Don't even know where to start from- A girlfriend friend of mine have been disturbing me since she got pregnant last year. When she got pregnant for her bf, I told her to abort it if the man isn't a responsible person- But she said she wants to keep it cux they have been dating since 2012- they kept having sex till she gave birth- when she gave birth the guy Neva came to check on her and the baby- she kept on taking care of the baby till date through my help and some other people- As a man though I can't do such- I am not in Nigeria but I send at least 20k weekly to my babymama- the guy refused to help atall- now hes saying he want to collect the baby from her , else he won't help in anyway. He wants to collect a baby he haven't seen at all for 10months since she was born- really?? I need help on what to do to this guy- because this lady really helped while I was in school- any advice pls- location is Lagos

Your advice to abort a human being has put you on a low. Whatever mistakes a woman makes, never advice her to abort a child.
Back to the solution.
The woman has more rights to her child than the man since he has never taken care of the child. The courts can help her in such a case

"Location is lagos"....as if lagos babymama issues differs from other states.

the truth is that you can't do him anything cos if you do, even the girl friend friend of yours whose place you want to take will not be happy with you

Ogamysamo:
the truth is that you can't do him anything cos if you do, even the girl friend friend of yours whose place you want to take will not be happy with you

am not saying I want to do anything to him. She have been taken care of the baby even since she was pregnant- the guy in question is living well too. But saying he wants to baby else he won't help is what I am against- someone said she should use social welfare to take up the case. But I don't know anything about it

donbachi:
"Location is lagos"....as if lagos babymama issues differs from other states.

so after reading all what I wrote. Na that part your dumb brain see. FYI: I wrote the location to avoid someone from abuja or other far state to start disturbing themselves. Everyone gat prob.

She has been taking take of the baby for months now all alone why would she give up now, please let's her continue and to hell with the help the baby daddy is offering.
One more important question, are you tired of assisting her please let her know in time.
But thanks for your help all this while.

donbachi:
"Location is lagos"....as if lagos babymama issues differs from other states.

choi, you drink hot water ni? why you strike like that?

the reason he mentioned lagos might be to save the stress on all who is willing to assist of questioning location and himself not returning to attend such question.

fukNaija:
Don't even know where to start from- A girlfriend friend of mine have been disturbing me since she got pregnant last year. When she got pregnant for her bf, I told her to abort it if the man isn't a responsible person- But she said she wants to keep it cux they have been dating since 2012- they kept having sex till she gave birth- when she gave birth the guy Neva came to check on her and the baby- she kept on taking care of the baby till date through my help and some other people- As a man though I can't do such- I am not in Nigeria but I send at least 20k weekly to my babymama- the guy refused to help atall- now hes saying he want to collect the baby from her , else he won't help in anyway. He wants to collect a baby he haven't seen at all for 10months since she was born- really?? I need help on what to do to this guy- because this lady really helped while I was in school- any advice pls- location is Lagos

op things like this are painful, likewise I blame the lady for dating a guy that long without or knowing there isn't a future, making herself a sex object. though did is done only solution would do now.

for once advice her to be independent of the irresponsible thing she's being irresponsibly spreading her legs for.

she doesn't need the guy. if she is determined she will wither the storm. from your post it seems her seeking the guys attention for child support prompted the guys ego.

it the guy is willingly attempting the move, then she should approach the social welfare for protection and exposing the nuisance. even at that if she is serious about getting child support she go to social welfare department or court for redress.

SEGLIZ:

choi, you drink hot water ni? why you strike like that?

the reason he mentioned lagos might be to save the stress on all who is willing to assist of questioning location and himself not returning to attend such question.

op things like this are painful, likewise I blame the lady for dating a guy that long without or knowing there isn't a future, making herself a sex object. though did is done only solution would do now.

for once advice her to be independent of the irresponsible thing she's being irresponsibly spreading her legs for.

she doesn't need the guy. if she is determined she will wither the storm. from your post it seems her seeking the guys attention for child support prompted the guys ego.

it the guy is willingly attempting the move, then she should approach the social welfare for protection and exposing the nuisance. even at that if she is serious about getting child support she go to social welfare department or court for redress.

thanks my brother- shes living fine just that the guy is insisting he will collect the baby from her- that's where the problem is- if its to take care of the baby , that's no issue.

fukNaija:
thanks my brother- shes living fine just that the guy is insisting he will collect the baby from her- that's where the problem is- if its to take care of the baby , that's no issue.

you are welcome.

I don't want to believe this friend of yours is more of a sister than friends. I'm not digging close identity is necessary on forum like this.

even approaching the police is enough, just approach the ministry of justice at the state secretariat or any near by court.

a similar case I knew of in Abeokuta didn't get to court it end right there in the secretariat. the guy want to deprive the young lady of her son, this be a boy of one and half to two years.

we still have some functional part of our system.

SEGLIZ:

you are welcome.

I don't want to believe this friend of yours is more of a sister than friends. I'm not digging close identity is necessary on forum like this.

even approaching the police is enough, just approach the ministry of justice at the state secretariat or any near by court.

a similar case I knew of in Abeokuta didn't get to court it end right there in the secretariat. the guy want to deprive the young lady of her son, this be a boy of one and half to two years.

we still have some functional part of our system.

lol. If anyone should try that to my sister na die na. Btw some people turn to family in life through there actions. I know Abeokuta to be very helpful in this kind situation- we both schooled there, and have heard a lot of such and how the women got help. But what still bothers me is: how can a man live in Lagos and still refuses to go see his baby in that same Lagos for about 10months- Now asking the mother to give him the baby. Very crazy

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fukNaija:
am not saying I want to do anything to him. She have been taken care of the baby even since she was pregnant- the guy in question is living well too. But saying he wants to baby else he won't help is what I am against- someone said she should use social welfare to take up the case. But I don't know anything about it

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Pauldollars:
Your advice to abort a human being has put you on a low. Whatever mistakes a woman makes, never advice her to abort a child.
Back to the solution.
The woman has more rights to her child than the man since he has never taken care of the child. The courts can help her in such a case

make we hear word.. Nigerians always form holy online,swear u never abort b4 or if u dey same situation or give girl belle while still living with ur parents,wetin go come ur mind first..if u use condoms during sex then u have no right to judge anybody..semen wasn't created to be released into condoms and thrown away,it's for procreation..stop judging people, nobody holy pass..
Nb b4 una go start say I don abort tire because una Sabi talk anyhow to people especially wen una see f for d monikers,I be guy man with deek.

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