Wigwegate: The Real Tessy Wigwe by Nelson Wigwe (Son)

First of all let me say how angry, sad and disappointed I am at the public who have already ridiculed my father H.E Dr Chijoke W Wigwe without hearing all the facts. Without talking to the people who were there, without talking to the people who know him best. Without talking to the people who know H.E Tess Wigwe and know exactly what she is capable of. For days, I have been holding back information because my mother H.E Tess Wigwe is the woman who bore me, the woman who raised me, and she is the woman who has provided for me my whole life. But with that said I cannot sit back and allow her to ruin my father's life and disgrace Nigeria like this. Now before I continue I think it's crucial that you know a couple of facts. I have lived with my mother my whole life. I have never and will never put anyone before her. So if you're stupid enough to think that I will lie for my father against my mother? You are sadly mistaken.*

On May the 11, I was in my bedroom lying down listening to music when I heard a loud commotion coming from my mother and fathers room. I heard my mother shouting telling my father "I cook food for you and you don't eat" I thought nothing of it because my mother and father argue a lot, so I ignored it at first. But then the commotion got louder. That's when I left my room to investigate what was going on. When I arrived, I found my mother and father arguing in the hallway. My mother was yelling at me "look at my face, look at what your father did" I looked at my mother's face and she had some cuts and small amounts of blood on it, her face was nothing like those horrific pictures that we all saw in the star on May the 26 2011. I tried to calm my mother down and I escorted her into her bedroom to clean her face. I took a face towel and soaked it with dettol and tried to clean her face but she refused. "No" my mother shouted "I want to show everyone what your father has done, I want the press and everybody to see". I mean she was not complaining of any pain, she was not holding any part of her body in pain. She was not dazed or confused apart from the small cuts, she was fine.

My mother told the star that "she was rescued by her 20 year old son and her 23 year old daughter" but that's a lie because I found them arguing in the hall. My mother also said in the same interview "He grabbed me by the hand and when I tried to pull away, he hurled me against the wall and started punching me" But when I arrived at the scene I saw my mother and father having an argument, like all husbands and wife's have now and again.

So after my mother refused that I should clean her face. She incredibly asked me to look for her camera. She said and I quote "Nelson look for my camera, I want people to see what your father has done, I want everybody to know what happened even the press" to say I was shocked was an understatement, my mother claims that my father "battered" her but yet here she is, looking around for her camera, instead of telling me to take her to hospital. Could it be that my mother is lying?

She eventually found her camera and phoned her friend to come and pick her up. My mother then went outside of the house to wait for her friend. On the way out my mother took photos of her face. My father locked the front door because at this point my mother was shouting at the top of her voice, saying, "I will finish you this Chijioke Wigwe, and you shall see what will happen"

She also mentioned my father's term, and mentioned that the possibility of any future opportunity for him, she will destroy. As she waited outside for her friend to arrive, my mother was shouting wild accusations at the top her voice. "Your father sleeps around with woman; your father is an evil man" My father was furious with these accusations and unlocked the door to confront my mother but I held him back. My mother continued to disgrace herself by shouting " Chijoke Wigwe you are not fit to be Ambassador, you are a coward, your mother is a LovePeddler, I will finish you here in Kenya, mark my words"

At this point, me, my sister, the chef and the security man, are all trying to calm her down, but she was continuing to shout and trying to fight. My nephew was also there, who is a small child, but It didn't seem to bother her that he was witnessing the argument. She continued and my sister begged with her to stop for the sake of her son. It was not long after this point that she went looking for bricks and pot plants that are located around the residence. She picked up a pot plant and tried to throw it. My sister stopped her and the contents were spilled all over her as a result. When that didn't succeed, she eventually picked up a brick and hurled it at the window. Twice. Eventually shattering it. This is the person who claimed to have suffered injuries including severe back pain. So, how, therefore, did she manage to hurl large objects and break our security windows?

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She eventually calmed down, and that was when her friend came. My father then left the house to see who had arrived, and told the person to just leave. They drove away.

Maybe everyone is confused as to why my Mother would do something like this.

Before my mother left London, it was agreed that every month my Father would be using a large portion of his allowance to pay her mortgage. That means that for the past two and a half years, my Mother has been sending that money to London to pay her mortgage for her house. Problems entailed when she realized that the so called trust worthy person was in fact keeping every cent of that money. So, as we speak, she is in serious debt.

I cannot stress the amount of times that my mother has been worrying about the repossession of her house in London, due to the theft.

When it comes to money, my mother is like a lioness protecting her cub. She will stop at nothing to try and make up for the loss of that money.

