Lasunray01:

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal,....

MrBrownJay1:
hhmm ok, this babe insanity is on another level completely.....how long do you think it will take before she takes it to the next level and starts attacking you or your child?!

before you plan this journey abroad, make sure she properly sort her issues (while you sort yours) and FIX THEM!! livng with such woman, let alone bringing her abroad, would be your downfall!

Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.
I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

MufasaLion:
Stop flirting with other ladies. You made a marital vow, fufill it. It's difficult to stop but you gotta try!

I'd suggest you don't take her with you for now. Work on yourself. If care is not taken, you will end up as a church rat abroad!

Kobojunkie:
Are you somehow here expecting us all to overlook the primary cause of the problem in your marriage which happens to be you ?

Lasunray01:
Nope. You are free to say your mind sir, even if harsh

Lasunray01:



She's still in her early 20's and the marriage is less than 2yrs, leaving her behind not really cool with me...kindly explain the 'church rat' part

princeeze1:
Op are you not being hypocritical here? Which woman would catch you cheating and not go mad? Madness got levels to it, but you are the trigger! Would all hell not be let loose if reverse were the case and she was the one caught cheating severally? You are hoping to migrate to a saner clime where cheating is not tolerated no matter the sex involved and instead of working on yourself, you are blaming her resulting actions!! I am happy you pointed out it all stems from your actions, in your mind you wanted her to wallow in her tears and self pity whenever she catches you!!! Ogbeni you can do better.

princeeze1:
Op are you not being hypocritical here? Which woman would catch you cheating and not go mad? Madness got levels to it, but you are the trigger! Would all hell not be let loose if reverse were the case and she was the one caught cheating severally? You are hoping to migrate to a saner clime where cheating is not tolerated no matter the sex involved and instead of working on yourself, you are blaming her resulting actions!! I am happy you pointed out it all stems from your actions, in your mind you wanted her to wallow in her tears and self pity whenever she catches you!!! Ogbeni you can do better.

naija4life247:


Solomon 700 wives and 300 side chicks did not kill him. Atiku Abubakar's 5 wives have not killed him. Obasanjo's numerous wives have not killed him. Why then should this guy's wife kill him?

naija4life247:
If you travel abroad with this type of mentally unstable woman, then we will read about your imprisonment here on Nairaland.

I wish you what you deserve.

It depends on the Abroad man... If they travel to Anti-feminist capital city of the world Saudi Arabia,

They will flog some sense into her really bad... Not minding that OP was the one provoking her

Richy4:


It depends on the Abroad man... If they travel to Anti-feminist capital city of the world Saudi Arabia,

They will flog some sense into her really bad... Not minding that OP was the one provoking her

Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you

Acidosis:


Na just Nordic countries, US, and the UK dey desperate about emasculating men.

You are correct.. each broken dish, 5 strokes of the 'kane' Broken TV attracts 9 strokes..

I equally saw your fear based on her anger issues.... She can possibly set the house on fire
She needs to go for an anger management classes..

If she was Angry, there are so many ways she can get to her man that will hurt him so bad ie if she truly knows him.. instead of destroying properties..

Richy4:


It depends on the Abroad man... If they travel to Anti-feminist capital city of the world Saudi Arabia,

They will flog some sense into her really bad... Not minding that OP was the one provoking her