?

I thought that this nollywood movies I see on YouTube was a make believe.. Where a man/ woman will keep doing something to their spouse..to an extent of irritating the viewers and u see the spouse going to apologize.. when they have done practically nothing... Hmmm!!!

Anyways, Good luck with it.. I was not raised to be stupid and I will not start now.. Anyone that wronged me should apologize.. and If I wronged anyone, I will apologize.. That's how it works in my own book.. Everyone needs peace and we don't have to play the fool just to achieve that..
No one, no matter how you pretend to want peace like a spouse that plays over his/her intelligence... Those that pretends and are quick to apologies even when they did nothing wrong, I see them as a ticking timebomb.. when they explode, the spouse won't know what hits them... To be real is just the best option for me..

Zzor:
You African men are so annoying its such a big stress dating you lots ewww

RisenPhoenix1:
The wife must always apologise, if for nothing else other than bringing disharmony and stressful thoughts to the head of the family and disturbing his inner peace. She should know how to resolve conflict without openly opposing her oga at the top and provoking a fight.

That is the mark of a good woman, not the one who is ever ready to tie her wrapper firmly and pick up the yam pestle in defence of her opinion.

Richy4:


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Are you ready for what is coming to u on this thread within some minutes?

Zzor:
Men should learn and try to apologize first in most issues, they should learn to appreciate women