Including, but not limited to, lying to my father, and the embassy. Saying that things in the house were broken or needed repair, receiving the money for it, then keeping the money to herself. Despite the fact that there is never any food in the house, which she receives a large amount each month for, she managed to pay for a plane ticket for her old friend from England to arrive here. This now being the new person entrusted with the payment of her mortgage.

Yet, despite this expensive plane ticket, and the sheer thousands of pounds that are sent back to London, our Nigerian residence here, is somewhat of a joke. The five security dogs that we have here, who are Rottweiler's by the way, are all suffering from malnutrition and some are starving.
She receives around 20,00ksh for these dogs, yet a mere 3,000 is what is used per month to feed these large animals. Instead of a diet of meat and protein, they receive rice!

My sister has been here since April from the US. When she arrived, true to my mother's nature, she started once again into a long ongoing fight with her. Banning her from using the car, making her and my nephew take taxi cabs and finally telling our chef he is not allowed to prepare food for her! My sister even had to use her American bank card just so she could eat!

The same thing happened to me in 2008, when I myself arrived with her from London. Not allowing me to use the car, or buying food. I was even accused of conniving against her with an old lady that was brought here from a village in Nigeria to work on the residence. Now, bare in mind this is a small woman in stature, and also quite feeble. This woman was battered by my mother as she accused her of turning me against her.

In my 20 years of existence, I have actually never once witnessed an act of unkindness from my father.
My mother on the other hand, well, this is the woman who I have the worst memories of growing up. Especially concerning my sister. Which is why I'm disgusted at the hypocrisy of her "battered woman" claim.

There were many times when I would witness her picking on and beating my older sister, then I would write letters to her and slip them under her bedroom door as I heard her crying on the other side. I will never forget that.

At 16 she was kicked out of the house, and my mother will deny doing so to this day, even though we ALL witnessed it. In London, when my sister was pregnant at 24, I have never seen such evil behaviour towards her. We all thought it would get better, but it didn't. A great example of this is when we had a small mouse that used to always appear now and then, in the kitchen.

Although heavily pregnant and working at the time, my mother ordered my sister who was tired, and going through bad bouts of morning sickness, to clean the mouse droppings. When she asked if I could do it she was told, no and an argument ensued and she was almost made to do it. My sister stood her ground and refused.


She then ordered that the woman not be allowed to eat, or drink at all. I remember secretly making a meal for her as I felt bad, but she came in and saw me and an argument ensued. After everything that this woman was put through, which for her was hell, she was then made to leave. The other staff members have followed the same fate. Some have lost their jobs other were merely fired, based on the fact she thought they were stupid.

Prior to her arrival most of these people had their jobs for a long time. An example was a man called Ibraham who was not only my father's driver but a driver to many other diplomats before him. My Mother was actually jealous of the close friendship they had. So, next thing we knew, he was fired. Most if not all of our current staff all work in fear of her.

She would also spray air freshener in the room my sister was staying in, although she knew certain smells were literally making her sick. As a result, my sister not only left my mother's house, although she had nowhere to go, but she went all the way to New York, 6months pregnant with about 30 dollars to her name. She even had to ask her GP for permission to travel as she was so heavy at that point.

As for my Father, on top of NEVER raising a hand to any of us, He has literally supported us in any way he can.

My sister used to live with him in New York and study fashion and photography. He used to also pay her rent in California just because she was unable to work. He has paid for even our brother's girlfriends to come and visit in New York and elsewhere. He has always let us have our friends over and used to take us out to the cinema, to the park, to play, and to watch us at our sports games for support.
My mother wouldn't even let friends of ours in the house. My Father is loved and she has always hated that. She never understood why people didn't take to her the same way. It never occurred to her that the way she treated people would have an effect on how they saw her.

His kindness extends to his staff and they all reap the benefits of this. He never thought himself higher than anyone else and for this, his staff always received respect from him despite his powerful positions.

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My Father's good nature has influenced us all. His love for music, has influenced all of us. His love of the arts, has brought out a brilliant talent in my sister which he has always encouraged and nurtured. He would wake up every day and put on Bob Dylan and listen to classical music.

We have fond memories of him listening to his music, dancing and even making up his own lyrics to make us laugh.
He is kind and very funny and even though my nephew has not been here long, Grandad is the one he runs to whenever he would return home.

After events, he would come home, sit down with a small glass of whiskey and tell us interesting stories. He never raised his voice or yelled at us. He was always calm and peaceful. This is his true nature. Not the barbaric monster he has been made out to be. One of my brother's got wind of the news in London and called him crying, and devastated. We all are. This is not the father we have grown up to, love and adore. It hurts us to see such mean things said about him.

