Hello my nairaland barristers in the house.
I need advice on how to get divorced from the man for whom i have two children and from who i have seperated for 3 years running. How easy and quick can one get it done, and the cost ?

Thanks for your anticipated useful input.

PenSniper:
Hello my nairaland barristers in the house.
I need advice on how to get divorced from the man for whom i have two children and from who i have seperated for 3 years running. How easy and quick can one get it done, and the cost ?

Thanks for your anticipated useful input.

na here I dey, I want know the price.

It's sad.
Very sad.

May God lead you.

yuping:
na here I dey, I want know the price.

Are we in the same train then ?

naija4life247:
It's sad.
Very sad.

May God lead you.

Amen. Thanks for concerns.

PenSniper:
Hello my nairaland barristers in the house.
I need advice on how to get divorced from the man for whom i have two children and from who i have seperated for 3 years running. How easy and quick can one get it done, and the cost ?

Thanks for your anticipated useful input.

You're already good for divorce, because it's now over 2 years of living apart........


You would now need to get a divorce lawyer, work out shared custody of the children and expenses + any joint assets ........

Should cost about ₦300,000....... Remember, you would also need your family, return the bride price .........

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You're already good for divorce, because it's now over 2 years of living apart........


You would now need to get a divorce lawyer, work out shared custody of the children and expenses + any joint assets ........

Should cost about ₦300,000....... Remember, you would also need your family, return the bride price .........

Thanks a million.
Due to the fatal exigencies that led to the separation, the entire family, both parternal and maternal, were in support of the separation so getting them to return the dowery won't be an issue.
We really have no joint property and i was made to understand that if thr woman iniates the divorce proceedings, she automatically loses any claims to property. Is that true ? And what about the children ? The children are about 15 and 12 years old and none of them wants to live with their father unless i force them.
I am told that he is reluctant to initiate a divorce because, in that case, he would have to share his property with me. He actually sent a lawyer to tell me to initiate a divorce proceeding immediately after the seperation. Armed with the forgoing information, what do you advise ? I must add that he does not contribute to the educational needs of the children. Even while we were together, he had been found wanting in that sector. He now insists he would only pay their fees if they lived with him.
Thanks.

PenSniper:


Thanks a million.
Due to the fatal exigencies that led to the separation, the entire family, both parternal and maternal, were in support of the separation so getting them to return the dowery won't be an issue.
We really have no joint property and i was made to understand that if thr woman iniates the divorce proceedings, she automatically loses any claims to property. Is that true ? And what about the children ? The children are about 15 and 12 years old and none of them wants to live with their father unless i force them.
I am told that he is reluctant to initiate a divorce because, in that case, he would have to share his property with me. He actually sent a lawyer to tell me to initiate a divorce proceeding immediately after the seperation. Armed with the forgoing information, what do you advise ? I must add that he does not contribute to the educational needs of the children. Even while we were together, he had been found wanting in that sector. He now insists he would only pay their fees if they lived with him.
Thanks.

You already stated no property bw you, so nothing to share .........

It does not matter who initiates the divorce, the welfare of the children, is a joint responsibility (it would be sorted out between welfare, your lawyers and OPD)........

If any documents were forged, your lawyer would have the logistics to find that out .......

Lexusgs430:



You're already good for divorce, because it's now over 2 years of living apart........


You would now need to get a divorce lawyer, work out shared custody of the children and expenses + any joint assets ........

Should cost about ₦300,000....... Remember, you would also need your family, return the bride price .........

300k for Divorce.Na so e expensive reach?
Make people they deep reason wella before they get married o…

signature2012:


300k for Divorce.Na so e expensive reach?
Make people they deep reason wella before they get married o…

That's even assuming no complications, it could be higher sef ........

Before person pay dowry, ask about cost of divorce..... If divorce expensive pass dowry, babymama's is the solution.........

Lexusgs430:


That's even assuming no complications, it could be higher sef ........

Before person pay dowry, ask about cost of divorce..... If divorce expensive pass dowry, babymama's is the solution.........

I detest baby “mamarism”.

signature2012:


I detest baby “mamarism”.

You might detest it, but it's the new normal .........

Lexusgs430:



You might detest it, but it's the new normal .........

It has never been normal and it will never be.

signature2012:


It has never been normal and it will never be.

Ok o ........ When den dey get belle, blow must comot am........

Lexusgs430:



You already stated no property bw you, so nothing to share .........

It does not matter who initiates the divorce, the welfare of the children, is a joint responsibility (it would be sorted out between welfare, your lawyers and OPD)........

If any documents were forged, your lawyer would have the logistics to find that out .......

