I will try to cut the long story short... I am 29. my wife is 26

I got married in 2018 and ever since, there is hardly a week that my mother-in-law
will not come visiting without my pre informing me. I hate this as i usually result into
sleeping on the couch since i was not financially bouyant to get an apartment then...
we were staying in my fathers house.

This act continued for long that i had to react by telling my wife that she should at least always
inform me whenever her mum is coming , and each time she inform me, I usually pass the night at
a friends place and the woman eventually noticed it. One day, she came, i prostrated to greet, she
answered and started accusing me of not calling her, that she is not here to meet me, she only wants
to come and greet her daughter.

ever since that day, my everyday plan was relocating to another state, as such, i started applying for
jobs outside my state...

Good enough, i got a job in Osun State and had to relocate there with my wife. for about 1 and 7 months
now, they've been communicating on phone and i only call her to ask if they've seen my alert on every festive
periods.

The issue right now is that my wife is heavily pregnant and my business mother MIGHT not want
to come stay with us for long abandoning her business... And i am very sure my mother-in-law will want to come.
coming is not my problem, how long will she stay is my issue, what if she didnt leave after 1,2,3 months?

i am planning of sending my wife to my mum for better care, but i dont want to miss my wife too... please advice, what should i do?

omo, your the problem...

not your mother in law...not your wife.


your character nor good.


Dey behave somehow...one kind


people like you once I noticed I don cut them off... instanter..... character bad well well




na your house, nobody'dey drag am with you.... make your self comfortable.


when we were little with my parents almost every week na my grandma dey come meet her daughter most especially market day (we lived in nearby community) ...it gives her joy seeing us around...when she dey go we dey always expect 10naira, 20naira each for my brother and i.
lol

and when she dey go back if my mom dey escort her, people dey know say na she born my mama.

my guy your character nor good at all


I don perceive am already.

You are a confused married man.The man above me is a yahoo boy

Your mother-in-law is coming to stay for a long time.

Bros, build a great relationship with your mother-in-law and watch her defend you in the future.

Please, be hospitable next time. God bless your home. I wish your wife safe delivery. Congratulations in advance.

See wahala for where there is no good communication in a marriage. Your wife should have known your plight since, she would have told her mother what to do, the mother inlaw is not a witch, she is trying to be friendly with you, your wife is the best person to tell you how it will be not anyone here on nairaland . Act like a married man for Christ's sake!!!!! You both owns the home and need to plan ahead of the baby, ask your wife questions. You both should have known since na

You are simply not supposed to be living in Nigeria.

I think u have a problem as a person not your mother in law.

You so much love yourself,your business mother but u don't love your mother in law at all.

Pls,rethink your ways of handling things.

Thanks for the piece of advice...

Righteousness2:
Your mother-in-law will be a great help in times as these.

By the time your wife gives birth, and you see all that is happening, you will wish her to be around for 6months or more.

Infact you may need an additional hand apart from your Mother- in -law.

Just do the best u can and be Happy. Don't kill yourself to Please anyone.

Congratulations in advance.

Thanks sir, will work on that.

isaiah4life:
Your mother-in-law is coming to stay for a long time.

Bros, build a great relationship with your mother-in-law and watch her defend you in the future.

Please, be hospitable next time. God bless your home. I wish your wife safe delivery. Congratulations in advance.

I understand your plight however, it isn't compulsory anyone comes to stay with you. You both should reach a consensus on what you want as regards a helping hand.

If you need help, allow the mom come over, give her her respect and vice versa. Set your boundaries and ensure everyone is taught to respect them. Live for peace and enjoy your home. Trust me, many mothers know how to respect themselves.

Thank God say you be man. If you be woman, you for regret creating this topic.

Men are really enjoying sha.

pocohantas:
Thank God say you be man. If you be woman, you for regret creating this topic.

Men are really enjoying sha.

His business mother MIGHT not want to come stay with them for long abandoning her business and he now needs his idle mother-in-law and wants Nairalanders to advise him how long he should allow her stay!

greenie77:


His business mother MIGHT not want to come stay with them for long abandoning her business and he now needs his idle mother-in-law and wants Nairalanders to advise him how long he should allow her stay!

Yes na. We would give him logical advice on how to ensure his MIL stays for the shortest possible time.

KOPArespect:
I will try to cut the long story short... I am 29. my wife is 26

I got married in 2018 and ever since, there is hardly a week that my mother-in-law
will not come visiting without my pre informing me. I hate this as i usually result into
sleeping on the couch since i was not financially bouyant to get an apartment then...
we were staying in my fathers house.

This act continued for long that i had to react by telling my wife that she should at least always
inform me whenever her mum is coming , and each time she inform me, I usually pass the night at
a friends place and the woman eventually noticed it. One day, she came, i prostrated to greet, she
answered and started accusing me of not calling her, that she is not here to meet me, she only wants
to come and greet her daughter.

ever since that day, my everyday plan was relocating to another state, as such, i started applying for
jobs outside my state...

Good enough, i got a job in Osun State and had to relocate there with my wife. for about 1 and 7 months
now, they've been communicating on phone and i only call her to ask if they've seen my alert on every festive
periods.

The issue right now is that my wife is heavily pregnant and my business mother MIGHT not want
to come stay with us for long abandoning her business... And i am very sure my mother-in-law will want to come.
coming is not my problem, how long will she stay is my issue, what if she didnt leave after 1,2,3 months?

i am planning of sending my wife to my mum for better care, but i dont want to miss my wife too... please advice, what should i do?

