Please I need serious advice here because I am so confused right now.

My wife and I have been married for a year now. We've been having intercourse without protection as man and wife and of course I have been expecting her to conceive which has not been the case. I am not really bothered because we are still young and new in our marriage.
Yesterday we were supposed to have a get together with our business partners and friends and we were supposed to use my car but somehow after I tried to start the car, it didn't respond so I told my wife let's use hers which she agreed. We got into the car and she remembered that she had left the gift we intended giving one of our friends so she went back inside to get it.
I was in the car, then I opened the arm rest to put my phone and our Earbuds inside when I saw a white paper. Out of curiosity I took it out and opened it. On the top was written "Choice Laboratories" but before I could read what was inside my wife came out so I hid the paper in my pocket.
When we got to the event venue I rushed into the toilet to read what was in the paper and it was "abortion completed".
I didn't understand what it meant because my wife never told me she was pregnant talkless of aborting for any reason. Even if anything was wrong why didn't she tell me rather she hid it.
I snapped it and sent to a doctor friend and he confirmed it that the result is from a scan showing that my wife had just had an abortion. I have not been myself since yesterday evening.
She's been uneasy since morning and I know she is searching for the paper.

Please married men, how do I handle this in a matured way? I don't want to be rough about it because I suddenly feel my wife is hiding many things from me.

Hmmn, let's wait for the elders. At some point, you will need to ask her. That I know for sure.

This one is deep.
The heart of man is desperately wicked.
You will need wisdom to handle this.
Calm down, take your time and do some more snooping, you will definitely find out more revelations which may break your heart but will aid you to how you can handle the issue.
If she doesn't open to you on her own, just keep calm and do your findings.

My brother. Anything relating to woman there's more than meet the eyes

Pls in order to unveil the truth DON'T LET HER KNOW YOU SAW THE ABORTION REPORT

probably in the course of finding out the problems behind inability to conceive...she tested it outside marriage & the result was positive.

have you noticed her change in behavior whenever you're about to meet with her since you saw the result of abortion.


if her attitude & words is negative... then is a proof of her guilt.


it takes some one with a large heart to be cool calm & collected to unfold the concealed issues.


on fact finding if youre confrontational with her...you will never know the truth.

kai!!!
after going to the hospital to confirm it all and get valuable information, you should sit her down, and
- start the discussion by dwelling into whether or not you guys should have kids..and listen her replies.
- ask about your r/ship,, and study her replies.
- ask about ifyou guys are doing something wrong as husband and wife....then study her replies?
...then ask her to explain the paper you found... and whatever BS story she is gonna tell you, confirm it 110% with the hospital who did the abortion.

the fact that your wife "supposedly" had an abortion in your back, says a lot about your r/ship,which needs to be SERIOUSLY reevaluated (aka divorce).

Crazy things are happening

This is what my father will do if he finds himself in such situation.

He will photocopy the paper, then keep the original one where he pick it from.

He will not tell anyone about it till after 2 weeks.

Then he will call the wife and sit him down to explain what is going on.

If truly that she aborted, then my mind is telling me that you are not the owner of the pregnancy.

Guilt didn’t allow her to give you another mans child.

Take her brother

I think you should take her to the hospital,do not confront her about it yet because she'll denyit.When you get to the hospital and it's confirmed that she had an abortion,then you can confront her about it.But I also think her mother or any of her relative should be involved during confrontation,that way they can ask her questions too and also put you in check so you don't go overboard in anger.I hope you both find level ground and resolve it peacefully.

Nothing to say about this, if it is true.

No be from my mouth you go hear am sey make you send your wife packing

Bro,

She's cheating on you.
The pregnancy was not yours.
She's not yours too.

Take heart.

Damn!!!

Well, it's possible she got another guy and she got pregnant just to kmow if she was the problem. Maybe she couldn't pinpoint the real father of the foetus and she had to abort just to be safe and avoid paternity fraud issue. On the other hand maybe the pregnancy was yours and she had been faithful all along!

The only and best advise is that you should confront her and talk to her about what you saw. You can't expect us to give you any other advise from that.

Wetin come dey make relationships and marriages these days dey meet worse fates than the Titanic "ship"?

Shuooo

When you feel say na your own worse pass or come think say you don hear the worst another one fo just pop up...haba

Bro, there are two things involved here man and if I were you, I won't be on here seeking advice. I'd have made a photo or copied that piece of paper and replaced the original back where I found it and confronted her on this that same day to find out what is happening.

Her explanation will determine my next line of action.

The two things I figure is happening here are:

1. She's been having an affair hence, not very sure the pregnancy could have been yours.

2. She sees your marriage to her as a farce or a holding in trust kinda thing probably because she has someone somewhere most likely abroad whom she is keeping herself "chaste" and "tear-rubber" for, but e go do her for eye like magic.

This is so depressing a position for a man to find himself in.

I wish you the strength and the wisdom to navigate through this.

Please, however, this goes, particularly if it is established that her ways aren't pure, do not be afraid for a divorce.

E better make man no get wife than to get one wey be evil.

Bob Marley was right...


No woman no cry

Lucaslookers:
Please I need serious advice here because I am so confused right now.

