those who say good things are maybe the one the man is good to, like those in the beer parlow...and the pastor might not know him

Simply a reflection of the hypocrisy a lot of people are expected to live with.
I have never for once believed in the lie of "not speaking ill of the dead".

Courtesy demands u respect the dead

Maybe cos of the fear of being haunted by them.

OP no one has ever stopped anyone from speaking bad about the deceased on his/her burial ceremony. These people have families before they passed on, and most burials I know are conducted by the family of the deceased.

So why blame them for speaking good about their father/mother/uncle/aunty/grandma/grandpa,boss/husband/wife, etc.

When next you are in a burial ceremony and the deceased lived a bad life, pick up courage and go grab the mic and say your mind.

I hope you understand!!

In the end, no one is good or bad. We are all organisms trying to survive in the best way possible. Some people go about this more aggressively (considered BAD) while some are laid back and seem not to want much (Considered GOOD). Why not make peace, when the one you can no longer criticize has lost their will power!! It is peace for us all when we bid farewell to the ones bound for the unknown.

Ghost1994:
I disagree with your write up OP!

People will keep on saying good things about late president Y'adua than the current one when he pass on.

Theirs this Baba soldier he built house around my family house back then. He act as if he's God as in if your ball enter him compound, forget that ball for life.

When the man died, everybody around the neighbourhood's condemned the man and abuse his death including his wife

There are instances where this your scenario played out, in fact there is one in which the whole village come out with drums to celebrate the death of a witch that has been terrorizing the village. But in all the burial I attended people normally say good praises about the dead person. In fact during the last burial I attended last month, the pastor even declared to us there in his sermon that the deceased is already in Heaven with God. I shock!!!

Just to respect the dead!

soundOsonic:
Like the saying says don't speak ill of the dead.
what if the deceased was actually a dead beat when he was alive?

I was at a funeral, (not a fun place to be) then the pastor started with a long sermon that will make even the dead bored. Well he got my attention when he started speaking of the deceased.
He spoke very nice of the man, how he was a good father (this man reigned curses on his children like 11 times a week), he also said the deceased was a responsible husband ( he literally comes home drunk, and he was indeed a broke stingy man except when he is in the beer parlor), the deceased is generous (only generous with the booze), a good Christian (he actually was a fan of teenage girls, he chases them like a cock on heat).

I was tempted to stand up and look through the coffin, if at all I was at the right funeral maybe the pastor did not know this folk so I thought. Then others came to give testimony of how kind and down to earth man he was. I was shock like someone living in aso Rock.
The hypocrisy was so much that I only waited for the burial food and drinks if not I would have left.

Do we speak good of the dead simply because we want to comfort the bereaved, or just look nice to say something nice about people? Or can't we not drop the hypocrisy and say everything good, bad and the ugly about the deceased after all that's still honoring the memory? Or we should just hold our peace and say nothing since we don't have any good thing to say?

Your guess is good as mine. Let me drop a funeral joke for you all.

in a funeral, the priest after the sermon asked the pew if there was anything nice to say about the deceased, everyone looked down staring at the lace of their shoes; the priest later said " common guys at least anything good about him even if it is a sentence
" then a man at the back seat shouted "His brother was worse"

Do you know what people will say about you when you are gone?

You better talk well about who is gone now, so we can do same for you. Nobody is 100% perfect in this world. There must be something I'll/bad about you too but we really won't care about that when you are gone. Your Juju will not work on the livings when you are gone, that's why we just say a bit of hypocritic lie for you when you are frozen.

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CaptainFM1:


Do you know what people will say about you when you are gone?

You better talk well about who is gone now, so we can do same for you. Nobody is 100% perfect in this world. There must be something I'll/bad about you too but we really won't care about that when you are gone. Your Juju will not work on the livings when you are gone, that's why we just say a bit of hypocritic lie for you when you are frozen.

You are a funny guy. I shouldn't be worried why? Because I am not a bad person. I am good to people. It is only bad people that should be worried.
If I die tomorrow, people will say good things about me, I will be the guy that always smile. I won't be worried about any hypocritical lies because I have done my part as a human

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The life is just some just the way a person dies now and you will start hearing nor be that person suppose die he/she is just so good. Mean while wen the person still has breath you nor go here remarks like that oooh! In Nigeria ppl are more appreciated wen dey are gone than alive which is bad.

soundOsonic:
Like the saying says don't speak ill of the dead.
what if the deceased was actually a dead beat when he was alive?

