Coolis:
Is it possible that there is AN INSECURE, FEARFUL, INSENSITIVE, STUPID AND FOOLISH WASTER out there other than me? There should be a day set aside by UN to celebrate the MOST STUPID PEOPLE OF THE DECADE. I will be the winner, if there is a such thing as the award for THE MOST STUPID WASTER OF THE YEAR? I will win such award and not just once buy six times in a row or consecutively.
I have ruled out suicide. I 've learned that it is not the way out.
But In this second phase of my sojourn upon the surface of the earth, except a miracle happens, except God decides to be merciful to me again, I cannot see any ray of light at the tunnel. Nothing is clear to me about the future. I am now living in the fear of the unknown. Almost 41, no girlfriend/wife, no child, no real work, no business. If the saying that a fool at 40 is a fool forever is true, then I am doomed already.
I envisaged a better future when I was in school. Leaving NYSC in the year 2012, I swung into action immediately, created a job for myself by venturing into agriculture (rearing/producing quail eggs) knowing fully well the pathetic unemployment situation In the country. I raised a little above half a million, added some more, bought a Toyota Camry and started a cab business in Abuja. God was really Blessing the work of my hands. I lacked understanding and couple with what I 've read online about marrying when one is not financially stable, I decided against marrying as a taxi driver. In 2016-2017, in my quest for more money in order to live the dream life, l heard about MMM, without knowledge, l ventured into the scheme and lost almost all my savings in the period. I recovered from MMM and with my cab business, early in 2018, a man introduced me to crypto currency and assured me that he would refund my money if things turned out like mmm so I invested 200k in crypto currency through him. Till tomorrow, nothing was heard about the company and the money gone. Toward the end of 2018, a good friend introduced SWISS GOLDEN Networking business to me. I thought I had found the right business to diversify my investment so I invested about 800k, not up to three months of the investment, the company PZ I invested through in Abuja closed shop. No retreat no surrender, from 2019-2020, they call the name of the company IML, forex trading company that claim to provide reliable signals to her customers. Without adequate knowledge, l put in about a million and lost everything.
Left with only the Toyota Camry, then coroner came. During the severe covid lockdown in 2020, my elder brother lured me to attend a business seminar, Sarui/Chymall is the name of the company. After the seminar, he advised me to sell the car and put the money in the online company since the lockdown has affected all offline businesses negatively. Like someone who's been remoted I heeded his advice, sold the only source of my income and put the money in the company. As you are reading this, for close to four months now, I haven't received up to 11k from this company.

From the foregoing, please tell me, is there a waster out there like me? I lost everything. Where do I begin from at almost 41?
My advice to the young men out there, l hope there's a lesson or two to learn from my wasteful life so far. Please, do away with the notion that it is not advisable to get married when one is not financially stable. While this may work for some, it won't work for others. I was afraid of marrying without making a lot of money first and lost everything in the end. I don't wish my enemy the zero level I found myself today. Nairaland Mods, if you can push it to front page. Someone out there might learn from my wasteful life so far. Thanks

daddytime:
Count your lessons and trudge on.

harmargedon:
you just have to pickup where you left. start from the beginning like you did initially. And you'll rise up again.

Coolis:

Thank you! But where is the energy, drive and passion of the last seven to eight years ago again?

Jeon:


sorry about that. but suicide isn't the option, when there's life there's hope.

you just learnt a lesson in life. and with this lesson you can surely stand on the right path to build your dream life again.. it's not too late.

aroundtheearth:
It sounds like you've learned from your bad decisions, which means you're on the road to being and doing better.
One tip: Before you make any major decision next time, especially one involving money, pray and seek God's face about it.
Forgive yourself and let go of those regrets, then figure out how you want to forge ahead: want to do next, how to proceed.

Thank you a lot. I can say I'm a good Christian and that I have a good relationship with God to some extent. God has been good to me, when it comes to INVESTMENT, I don't ask HIM for direction before taking decision. If He gives me another opportunity again, I will seek his face before taking any step in the future. I pray He revive and strengthen me again because I'm too weak to start the hustle all over again

johnpaschal:
For gold to be pure up to 99.99% it has to pass through fire .....there's hope and one last chance to rise and soar ......with your car gone which served as a limitation to your rising because you were getting to comfortable in your seat

Here's what you need gather every dime you have currently now before you totally loose out and make a journey to Aba market I dunno the state it is in but you do

Buy crayfish lots of it from Dem ....it's cheaper there and use you influence and customer base you've gathered over the years and sell ....start from there ,,from then on venture into buying of palm oil , coconut oil , female ear rings and chains in bulk

And take them to Abuja and sell .....watch how you'd make more than you could have ever imagined .....it's what I see for you

Business would flourish in your hands .....please hurry

Gerrard59:
Not once, twice or thrice but five times you invested in what you didn't understand. How does that correspond to "not advisable to get married when one is not financially stable"?

Do you know the enormity of being a father and husband with no source of income? Do you know that you're financially better than married men in your condition? Do you know what it means to have children in Nigeria's present condition without a source of income? As a man, you can marry anytime provided you're medically fit and most importantly, financially capable. Ned Nwoko, Oshiomole, Razak Okoya, Trump, president of the Nigerian stock exchange etc. These are men who married (new or first wife) at mature ages (way older than your present age) and bore children. The common factor is they are financially capable.

You should do your best to become financially capable and most importantly, learn a thing or two about simple economics. That's my take from your post - the average Nigerian should learn more about economics and why financial numbers should be respected no matter what.

The5DME:
Thunder fire you op.

The5DME:
Thunder fire you op.

cchub:
when there's life, there's still hope