Like the saying says don't speak ill of the dead.
what if the deceased was actually a dead beat when he was alive?

I was at a funeral, (not a fun place to be) then the pastor started with a long sermon that will make even the dead bored. Well he got my attention when he started speaking of the deceased.
He spoke very nice of the man, how he was a good father (this man reigned curses on his children like 11 times a week), he also said the deceased was a responsible husband ( he literally comes home drunk, and he was indeed a broke stingy man except when he is in the beer parlor), the deceased is generous (only generous with the booze), a good Christian (he actually was a fan of teenage girls, he chases them like a cock on heat).

I was tempted to stand up and look through the coffin, if at all I was at the right funeral maybe the pastor did not know this folk so I thought. Then others came to give testimony of how kind and down to earth man he was. I was shock like someone living in aso Rock.
The hypocrisy was so much that I only waited for the burial food and drinks if not I would have left.

Do we speak good of the dead simply because we want to comfort the bereaved, or just look nice to say something nice about people? Or can't we not drop the hypocrisy and say everything good, bad and the ugly about the deceased after all that's still honoring the memory? Or we should just hold our peace and say nothing since we don't have any good thing to say?

Your guess is good as mine. Let me drop a funeral joke for you all.

in a funeral, the priest after the sermon asked the pew if there was anything nice to say about the deceased, everyone looked down staring at the lace of their shoes; the priest later said " common guys at least anything good about him even if it is a sentence" then a man at the back seat shouted "His brother was worse"

I have always also wondered even when it’s glaring some of them didn’t use their life time well or as pleased

you had to wait for the food before leaving? unbelievable

schoolboymatt:
you had to wait for the food before leaving?
unbelievable

Na so now, you no know say na burial rice sweet pass marriage rice?

It is a selfish act praising one only when the fellow will no longer benefits from those praises being a dead person already.

Pity and fear.

There is a saying that whenever you say anything bad concerning the dead, the dark forces who are custodians if the person's soul will visit you and harvest your soul. So people don't want the wrath of the dark forces to fall upon them that's why the all speak good about the dead regardless of how bad he/she was during his/her lifetime.

I disagree with your write up OP!

People will keep on saying good things about late president Y'adua than the current one when he pass on.

Theirs this Baba soldier he built house around my family house back then. He act as if he's God as in if your ball enter him compound, forget that ball for life.

When the man died, everybody around the neighbourhood's condemned the man and abuse his death including his wife

Because It's human nature to take things for granted when they're present and value them when they're gone.

Hypocrisy

Because an average human is a hypocrite even to a dead person....

Nah eh! No qualms
This is so unsophisticated

O.p do you want the deceased to slap them from the grave

Btw death brings about memories, especially lovely, funny and good memories
(Like when someone dies, you Will remember how he helped than how he/she fought you unless you guys are real enemies)

Hypocrisy ... that’s why

Same reason no one gives a fvvck when you’re sick but when you die they post emotional tribute on social media....

Don't speak I'll of the dead is a nice of saying "don't lie and don't say the truth either"

Because it's considered immoral to talk bad about the dead.

Deception sometimes. No matter what, do good while you're still alive.

Hypocrisy

It's a sign of respect.

ohoke �

If you ain't good, I won't say otherwise after you.

If you don't like it that way, then be a decedent and we will surely say good about you.

What were u expecting them to say?

This op.*I was shocked like someone living in Aso Rock,* hahahaha

In my village you can only show how the dead lived either right or wrong via drama. People know actually whether the priest is saying the truth or not.

We are all pretenders, if not we will be saying the truth but the family members want to create a good impression of the deceased




We need to be very careful, God is Watching the level of our lies

Do not speak ill of some dead people ..... not every dead person.

To the evil dead ones : we pray they die the second time again on their way to Hell Fire!

abeg i tire...

as Yoruba do say, we no dey count a a nine toe man leg in his presence. it's era of kissing ass....truth hurt to hear too

Nothing more but hypocrisy. When the dead was alive they hardly ever talked.

Not everyone.