I was at a funeral, (not a fun place to be) then the pastor started with a long sermon that will make even the dead bored. Well he got my attention when he started speaking of the deceased.
He spoke very nice of the man, how he was a good father (this man reigned curses on his children like 11 times a week), he also said the deceased was a responsible husband ( he literally comes home drunk, and he was indeed a broke stingy man except when he is in the beer parlor), the deceased is generous (only generous with the booze), a good Christian (he actually was a fan of teenage girls, he chases them like a cock on heat).

I was tempted to stand up and look through the coffin, if at all I was at the right funeral maybe the pastor did not know this folk so I thought. Then others came to give testimony of how kind and down to earth man he was. I was shock like someone living in aso Rock.
The hypocrisy was so much that I only waited for the burial food and drinks if not I would have left.

Do we speak good of the dead simply because we want to comfort the bereaved, or just look nice to say something nice about people? Or can't we not drop the hypocrisy and say everything good, bad and the ugly about the deceased after all that's still honoring the memory? Or we should just hold our peace and say nothing since we don't have any good thing to say?

Your guess is good as mine. Let me drop a funeral joke for you all.

in a funeral, the priest after the sermon asked the pew if there was anything nice to say about the deceased, everyone looked down staring at the lace of their shoes; the priest later said " common guys at least anything good about him even if it is a sentence" then a man at the back seat shouted "His brother was worse"

You said he was a drunkard? Most drunks are very nice people. They have their obvious flaws but they are generally nice and dont take things hard on people and themselves. The pastor was probably right.

soundOsonic:
Like the saying says don't speak ill of the dead.
what if the deceased was actually a dead beat when he was alive?

I was at a funeral, (not a fun place to be) then the pastor started with a long sermon that will make even the dead bored. Well he got my attention when he started speaking of the deceased.
He spoke very nice of the man, how he was a good father (this man reigned curses on his children like 11 times a week), he also said the deceased was a responsible husband ( he literally comes home drunk, and he was indeed a broke stingy man except when he is in the beer parlor), the deceased is generous (only generous with the booze), a good Christian (he actually was a fan of teenage girls, he chases them like a cock on heat).

I was tempted to stand up and look through the coffin, if at all I was at the right funeral maybe the pastor did not know this folk so I thought. Then others came to give testimony of how kind and down to earth man he was. I was shock like someone living in aso Rock.
The hypocrisy was so much that I only waited for the burial food and drinks if not I would have left.

Do we speak good of the dead simply because we want to comfort the bereaved, or just look nice to say something nice about people? Or can't we not drop the hypocrisy and say everything good, bad and the ugly about the deceased after all that's still honoring the memory? Or we should just hold our peace and say nothing since we don't have any good thing to say?

Your guess is good as mine. Let me drop a funeral joke for you all.

in a funeral, the priest after the sermon asked the pew if there was anything nice to say about the deceased, everyone looked down staring at the lace of their shoes; the priest later said " common guys at least anything good about him even if it is a sentence" then a man at the back seat shouted "His brother was worse"

not all the time just that most people are fearful or pretenders.
Dan Penne went to burial and finish the dead woman after which the grandchildren of the dead woman ran to Dan and ask for his number
why dan ask the three said he is the only one that described their grandmother well. He gave themhis number

You didn't get the message

Ghost1994:
I disagree with your write up OP!

People will keep on saying good things about late president Y'adua than the current one when he pass on.

Theirs this Baba soldier he built house around my family house back then. He act as if he's God as in if your ball enter him compound, forget that ball for life.

When the man died, everybody around the neighbourhood's condemned the man and abuse his death including his wife

soundOsonic:
Like the saying says don't speak ill of the dead.
what if the deceased was actually a dead beat when he was alive?

I was at a funeral, (not a fun place to be) then the pastor started with a long sermon that will make even the dead bored. Well he got my attention when he started speaking of the deceased.
He spoke very nice of the man, how he was a good father (this man reigned curses on his children like 11 times a week), he also said the deceased was a responsible husband ( he literally comes home drunk, and he was indeed a broke stingy man except when he is in the beer parlor), the deceased is generous (only generous with the booze), a good Christian (he actually was a fan of teenage girls, he chases them like a cock on heat).

I was tempted to stand up and look through the coffin, if at all I was at the right funeral maybe the pastor did not know this folk so I thought. Then others came to give testimony of how kind and down to earth man he was. I was shock like someone living in aso Rock.
The hypocrisy was so much that I only waited for the burial food and drinks if not I would have left.