I haven't even lived with my Father my whole life. Yet, the times that I was staying with him due to his occupation, were some of the best times and memories of my life. Like Warsaw Poland, Manhattan in New York, and then here in Nairobi, Kenya.

I have lived with my mother my entire life, so I hope it's understood the difficulty in me writing this letter. But, I must do it. For the sake of my family, for the sake of Nigeria and the reputation my father has worked so hard to achieve.

But the truth must be known to all not just me.



May God deliver these people from evil, Amu kuma Amu. 

http://nigeriavillagesquare.com/forum/main-square/63249-real-tessy-wigwe-nelson-wigwe-son.html

[size=28pt]When it comes to money, my mother is like a lioness protecting her cub. She will stop at nothing to try and make up for the loss of that money.[/size]

Not surprising.

If all is true, the woman is evil, cheiii!!

This is serious. When are we going to read the daughter's version of the story?

I haven't even lived with my Father my whole life

men in general [especially those from broken homes who were raised by their mums] tend to find little or no fault with the father, since they barely knew him.

compared to the mother whose faults they can rattle off at the drop of a hat.

i think there might also be lingering resentment from the earlier marriage problems decades back which in typical nigerian fashion was ignored and the kids expected to just keep a stiff upper lip and move on.

i dont think the son can make blanket judgements about his dad's personality but of course nothing wrong with considering your dad a hero.

i'm not saying either parent is a saint- obviously both husband and wife have issues.

tpia@:

men in general [especially those from broken homes who were raised by their mums] tend to find no fault with the father, since they barely knew him.

i dont think the son can make blanket judgements about his dad's personality but of course nothing wrong with considering your dad a hero.

i'm not saying either parent is a saint- obviously both husband and wife have issues.

I'm not saying I believe the story, but in general, a man would do anything to protect his mother.

And giving the few instances and scenes he gave to reporters as examples, this husband-wife abuse should be investigated further.

the problem with broken homes- the kids often feel they have to chose sides.

in addition, the dad is richer than the mum, so he who pays the piper. . . . . .

I was thinking the same thing.

Father loses job, less money flows in.

Who knows.

I feel sorry for the kids, They are now grown anyway.

Shey divorce no dey dia dictionary ni? is it by force?

Daughters account of the incident:

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-680733.0.html


The same way Jim Iyk's girlfriend claimed that he nearly killed her and everybody pitied her only for her to refute the story days later. This is my fear about the Nigerian govt making protective laws that will lend ear to any woman who screams help help help.

men in general [especially those from broken homes who were raised by their mums] tend to find no fault with the father, since they barely knew him.

I think the reverse is the case in reality.

the problem with broken homes- the kids often feel they have to chose sides.

in addition, the dad is richer than the mum, so he who pays the piper.

These kids are adults and should be in a better position to know the situation of things in their home.Why would a grown up son support his father's evil on the mum just to get a few dollars from him?The incident is a reoccurring one  and the kids seem to be fed up with the whole thing.I read the father's account of the whole thing which to an extent corroborates the son's story.This is the case of a woman who is in doubt of the fidelity of her husband, this made her overtly aggressive and promiscuous.She also felt deprived and threatened More so, this kids were trained by their mother,the motherly affinity is there and on no account would they be in support of the father's evil on her.

Also, i don't think there is any politics here.If the man had been bad i think this would have been an opportunity for the kids to show their grievances and dissatisfaction with their father's nonchalant attitude towards them all this while.This is a typical ''arrangi marriage.''

This is the son's statement:

''I have lived with my mother my whole life. I have never and will never put anyone before her. So if you're silly enough to think that I will lie for my father against my mother? You are sadly mistaken.''

So the man was due to retire in two weeks anyway?

Hmm, something's off here.

Source?

The link posted by aloy emeka here, from his thread in celebrity section.

In turn quoted from lindaikeji's blog.

The father's story:

The girl I married was famous for her temper and fighting ability. With my gentle and unassuming nature, I honestly believed that the sharp contrast in our characters could neutralize and complement each other. It was a grave error of judgment.

http://newafricanpress.com/2011/06/01/my-wife-is-a-husband-beater-ambassador-wigwe/

MAY GOD DELIVER US FROM WIVES FROM HELL!
See her size (like Andre the giant) compared to d man!
, and to all of u who helped in pulling d man down, i hope u are satisfied.
Once again, we are seeing d danger of a single story

na2day!:

MAY GOD DELIVER US FROM WIVES FROM HELL!
See her size (like Andre the giant) compared to d man
, and to all of u who helped in pulling d man down, i hope u are satisfied.
Once again, we are seeing d danger of a single story

Kai! See dirty linen!
I'm so ashamed for that family.

