Saw this Somewhere.
My Wife’s Salary Was a Mystery Until I discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth
In 2016 she told me her salary was GHC950. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked
about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only Ghc350 to my old salary.
Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for
utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills.
When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show
them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in.
Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can
add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”
I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest.
She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t
have much in my account.
One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had
been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told
her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when
something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going
through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. GHC4,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?
I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt
played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How
much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk
immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.
All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an
invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the
only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her
family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her
father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father
was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her
father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”
She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother
lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week,
her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for
herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being
a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her
name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her
name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.
The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good
opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to
me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building
on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all
that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all
that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”
We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The
phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I
told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife
has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true
or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the
various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her.
You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started
apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”
My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I
knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them.
You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re
my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”
Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father
called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t
have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think
straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the
mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you
both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”
I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to
think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask
for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that
doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I
have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on
those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”
I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what
you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car
she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car.
I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m
glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I
won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us
some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me
through her actions.

Oga. I hear say man pay rent for 5 years only for him to find out that the owner of the house was his wife.. nothing woman go do wey we never hear or see again..

Married folks always making marriage seem unattractive to single. Seem just dating without marriage is bliss, marriage is for the strong

Haaa...even Delilah no betray Samson reach this level

gonna be hard for that marriage to go back to the way things use to be.The man is matured and principled.The parents of the woman were complicit and behaved irresponsibly.even up to sanitary pad,gosh!. eventually, the woman will lose her marriage and her home.when trust is gone love flies thru the window.sad.

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Marriage and its various woes everyday. Some women are mean and selfish, but some are deputy devil.

I have been told marriage and love is all about self interest, and it's becoming visible to the blind, and audible to the deaf on a daily basis.

But that won't stop me from getting married oo

I’m heart broken take heart op and give yourself time to heal. Your marriage won’t break in Jesus Name. Thank God she’s willing to and already making things right. I apologise on her behalf.

It is well with you.

Please, forgive her. She has realised her marriage, if not for anything, for d sake of d kids, pardon her.

forgive her but things can't be the same ever again, chai I hate betrayer, is the only thing I can never truly forgive.....what? no no no

there's nothing I can't forget and forgive but, if u betray me... hmmmm, that means you have been calling me a fool all along for trusting u completely.

She made a mistake following wrong advice. Now it's dawned on her. They're already feeling the guilty conscience, but I'll suggest you don't let her go.
Please keep your marriage working.
Don't get too hard on her that she'll start seeking solace in the arms of another man.
You know what to do.
Just try and save your marriage now….

OP, this story left me aghast.. I'm lost for words, gosh I can't even begin to imagine how the man would be feeling

Wait and watch. Some really deluded folks would be in here soon, talking about how 'what his wife makes and does with HER money shouldn't be his concern'. To the man, you're on point so far. I dont think I would have done it any differently. Na man you be.