Do we speak good of the dead simply because we want to comfort the bereaved, or just look nice to say something nice about people? Or can't we not drop the hypocrisy and say everything good, bad and the ugly about the deceased after all that's still honoring the memory? Or we should just hold our peace and say nothing since we don't have any good thing to say?

Your guess is good as mine. Let me drop a funeral joke for you all.

in a funeral, the priest after the sermon asked the pew if there was anything nice to say about the deceased, everyone looked down staring at the lace of their shoes; the priest later said " common guys at least anything good about him even if it is a sentence" then a man at the back seat shouted "His brother was worse"

Because DEAD MEN tell no tales, and it's bad to speak ILL of the DEAD, to prevent stories that touch

generally speaking, human are nice to the dead, knowing that whatever they do for them is for the last

meanwhile I've been to a funeral in a village called umugo in ngwa, abia state, where a pastor was singing praises of the dead on the funeral day.
everybody were murmuring because the deceased was a known evil man who allegedly died of implications in swearing on an oracle



it got to a point a certain man stood up and snatched the mic from the pastor when he couldn't bear it any more because the deceased was sleeping with his wife and threatened to kill him if he did pim

he collected the mic and told everybody how the dead man was an evil man, the crowd was cheering him up

codinight:
In the end, no one is good or bad. We are all organisms trying to survive in the best way possible. Some people go about this more aggressively (considered BAD) while some are laid back and seem not to want much (Considered GOOD). Why not make peace, when the one you can no longer criticize has lost their will power!! It is peace for us all when we bid farewell to the ones bound for the unknown.

,.

Is shekau a good person?

OP ask them again

If someone you don't like dies, keep the same energy.

Don't show any fake love when they're gone, that's hypocrisy.

Do Nigerians back home say good reports about Abacha?

soundOsonic:
Like the saying says don't speak ill of the dead.
what if the deceased was actually a dead beat when he was alive?

I was at a funeral, (not a fun place to be) then the pastor started with a long sermon that will make even the dead bored. Well he got my attention when he started speaking of the deceased.
He spoke very nice of the man, how he was a good father (this man reigned curses on his children like 11 times a week), he also said the deceased was a responsible husband ( he literally comes home drunk, and he was indeed a broke stingy man except when he is in the beer parlor), the deceased is generous (only generous with the booze), a good Christian (he actually was a fan of teenage girls, he chases them like a cock on heat).

I was tempted to stand up and look through the coffin, if at all I was at the right funeral maybe the pastor did not know this folk so I thought. Then others came to give testimony of how kind and down to earth man he was. I was shock like someone living in aso Rock.
The hypocrisy was so much that I only waited for the burial food and drinks if not I would have left.

Do we speak good of the dead simply because we want to comfort the bereaved, or just look nice to say something nice about people? Or can't we not drop the hypocrisy and say everything good, bad and the ugly about the deceased after all that's still honoring the memory? Or we should just hold our peace and say nothing since we don't have any good thing to say?

Your guess is good as mine. Let me drop a funeral joke for you all.

in a funeral, the priest after the sermon asked the pew if there was anything nice to say about the deceased, everyone looked down staring at the lace of their shoes; the priest later said " common guys at least anything good about him even if it is a sentence" then a man at the back seat shouted "His brother was worse"

you don decease before ni?
wait when you decease, you go know why...

na joke i dey.

To make the people the deceased left behind to think you are nice human being. Lol.

Righteousness2:
As Humans, We Naturally Love to Deceive ourselves..

It's like when you hear or see things like " May GOD Forgive the Dead"

There is no Prayer that could be used to change or switch the Eternal Destination of the Dead.

For Me, Burial ceremonies should be used to Minister to the Living in the need for Preparation for Eternity, because one day the Living will Depart.

The song writer said it's better to go to house of mourning than a place of enjoyment, that's where we will understand the end of all men

Ghost1994:
I disagree with your write up OP!

People will keep on saying good things about late president Y'adua than the current one when he pass on.

Theirs this Baba soldier he built house around my family house back then. He act as if he's God as in if your ball enter him compound, forget that ball for life.

When the man died, everybody around the neighbourhood's condemned the man and abuse his death including his wife

Big time!
OP just call hitler,abacha,mobutu or aaron hernandez and see if people go praise them

I don't even know. My own is the food, just come, take, close

funny bt true,even if d person was a witch dey will say he or she ws a christian,it bcs dey are afraid of d death mayb if dey say bad things about d disease he or she will hunt dere life dat why.me je3t loling at d op stroy or description dis very truth u4 Omg

I wonder oo