Good morning, everyone.

I've a serious problem. I would say it's serious for it's making me offending my parents and making them have some negative thoughts and feelings about me that there's likelihood that I may not be a merciful child in future.

My major problem is, I feel shy going out and only goes out only when it's absolutely necessary. Even when my parents wanna send me on an errand sef, I try avoiding it because of this. Even when there's a family function I try avoiding it and only go when it's necessary. Even when I get there, I sit where people wouldn't see me.

When I have places to go and it's necessary, I always ensure its night. Or very early in the morning before there's crowd everywhere, coz I stay is a ghetto-like area in Lagos.

I care about what my parents think of me. I offended my dad yesterday's night, and I doubt if he will ever forgive me. He sent me an errand although which also doesn't require me to go outside though. I did the same to my mum on a day before new year. I'm really saddened by this and really want to change for good. I will be 23 by may, and I'm really saddened by this. My parents are having another thoughts about me that I may not be merciful child even though I'm a female.

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Aduke23:
Good morning, everyone.

I've a serious problem. I would say it's serious for it's making me offending my parents and making them have some negative thoughts and feelings about me that there's likelihood that I may not be a merciful child in future.

My major problem is, I feel shy going out and only goes out only when it's absolutely necessary. Even when my parents wanna send me on an errand sef, I try avoiding it because of this. Even when there's a family function I try avoiding it and only go when it's necessary. Even when I get there, I sit where people wouldn't see me.

When I have places to go and it's necessary, I always ensure its night. Or very early in the morning before there's crowd everywhere, coz I stay is a ghetto-like area in Lagos.

I care about what my parents think of me. I offended my dad yesterday's night, and I doubt if he will ever forgive me. He sent me an errand although which also doesn't require me to go outside though. I did the same to my mum on a day before new year. I'm really saddened by this and really want to change for good. I will be 23 by may, and I'm really saddened by this. My parents are having another thoughts about me that I may not be merciful child even though I'm a female.

Aduke23:
Good morning, everyone.

I've a serious problem. I would say it's serious for it's making me offending my parents and making them have some negative thoughts and feelings about me that there's likelihood that I may not be a merciful child in future.

My major problem is, I feel shy going out and only goes out only when it's absolutely necessary. Even when my parents wanna send me on an errand sef, I try avoiding it because of this. Even when there's a family function I try avoiding it and only go when it's necessary. Even when I get there, I sit where people wouldn't see me.

When I have places to go and it's necessary, I always ensure its night. Or very early in the morning before there's crowd everywhere, coz I stay is a ghetto-like area in Lagos.

I care about what my parents think of me. I offended my dad yesterday's night, and I doubt if he will ever forgive me. He sent me an errand although which also doesn't require me to go outside though. I did the same to my mum on a day before new year. I'm really saddened by this and really want to change for good. I will be 23 by may, and I'm really saddened by this. My parents are having another thoughts about me that I may not be merciful child even though I'm a female.

Are you that fugly?

You have very low self esteem. To be honest, you need professional help. Any advice here wouldn't solve anything.
You need to be reconditioned. It will take time and work and even money.

Aduke23:
Good morning, everyone.

I've a serious problem. I would say it's serious for it's making me offending my parents and making them have some negative thoughts and feelings about me that there's likelihood that I may not be a merciful child in future.

My major problem is, I feel shy going out and only goes out only when it's absolutely necessary. Even when my parents wanna send me on an errand sef, I try avoiding it because of this. Even when there's a family function I try avoiding it and only go when it's necessary. Even when I get there, I sit where people wouldn't see me.

When I have places to go and it's necessary, I always ensure its night. Or very early in the morning before there's crowd everywhere, coz I stay is a ghetto-like area in Lagos.

I care about what my parents think of me. I offended my dad yesterday's night, and I doubt if he will ever forgive me. He sent me an errand although which also doesn't require me to go outside though. I did the same to my mum on a day before new year. I'm really saddened by this and really want to change for good. I will be 23 by may, and I'm really saddened by this. [/b]My parents are having another thoughts about me that I may not be merciful child even though I'm a female[b].

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nairalanders would have asked you if mastubate if not for this last line...

zed7:
You have very low self esteem. To be honest, you need professional help. Any advice here wouldn't solve anything.
You need to be reconditioned. It will take time and work and even money.

Guy, it's not necessarily a matter of low self-esteem.
She already stated that she is shy.
The way out of the challenge is to be herself at all times.
Most of us also passed through that stage, it a phase it will pass.
There was a time in my early years that I can't walk on the street without touching my face.

Aduke23:
Good morning, everyone.