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Confucius' Junior..
Carry-on na your way.

Your mother inlaw is the best person that'd take good care of your wife (her daughter) and the baby. Though i'm not saying your mother isn't capable of taking care of your wife but your mother inlaw is very much capable in doing that as her daughter

Moreso, try to be friend with your mother inlaw. Stop being moody whenever she's around. It's a red flag to her that she isn't welcome

Lastly, she'll not stay in your house forever. Maximum 2 months she's gone

Be free with her

Be happy you even have someone who's willing to come do these things for you. There's no issue with the woman, simply discuss with your wife how long you want her mum to stay with you & your wife will do her magic

Appreciate having people around, but always communicate with your wife to avoid being grumpy in the house

How dare you say your own mother will take care of your wife better? That’s an insult to your wife and her mother.

Women are accused of hating their Mother in-laws, meanwhile men are also guilty too of hating their mother in-laws.

KOPArespect:
I will try to cut the long story short... I am 29. my wife is 26

I got married in 2018 and ever since, there is hardly a week that my mother-in-law
will not come visiting without my pre informing me. I hate this as i usually result into
sleeping on the couch since i was not financially bouyant to get an apartment then...
we were staying in my fathers house.

This act continued for long that i had to react by telling my wife that she should at least always
inform me whenever her mum is coming , and each time she inform me, I usually pass the night at
a friends place and the woman eventually noticed it. One day, she came, i prostrated to greet, she
answered and started accusing me of not calling her, that she is not here to meet me, she only wants
to come and greet her daughter.

ever since that day, my everyday plan was relocating to another state, as such, i started applying for
jobs outside my state...

Good enough, i got a job in Osun State and had to relocate there with my wife. for about 1 and 7 months
now, they've been communicating on phone and i only call her to ask if they've seen my alert on every festive
periods.

The issue right now is that my wife is heavily pregnant and my business mother MIGHT not want
to come stay with us for long abandoning her business... And i am very sure my mother-in-law will want to come.
coming is not my problem, how long will she stay is my issue, what if she didnt leave after 1,2,3 months?

i am planning of sending my wife to my mum for better care, but i dont want to miss my wife too... please advice, what should i do?

You have tried

If you want to send your wife to your mum to look after, that's a good idea

Just tell your that you want her to be with your mum so that she can look after her, so far you know that your wife and your mum have a good relationship

She may tell you she prefer her mum's place, tell her that you are not financially stable and if things you can do is done by your mum, you won't feel bad about it

That her mum is free to come over and visit her their

Just stand on your ground at this first instance so that your mother inlaw will have no option than to go and greet her daughter there

pocohantas:
Thank God say you be man. If you be woman, you for regret creating this topic.

Men are really enjoying sha.

LMAO !

pocohantas:
Thank God say you be man. If you be woman, you for regret creating this topic.

Men are really enjoying sha.

This thread would have been filled with the usual wailers. They would have crucified her and it would be on 12 pages by now. But see! they are conspicuously quiet. The hypocrites!

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KOPArespect:
I will try to cut the long story short... I am 29. my wife is 26

I got married in 2018 and ever since, there is hardly a week that my mother-in-law
will not come visiting without my pre informing me. I hate this as i usually result into
sleeping on the couch since i was not financially bouyant to get an apartment then...
we were staying in my fathers house.

This act continued for long that i had to react by telling my wife that she should at least always
inform me whenever her mum is coming , and each time she inform me, I usually pass the night at
a friends place and the woman eventually noticed it. One day, she came, i prostrated to greet, she
answered and started accusing me of not calling her, that she is not here to meet me, she only wants
to come and greet her daughter.

ever since that day, my everyday plan was relocating to another state, as such, i started applying for
jobs outside my state...

Good enough, i got a job in Osun State and had to relocate there with my wife. for about 1 and 7 months
now, they've been communicating on phone and i only call her to ask if they've seen my alert on every festive
periods.

The issue right now is that my wife is heavily pregnant and my business mother MIGHT not want
to come stay with us for long abandoning her business... And i am very sure my mother-in-law will want to come.
coming is not my problem, how long will she stay is my issue, what if she didnt leave after 1,2,3 months?

i am planning of sending my wife to my mum for better care, but i dont want to miss my wife too... please advice, what should i do?

are you okay? Sending her to your mum for better care when her mother is still alive?

Y'all should start knowing that once you marry, you're automatically making the other people your family too, I don't see where this woman offended you for you to have so much contempt for her.

Better behave if you don't want to start initiating crack in your home

Mr poster, I must confess that I'm disappointed in what you posted. Your mother-in-law is not a stranger but also your mum. You should even consider yourself lucky she's available to check on you regularly. It's not as if she interferes in your marriage. You really have a huge problem. You just hate her for no reason. Work on yourself and invite her over to come take care of your wife and kids. Treat her well like you would treat your own mother. I wish you all the best and safe delivery to your wife.

KOPArespect:

i am planning of sending my wife to my mum for better care, but i dont want to miss my wife too... please advice, what should i do?

There is another, saner option, practiced in saner climes, and that is for you to care for your wife and baby after she puts to bed, this without involving any member of the extended family.

Tell your mother and your mother-in-law that you are ready to do as oyinbo(and all other people wey no be Africa and Nigeria) dey do am. So make dem no come at all. Dem fit come for naming and go back but you and your wife go care for the baby and send them pictures regularly.