The woman's maiden name is Oniga (Tess Oniga). That makes her an Edo woman. Edo babes? Hm!! And her boy friend is a Yoruba guy with a long manliness. The family was broken, in part, by the infiltration of a Yoruba man.

I married Tess Iyi Wigwe (nee Oniga) under native law and custom on 9th April 1978----------------------------------------------------------------At the end of my posting in October 1998, I returned to Nigeria. The family, now well established and settled, remained in London. Between 1998 and 1999 I made regular visits to the family. In November 1999, Mrs Wigwe visited me in Abuja and we travelled to her home town. We had a very serious misunderstanding. We returned to Abuja and she travelled back to London. When she returned to London after two weeks, she informed me that she no longer wished for me to come to London as previously planned to spend the Christmas and New Year holidays. All my efforts to reach her by telephone, fax and mail were unsuccessful. The situation continued until 2002 when on transiting London en route New York for an official assignment in July 2002, I discovered that Mrs Wigwe had brought her male lover, a Nigerian of Yoruba tribe, to live with her and the children in the family house. The children told me how they had bitterly resented her and her lover. But she ignored the children and co-habited with her boyfriend in the family house for close to a year. To all intents and purposes, we were still husband and wife; we were not even officially separated! It was then I knew the reason why I had been barred from visiting the family since 1999. Consequently, and bruising from the humiliation she had bestowed on me and the children in particular, I hastily remarried in December 2002.

http://nigeriavillagesquare.com/forum/main-square/63239-response-allegations-wife-battering-against-me.html

any particular reason why they didnt do a registry or church marriage?

just wondering- nothing to do with the issue at hand, really.

Adejoro74:

The woman's maiden name is Oniga (Tess Oniga). That makes her an Edo woman. Edo babes? Hm!! And her boy friend is a Yoruba guy with a long manliness. The family was broken, in part, by the infiltration of a Yoruba man.
http://nigeriavillagesquare.com/forum/main-square/63239-response-allegations-wife-battering-against-me.html

You are very foolish. What has the man got to do with breaking up the family?. The woman is the one who decided to be sleeping around and who knows what she told her boyfriend. The infiltration of Yoruba man has nothing to contribute here. I can also bet you that other men have infiltrated their matrimonial bed before the live in Yoruba guy.

Reading from Naija political fat cats who have plundered our resources! Are they expecting our sympathy?

Someone that can't manage his small family of 4, being chosen to manage the affairs of a whole country in another country. What an irony! Anyway back to the issue, I am an apostle of hearing both sides of the story before passing judgement. Hope those of us castigating the poor man will have a rethink? Someone said its possible the boy is taking sides with the father because of money, I really don't think so not that its not possible.But for him to live with his mother all this years and take side with the father against the mother would mean he has been harbouring deep resentment and hatred against her all this years. IMO this is very unlikely.

That is why itis always good to read 2 sides to a story. Many people have castigated this man and rain curses at him, even Okey Ndibe wrote an article against him without listening to his side of the story.

I believe this mans story 100% and believe his sons story as well because the both stories agree with each other.

We seek refuge with God from evil women and women of the type of this bitch called Tessy.

However i blame this man for not breaking this marriage earlier on in his life , sometimes it is better to acknowledge a mistake, curb your losses by running off early rather than sticking to marriage which has cost him his career, reputation, family and social status.

WOMAN= WOE (unto) MAN

You are very foolish. What has the man got to do with breaking up the family?. The woman is the one who decided to be sleeping around and who knows what she told her boyfriend. The infiltration of Yoruba man has nothing to contribute here. I can also bet you that other men have infiltrated their matrimonial bed before the live in Yoruba guy.

Yes it does, sir.The young man knows the woman is  married and he saw nothing wrong in sleeping with her, even moving in to live with her while the kids are there.No right thinking man will descend so low.Whether he is Yoruba or Igbo is not the issue, sleeping with a married woman in her matrimonial home is evil and contributed a lot to the problem of the family.

we all know that in time of domestic disputes,the children always take sides.

Still does not exonerate the man for the violence meted out whether to his wife, any member of his family or anyone for that matter. It still remains an embarrassment to the foreign ministry and the government of Nigeria. Like someone mentioned if one cannot handle his family how can he be entrusted with matters concerning the nation. It should not be covered up. I hope this incident will severely warn our authorities on how and who they appoint to public offices particularly when they represent us in countries that don't share our values. If he was located anywhere in the west it would have been much worse for him.