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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 2:19pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
Hathor5:Well said. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Klass99(f): 2:23pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Realhommie(m): 2:25pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
Thereddevil:Wisdom. |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Hathor5(f): 2:35pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
Klass99: You could as well open a new thread. It would be interesting. |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Klass99(f): 2:39pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 2:53pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
pansophist:If does not negate that it is name calling it’s all figure of speech how does a bitch act?.why the need to use a harsh narrative?.For an example an individual says if you are mad reply me does it not mean once a reply comes in the individual is mad?..I am not trying at all to narrow your interpretation and you have agency over what you say.I know this and will tell you for free that Marriage is a partnership and there is no low quality or high quality individual,I have been married for 12 years and enjoyed the journey so iv got experience. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Gerrard59(m): 3:49pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
Rozcol: I agree but those women shouldn't be yapping about feminism and associated theories. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Gerrard59(m): 4:03pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
Pecoleee345: OK sir. |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by bukatyne(f): 4:40pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
NoToPile: The men want the model below: Joint provider + absolved of domesticity + Sole ruler/ undisputed C-in-C. The above would make for the model wife. The women want Sole provider + joint domesticity (or paid) + joint rulership. Unfortunately in Nigeria, we believe: 1. He who pays the piper dictates the tune unless it is the woman 2. A man should solely dictate the tune check point one 'Nigerian' husbands and wives are a perfect fit with all their innuendos constantly trying to outmanoeuvre themselves. The day both parties come to the table with equity and clean hands, we will begin to see the light 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by bukatyne(f): 4:44pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
NoToPile: Lagos husbands The ones that would have and still not provide |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Bankowner: 5:58pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
AutoChick4U:Who’s the English lecturer now? |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by AutoChick4U(f): 6:06pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
Bankowner:So u went through my posts to prove a point shey? U b senior lecturer sha |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Bankowner: 6:13pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
AutoChick4U:Classic case of ‘if you live in a glass house, don’t throw stones’. As for senior lecturer, I am a professor. Cheers. |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Sanchez01: 6:54pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
Klass99:Honestly, I didn't bother going through this thread because of the ridiculous comments on the first page. This is my response to your questions: 1. I hardly get triggered or feel disrespected in a relationship but here are some things I take personal and consider to be disrespectful. a. Abuse of any kind: Heaven knows I won't give any lady a second chance. An abuser is an abuser and they can't change, whether male or female. I have been with someone who doesn't see anything wrong with verbally abusing people and interestingly, she never directed it at me for a day but I knew it was over the day I found out this dark side. We stayed a while longer but that was it. b. Yelling or shouting: I enjoy communication a lot and would rather the other person communicate meaningfully and pour out their heart in a 12—hour discussion rather than raise their voice at me. The moment that happens, I will not only put the person in their place, I could leave the house for them. I recall being with a temperamental person one time and she yelled during a mild argument. I just took one of my shuttle bags, picked some clothes and went to hotel to stay for 2 days. Unfortunately, I am unforgiving about these kind of things. The moment it happens once, I will continually judge and find it impossible to erase the event out of my head. c. Cheating: I consider cheating to be an act of 'see finish'. As with the first, I won't give any lady a second chance. I am of the opinion that cheating is a nature and people who indulge in it can't change. I ended two relationships the day I found out. Other than trust issues, I sincerely don't see how low someone could think of me so much so to lump and 'manage' me with other males (or females). 2. This is weird but I doubt kids can make me remain in a chaotic marriage. I won't cope or tag along in the name of kids and I won't have kids grow up in a home that could traumatise them tomorrow. I love the idea of a home and a peaceful family, just as most people but I will never wish anyone remain in a relationship or marriage particularly when they are being abused, violated and subjected to domestic violence or abuse. If it is not working, it isn't. If it is workable, then fine. If it isn't, let everyone go their separate ways, but not without first discussing how the children will be managed. 4 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Klass99(f): 7:22pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by AutoChick4U(f): 7:39pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
Bankowner:Good evening Sir. True words |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Sanchez01: 7:48pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
[quote author=Klass99 post=104257973][/quote] I didn't read all 26 pages of it either, but I don't blame the OP or judge him for ending his marriage. Toxic people can cause serious damage to one's psyche.Neh, I don't blame the OP at all. As a matter of fact, I would have acted exactly the way he did, most likely earlier. The problem is with most of the males on the front page who see threads as this as an opportunity to turn the whole thing into a gender war. It is a no go area for me and I find it exhausting. This had me Lol grin, did she call or try to reach you in the 2 days you were gone?Yeah, she tried or so she said. I don't have much friends, say two know friends and that's it. She got through to them but they couldn't help. The idea was to go away for as long as possible but I turned on my phone out of curiosity only to see tons of Glo missed call notifications which came in as text messages. I got texts from her and my friends as well and they influenced my going back because I had to return their calls. In situations like that, I find it very easy to leave the environment for a while rather than stay back, become tempted and get physical. Not me. LMAO, I admire your sense of self worth and self respect. Cheers! Well, thanks I have the same sentiments about thisSweet! As should everyone. Thank you Sanchez, I appreciate the feedback.You're welcome! 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 7:49pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
lordally: I was the one who posted that. I understand but from little experience, doctors are mostly well-behaving with good morals. and are always busy got no time for trivialities. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Gerrard59(m): 7:52pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
Klass99: I'm not married so I can't answer your questions accordingly. |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Liposure: 8:26pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
Klass99:Talking back at me while I'm talking is disrespect. Lying to me about yourself is disrespect. Shows you ain't real. Hiding things from me is anything but disrespect. Shows you don't trust me. It will take the grace of God to stay in that marriage. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by lordally(m): 8:55pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
BiggyB242: Then you haven't been fortunate to meet the bad ones then! |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 8:58pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
lordally: Because the bad ones are few. |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by lordally(m): 9:00pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
BiggyB242: Very big lie O! A woman doesn't need to be a doctor to be good! A good woman/Man is good irrespective of the profession. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Liposure: 9:07pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
bukatyne:Can we blame feminism and modern day sensibilities for all that is happening today? |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by NoToPile: 9:11pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
bukatyne: You know their style |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 9:27pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
lordally: lol, I never said a woman has to be a doctor to be good, I said most women in the medical profession especially doctors have good morals, no time for frivolities and their kids are usually brilliant. This statement is not always true, but is often true, 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by greatbrian(m): 10:20pm On Jul 30, 2021 |
VULCAN: OK Mr smart. Seen |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 12:18am On Jul 31, 2021 |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Klass99(f): 6:20am On Jul 31, 2021 |
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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Klass99(f): 6:29am On Jul 31, 2021 |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 6:41am On Jul 31, 2021 |
bukatyne: I couldn't agree more, what a balanced analysis. That's why being a "GOOD" or "NICE" guy/girl in relationship wouldn't help anyone, you have to be civil and be kind when it requires or take firm hard decision when it requires too. Most partners always want to take as much as they can while giving little to nothing in return. It seems to be a winner vs loser game. So there is usually conflict of interest in most relationships. If you discover that your partner is giving little or nothing in return, it's best to walk away. Same reason why i advocate that both men and women should Work and earn a living, take care of children, learn how to change diapers, bathe for the children and both should also know how to cook. The purpose of this is to make sure no one is looking down on the other's job and feeling they are just chilling. Each person would still retain their original roles but they must also participate in everything. Motherhood is hard, earning an honest decent living is also fvcking hard too. Both of them need to participate to appreciate the efforts they both put in. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Ishilove: 6:58am On Jul 31, 2021 |
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