I've a serious problem. I would say it's serious for it's making me offending my parents and making them have some negative thoughts and feelings about me that there's likelihood that I may not be a merciful child in future.

My major problem is, I feel shy going out and only goes out only when it's absolutely necessary. Even when my parents wanna send me on an errand sef, I try avoiding it because of this. Even when there's a family function I try avoiding it and only go when it's necessary. Even when I get there, I sit where people wouldn't see me.

When I have places to go and it's necessary, I always ensure its night. Or very early in the morning before there's crowd everywhere, coz I stay is a ghetto-like area in Lagos.

I care about what my parents think of me. I offended my dad yesterday's night, and I doubt if he will ever forgive me. He sent me an errand although which also doesn't require me to go outside though. I did the same to my mum on a day before new year. I'm really saddened by this and really want to change for good. I will be 23 by may, and I'm really saddened by this. My parents are having another thoughts about me that I may not be merciful child even though I'm a female.

You’re probably an introvert but you still need to develop social skills. You don’t have a problem, you just need to understand who you are. Answer the basic questions on this website honestly and learn more about your personality, then find ways to improve yourself.
https://www.truity.com/test/type-finder-personality-test-new

Aduke23:
Good morning, everyone.

I've a serious problem. I would say it's serious for it's making me offending my parents and making them have some negative thoughts and feelings about me that there's likelihood that I may not be a merciful child in future.

My major problem is, I feel shy going out and only goes out only when it's absolutely necessary. Even when my parents wanna send me on an errand sef, I try avoiding it because of this. Even when there's a family function I try avoiding it and only go when it's necessary. Even when I get there, I sit where people wouldn't see me.

When I have places to go and it's necessary, I always ensure its night. Or very early in the morning before there's crowd everywhere, coz I stay is a ghetto-like area in Lagos.

I care about what my parents think of me. I offended my dad yesterday's night, and I doubt if he will ever forgive me. He sent me an errand although which also doesn't require me to go outside though. I did the same to my mum on a day before new year. I'm really saddened by this and really want to change for good. I will be 23 by may, and I'm really saddened by this. My parents are having another thoughts about me that I may not be merciful child even though I'm a female.

U might just be an introvert. Thou, shyness and introversion are too different things, but they are intertwine and sometimes, subjective.

Aduke23:

I care about what my parents think of me. I offended my dad yesterday's night, and I doubt if he will ever forgive me. He sent me an errand although which also doesn't require me to go outside though. I did the same to my mum on a day before new year. I'm really saddened by this and really want to change for good. I will be 23 by may, and I'm really saddened by this. My parents are having another thoughts about me that I may not be merciful child even though I'm a female.

Emotional and behavioral symptoms of Social Anxiety Disorder
Signs and symptoms of social anxiety disorder can include constant:

■Fear of situations in which you may be judged negatively
■Worry about embarrassing or humiliating yourself
■Intense fear of interacting or talking with strangers
■Fear that others will notice that you look anxious
■Fear of physical symptoms that may cause you embarrassment, such as blushing, sweating, trembling or having a shaky voice
■Avoidance of doing things or speaking to people out of fear of embarrassment
■Avoidance of situations where you might be the center of attention
■Anxiety in anticipation of a feared activity or event
Intense fear or anxiety during social situations
■Analysis of your performance and identification of flaws in your interactions after a social situation
■Expectation of the worst possible consequences from a negative experience during a social situation

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You sound like a textbook case of Social Anxiety disorder. You are not alone and you too can benefit from seeing a mental Health professional about it this while you are still very young so that you can tackle it before it gets even worse. Make an appointment and drag yourself asap so you don't maybe end up a hermit .

Aduke23:
Good morning, everyone.

I've a serious problem. I would say it's serious for it's making me offending my parents and making them have some negative thoughts and feelings about me that there's likelihood that I may not be a merciful child in future.

My major problem is, I feel shy going out and only goes out only when it's absolutely necessary. Even when my parents wanna send me on an errand sef, I try avoiding it because of this. Even when there's a family function I try avoiding it and only go when it's necessary. Even when I get there, I sit where people wouldn't see me.

When I have places to go and it's necessary, I always ensure its night. Or very early in the morning before there's crowd everywhere, coz I stay is a ghetto-like area in Lagos.

I care about what my parents think of me. I offended my dad yesterday's night, and I doubt if he will ever forgive me. He sent me an errand although which also doesn't require me to go outside though. I did the same to my mum on a day before new year. I'm really saddened by this and really want to change for good. I will be 23 by may, and I'm really saddened by this. My parents are having another thoughts about me that I may not be merciful child even though I'm a female.