My wife and I have been married for a year now. We've been having intercourse without protection as man and wife and of course I have been expecting her to conceive which has not been the case. I am not really bothered because we are still young and new in our marriage.
Yesterday we were supposed to have a get together with our business partners and friends and we were supposed to use my car but somehow after I tried to start the car, it didn't respond so I told my wife let's use hers which she agreed. We got into the car and she remembered that she had left the gift we intended giving one of our friends so she went back inside to get it.
I was in the car, then I opened the arm rest to put my phone and our Earbuds inside when I saw a white paper. Out of curiosity I took it out and opened it. On the top was written "Choice Laboratories" but before I could read what was inside my wife came out so I hid the paper in my pocket.
When we got to the event venue I rushed into the toilet to read what was in the paper and it was "abortion completed".
I didn't understand what it meant because my wife never told me she was pregnant talkless of aborting for any reason. Even if anything was wrong why didn't she tell me rather she hid it.
I snapped it and sent to a doctor friend and he confirmed it that the result is from a scan showing that my wife had just had an abortion. I have not been myself since yesterday evening.
She's been uneasy since morning and I know she is searching for the paper.

Please married men, how do I handle this in a matured way? I don't want to be rough about it because I suddenly feel my wife is hiding many things from me.

My brother marriage is not easy, challenges that comes with marriage required matured mind. Your marriage is just a year, please don't take any action exercise patient; drop the paper close to where you picked it but hidden observe her actions and attitude. Although it not easy because of the suspicion that has unvail. Act maturedly while working to have other evidence to proof.

Have a discussion with her. Please go directly to "why did you have to abort the pregnancy?" She likely knows you have seen it as such trying to ask her opinion about having children might give her a leeway to lie about things.

Maybe it wasnt your child.

I guess by now she has noticed that the paper is missing and has cooked some delicious lies to backup her action. Depending on how strong the lie is you might just end up believing it.

Like you said "I am not really bothered because we are still young and new in our marriage." .. Does she know that you're not really bothered about having kids?
I'm not supporting her but the way I'm seeing this issue, you might end up believing whatever she will tell you because you gave her enough time to cook enough lies if there's need to.

You should have confronted her inside the car.

There was a chance this child wasn't yours.

Ahh, op. She is a good woman sef. She aborted the baby to avoid paternity fraud.

Evil has no bound, married folks I just want to read and learn over to you.

Bro,She's cheater on you.The pregnant disciplined not yours.She's not yours too.give heartless.

ETIIKO:

My brother marriage is not easy, challenges that comes with marriage required matured mind. Your marriage is just a year, please don't take any action exercise patient; drop the paper close to where you picked it but hidden observe her actions and attitude. Although it not easy because of the suspicion that has unvail. Act maturedly while working to have other evidence to proof.

In summary: You are currently 3 feet under, however, with patience you can get to 6 feet. As you know, six feet is better than 3 feet.

Lucaslookers:
Please married men, how do I handle this in a matured way? I don't want to be rough about it because I suddenly feel my wife is hiding many things from me.

You are in a marriage relationship yet you dey fear ask your own partner question about wetin you find. You don ask 1 outsider and are here to ask even more, yet you never still ask the one person whose words really matter more in this? Na wa oo!

Ask your wife about the paper you found and begin the discussion so you two can be on the same page as far as childbearing and stuff is concerned. She is your wife - your companion- not an ojuju!

Fear de catch me with this write up!
E get wetin ur mind de tell you!! DO AM!

Hmmmm....biko stop over thinking things and just ask her. A lot could be the reason:
1. Miss abortion where she had a miscarriage and had to go check if it was completed. That sheet happens.

2. She might be confused about the paternity. That one happens too.

3. She might not be ready for a baby because of one thing or the other.

Better ask her why? May God bless us with our friends as spouses fa.

Only way to know is to ask.

Keep in mind that she could be lying too. Put on your thinking cap and ask her. She might not want a kid yet. Perhaps she wants to enjoy nacking for a year more. Ask.

We need to hear the wife side of the story before we can conclude.

Okonandmary:
We need to hear the wife side of the story before we can conclude.

Lol . Wetin concern us with conclusion..
Na him go conclude am close chapter too

hmm, why would a married woman abort secretly, Mr man, you are not telling us everything. You probably know why she did it, you are only confused.

Lucaslookers:
Please I need serious advice here because I am so confused right now.

My wife and I have been married for a year now. We've been having intercourse without protection as man and wife and of course I have been expecting her to conceive which has not been the case. I am not really bothered because we are still young and new in our marriage.
Yesterday we were supposed to have a get together with our business partners and friends and we were supposed to use my car but somehow after I tried to start the car, it didn't respond so I told my wife let's use hers which she agreed. We got into the car and she remembered that she had left the gift we intended giving one of our friends so she went back inside to get it.
I was in the car, then I opened the arm rest to put my phone and our Earbuds inside when I saw a white paper. Out of curiosity I took it out and opened it. On the top was written "Choice Laboratories" but before I could read what was inside my wife came out so I hid the paper in my pocket.
When we got to the event venue I rushed into the toilet to read what was in the paper and it was "abortion completed".
I didn't understand what it meant because my wife never told me she was pregnant talkless of aborting for any reason. Even if anything was wrong why didn't she tell me rather she hid it.
I snapped it and sent to a doctor friend and he confirmed it that the result is from a scan showing that my wife had just had an abortion. I have not been myself since yesterday evening.
She's been uneasy since morning and I know she is searching for the paper.

Please married men, how do I handle this in a matured way? I don't want to be rough about it because I suddenly feel my wife is hiding many things from me.

Is her name written on the result, confront her

naijacreativeha:

Is her name written on the result, confront her

Yes written boldly.
I have made a photocopy.

GboyegaD:
Have a discussion with her. Please go directly to "why did you have to abort the pregnancy?" She likely knows you have seen it as such trying to ask her opinion about having children might give her a leeway to lie about things.

Yes, OP ask her this exact question, you deserve to know why.