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Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Nobody: 2:43am On Sep 03, 2021 |
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Re: She Needs Help From Rape by 7thLemonLOVER(f): 4:43am On Sep 03, 2021 |
NLHoodlum:what if she's an introvert, she may not have so much friends but I agree with you that a girl at 22 should have something doing and also be able to confront such situations with a shout except maybe she has been gaining something from it. Only God knows |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Kirchoffs: 7:10am On Sep 03, 2021 |
NLHoodlum:I can see why you have a useless moniker. For your info she attends NOUN university and they have no hostel accommodation and she does some catering by the side like all this small chops, cakes but since there is no one to sponsor her and open up a shop it's difficult to get customers. That's how you guys blame rape victims it's very wrong. |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Kirchoffs: 7:12am On Sep 03, 2021 |
7thLemonLOVER:Well you are right only God knows I hope to dig deep into the matter when I get to Lagos cos it's obvious that it's not a matter that can be talked over the phone |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Kirchoffs: 7:19am On Sep 03, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:Stand up for herself how?? If I may ask . Are you insinuating she fight off the man with blows and kick. You and I know it's almost impossible to do that |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Kirchoffs: 7:31am On Sep 03, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:Mr man go and siddown one place. You are not in Nigeria stop saying this abeg, rape of an adult processed in Nigeria without evidence and money . please just mellow if you have nothing to say. Well we can never can tell perhaps you have an "Abba kyari" here in naija we can report the case to maybe he'd take it up from there, cos even in real life how do you convict someone without evidences to backup your claims |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Nobody: 7:58am On Sep 03, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: NLHoodlum: You're both just really talking nonsense in this thread. Nonsense with a capital N. 1 Like |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Richy4(m): 8:01am On Sep 03, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: My brother, maybe U should relax and let them tell U how the system work in Nigeria instead of arguing with them... For me abroad homelessness is better than Nigerian homelessness. At least U can walk into a train station and take a free hot shower... There are toilets where a homeless person can relieve his or her self... If U are fortunate enough, some places offers soup kitchens where the homeless people can eat for free... It's not like that in Nigeria.. Coming to the issues of reporting the matters to the police, obviously, U have no idea how they might turn it against her... Either they blame her that she wanted it, she was putting on short skirts or that the Man refused the advances and she wanted to punish him by claiming rape.. it's a society where when U don't have money, U don't have a say or justice... Even as they were stepping into the station, they might be asked to bring money for the pen used in taking down her reports. It is a sorry nation.. They made the country in such a way that a 22yrs still feel incapacitated.. and still dependant.. it's not your fault that U don't understand it or get how a 22yr old will feel helpless.. I understand U totally... 1 Like |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Klass99(f): 9:01am On Sep 03, 2021 |
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Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Nobody: 9:21am On Sep 03, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: That was always the sum total of your discuss, to find a way to blame it on her and ignore the primary perpetrator. If I let you go on you would even start lecturing me on how she initiated the sex, seduced the man and enjoyed the sex since she failed to report it. Exact same mindset of a rapist. I don't need to waste further time with you. |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Nobody: 9:22am On Sep 03, 2021 |
NLHoodlum: Go get yourself a working brain. We will discuss afterwards cos I won't waste my time any further with your type that hate truth. |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Kirchoffs: 9:46am On Sep 03, 2021 |
NLHoodlum:I won't get into an argument with you on whether the rape happened or not, it's gonna be a total waste of time cos we'd be going back and forth on it. |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Stevenbright(m): 10:06am On Sep 03, 2021 |
Klass99: Klass99 All your points are valid. But like you said, at 22 you were in school! That was the reason why I started with "is she in school"? All my series of questions why based on two premise: Too available at home that is not gainfully engaged on something reason why the man have access to her when others are not around and two, if she is not schooling, she should get engaged on something and hence be able to save herself from a situation like this in due time. NOTE: Please don't compare yourself with her in the sense that your parents were available for you and hence you gradually followed the normal route but in her case, she is said to be an orphan. This should toughened her up and motivate her to be focus and hence get a bit independent as early as possible. You get it right? Modified: Klass99 please get in touch with the op and connect with the girl cos I believe you can be of great help to her. |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Kirchoffs: 10:21am On Sep 03, 2021 |
Stevenbright:She is a student in NOUN, and she does small chops catering jobs by the side during the weekdays or whenever she's not going for lectures . But she told me the catering jobs only come once in a while . An idle hand is the devil's workshop, She has been searching for work to no avail even if it's sales girl in order to earn more, it's very complicated sha, I once even advised her to defer her admission for a year at least so that she can be financially capable to handle it. Laslas everything na money matter, as soon as I get to Lagos I'd be able to see what I can do. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Stevenbright(m): 11:58am On Sep 03, 2021 |
Kirchoffs: This is good. She is on track. Tell her to spend less time in that house most especially if the man's target period is day time. But if it is in the night in her room, she must summon the courage to resist him and raise alarm as been exposed that way will make it impossible for the man to deny it. |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Klass99(f): 1:11pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Acidosis(m): 1:37pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
Mmadu2: Seriously?? I hope the plan is to present this "evidence" to a "baale" in the community, not a judge. Try and play along and the case will die faster than Baba Ijesha's. |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Nobody: 2:19pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
Acidosis: It requires using her God given brain to tell him to lure him to come have it off camera and quickly head for the camera location cos he'll certainly follow. In the camera location she doesn't have to play along, she can put on a frown and small resistance while the man undresses her to do his usual. That is evidence enough. Its brain work. |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Stevenbright(m): 6:20pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
Klass99: OK, I understand. It is a very difficult situation to be helpless in a disorganized and disoriented society like Nigeria. As for your busy work schedule, the Lord is your strength, take care. 1 Like |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Klass99(f): 6:25pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
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Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Kobojunkie: 8:08pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
Mmadu2:Find a way to blame her? She was raped and rather than run from her rapist, she settles into the condition.... how is that me finding a way to blame her for her rape? |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Kobojunkie: 8:11pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
Richy4:At about 10 years of age, I reported a case to police in that same Nigeria. Everyday 100s across that country, younger than 22, make decisions to better there lives and you are trying to pacify me with tales of how a 22-year old woman who has been violated does not know her left from her right? What do you take me for? Abegi! |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Kobojunkie: 8:13pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
InTheCloudySky:Stop making excuses for her. Her rapist is a criminal, and her sitting on top of the crime, without reporting it is equally wrong. |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Kobojunkie: 8:15pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
Kirchoffs:Even a teenager knows how to obtain evidence of her rape, na 22 yr old no fit get evidence of rape , let me guess,because it is Nigeria? And you think say na me suppose go Sidon? |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by Kobojunkie: 8:16pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
Kirchoffs:Is violence th only way to "stand up" for oneself, particularly in the day and age? |
Re: She Needs Help From Rape by 7thLemonLOVER(f): 5:50pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Kirchoffs:Good afternoon. That will be good |
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