There is nothing wrong with u. U are an introvert and i am an introvert too. U are a loner, i am a loner too. I do same too. I fear gossiper or backbitters. U are ok. many times, i find it difficult mingling with people etc. U aren't alone. I would advise that u make good friends or make friendship with people u can easily flow it. I will get over it gradually.

oazeez1991:
U might just be an introvert. Thou, shyness and introversion are too different things, but they are intertwine and sometimes, subjective.

What the OP described here is not introvertedness, a personality traits of sorts but instead behavioral and emotional problems.

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Signs You Might Be an Introvert
Around one-third to one-half of all people in the U.S. are introverts. Though it looks different in everyone, introverts have many of the same patterns of behavior. In general, introverts:

■Need quiet to concentrate
■Are reflective
■Are self-aware
■Take time making decisions
■Feel comfortable being alone
■Don't like group work
■Prefer to write rather than talk
■Feel tired after being in a crowd
■Have few friendships, but are very close with these friends
■Daydream or use their imaginations to work out a problem
■Retreat into their own mind to rest

One way to find out if you're an introvert is to take a test, such as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) or the SAPA project.

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Note how different what is listed above is from what OP complains of.

Dailyparrot:


Are you that fugly?

Well, I'm not the one to judge that.

Truvelisback:
There is nothing wrong with u. U are an introvert and i am an introvert too. U are a loner, i am a loner too. I do same too. I fear gossiper or backbitters. U are ok. many times, i find it difficult mingling with people etc. U aren't alone. I would advise that u make good friends or make friendship with people u can easily flow it. I will get over it gradually.

I won't categorically say that. I would say my mood switches with environment I found my sef

One thing I've also realized that has contributed to this is that, I was bullied in the past, and I know this has also become a motivation that drives these behaviors of mine. I'm tall. Really tall for a lady, that people talk about and notice wherever I go. This has also contributed significantly to my shyness.

Aduke23:
One thing I've also realized that has contributed to this is that, I was bullied in the past, and I know this has also become a motivation that drives these behaviors of mine. I'm tall. Really tall for a lady, that people talk about and notice wherever I go. This has also contributed significantly to my shyness.

How tall are you?

MufasaLion:


How tall are you?

Don't even know my height. Someone once guessed 5'8

Aduke23:

Don't even know my height. Someone once guessed 5'8

That ain't bad. That's almost 180cm.

MufasaLion:


That ain't bad. That's almost 180cm.

Not sure though ..

Aduke23:

Not sure though ..

It ain't really bad. Can I see? Send a PM if you can.

MufasaLion:


It ain't really bad. Can I see? Send a PM if you can.

Lol

MufasaLion:


It ain't really bad. Can I see? Send a PM if you can.

Why do you want to see

OP, some people went through this phase. Well, only you can effect changes, work on your mind.

If u masturbate stop it or watch porn stop it, it does affect ur self esteem

faithfull18:

Why do you want to see

Lol

Englandboy:
If u masturbate stop it or watch porn stop it, it does affect ur self esteem

How? Expatiat, pls.

Aduke23:

How? Expatiat, pls.

yes truly it does affect ur self esteem.

Englandboy:
yes truly it does affect ur self esteem.

Then expatiate on how it does.

Aduke23:

Then expatiate on how it does.

I have been in those shoes before my was worst than URS , but now I am free .

Englandboy:
I have been in those shoes before my was worst than URS , but now I am free .

Are u married now?

Aduke23:
Good morning, everyone.

I've a serious problem. I would say it's serious for it's making me offending my parents and making them have some negative thoughts and feelings about me that there's likelihood that I may not be a merciful child in future.

My major problem is, I feel shy going out and only goes out only when it's absolutely necessary. Even when my parents wanna send me on an errand sef, I try avoiding it because of this. Even when there's a family function I try avoiding it and only go when it's necessary. Even when I get there, I sit where people wouldn't see me.

When I have places to go and it's necessary, I always ensure its night. Or very early in the morning before there's crowd everywhere, coz I stay is a ghetto-like area in Lagos.

I care about what my parents think of me. I offended my dad yesterday's night, and I doubt if he will ever forgive me. He sent me an errand although which also doesn't require me to go outside though. I did the same to my mum on a day before new year. I'm really saddened by this and really want to change for good. I will be 23 by may, and I'm really saddened by this. My parents are having another thoughts about me that I may not be merciful child even though I'm a female.

Don't you have siblings to run errands?

Aduke23:

Are u married now?

no am not married just stay off those things I told u about u will be fine ,I understand what u re going through

Englandboy:
no am not married just stay off those things I told u about u will be fine ,I understand what u re going through

Okay. Thanks.

Aduke23:

Are u married now?

Do you masturbate n watch porn?