Thanks. I sincerely appreciate you.

Divorce is better than "suffering and smiling," that most people mistook as "endurance."

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Klass99:


Who asked you?

@ Pensniper, contact this nairalander user - Litigator.

He is a lawyer who can answer your questions well.

His contact info (email & phone) is listed on his NL profile

Lol

My suggestion ain't a bad idea.

MufasaLion:


Lol

My suggestion ain't a bad idea.

Thanks buddy.

Lexusgs430:


That's even assuming no complications, it could be higher sef ........

Before person pay dowry, ask about cost of divorce..... If divorce expensive pass dowry, babymama's is the solution.........

Which Nonsense babe mama.just avoid women qed

PenSniper:


Thanks a million.
Due to the fatal exigencies that led to the separation, the entire family, both parternal and maternal, were in support of the separation so getting them to return the dowery won't be an issue.
We really have no joint property and i was made to understand that if thr woman iniates the divorce proceedings, she automatically loses any claims to property. Is that true ? And what about the children ? The children are about 15 and 12 years old and none of them wants to live with their father unless i force them.
I am told that he is reluctant to initiate a divorce because, in that case, he would have to share his property with me. He actually sent a lawyer to tell me to initiate a divorce proceeding immediately after the seperation. Armed with the forgoing information, what do you advise ? I must add that he does not contribute to the educational needs of the children. Even while we were together, he had been found wanting in that sector. He now insists he would only pay their fees if they lived with him.
Thanks.

Good morning penSniper,

How are you doing today and how many pen shots have you taken?

We really have no joint property and i was made to understand that if thr woman iniates the divorce proceedings, she automatically loses any claims to property. Is that true ? And what about the children ? The children are about 15 and 12 years old and none of them wants to live with their father unless i force them.


The question here is; when were these properties acquired?

Was it acquired during the pendency or subsistence of the marriage?

If yes, then you have a legal right you can exercise as the wife of the marriage. This is because technically, you guys are still married in the eye of the law and you are still his legal wife. You are only estranged but technically married. To wit; you and your hubby decided to press the marriage pause button but now want to dissolve the marriage going forward due to irreconcilable differences.

The fact that you have decided to take the bull by the horn as the petitioner (the person initiating the divorce) does not ipso facto deny you any legal right that has been bestowed upon you statutorily. Your lawyer should be able to ensure you get your fair share if he knows what to do. Except there are exceptional circumstances pulverising your legal rights in respect thereof.


I must add that he does not contribute to the educational needs of the children. Even while we were together, he had been found wanting in that sector. He now insists he would only pay their fees if they lived with him.

He does not have the powers to suo moto decide this. Your lawyer will be able to pray the court for certain ancillary Orders mandating him to take responsibility for the upkeep of the children of the marriage and this includes; education, health, clothing, food, general maintenance and a roof over their head.

This means he will be partly responsible for your house rent. If I may ask, was your marriage contracted under the Marriage Act? If yes, who is in possession of the marriage certificate?


Should you have further questions, I will advise we reach discuss in private as I will not advise you to put private facts in public space. My WhatsApp number is on my signature.

signature2012:


300k for Divorce.Na so e expensive reach?
Make people they deep reason wella before they get married o…

Marriage Union is even more expensive

I am also a divorce lawyer, I defend beautiful ladies below 30 only, you can reach out, thanks

litigator:




Good morning penSniper,

How are you doing today and how many pen shots have you taken?

We really have no joint property and i was made to understand that if thr woman iniates the divorce proceedings, she automatically loses any claims to property. Is that true ? And what about the children ? The children are about 15 and 12 years old and none of them wants to live with their father unless i force them.


The question here is; when were these properties acquired?

Was it acquired during the pendency or subsistence of the marriage?

If yes, then you have a legal right you can exercise as the wife of the marriage. This is because technically, you guys are still married in the eye of the law and you are still his legal wife. You are only estranged but technically married. To wit; you and your hubby decided to press the marriage pause button but now want to dissolve the marriage going forward due to irreconcilable differences.

The fact that you have decided to take the bull by the horn as the petitioner (the person initiating the divorce) does not ipso facto deny you any legal right that has been bestowed upon you statutorily. Your lawyer should be able to ensure you get your fair share if he knows what to do. Except there are exceptional circumstances pulverising your legal rights in respect thereof.


I must add that he does not contribute to the educational needs of the children. Even while we were together, he had been found wanting in that sector. He now insists he would only pay their fees if they lived with him.

He does not have the powers to suo moto decide this. Your lawyer will be able to pray the court for certain ancillary Orders mandating him to take responsibility for the upkeep of the children of the marriage and this includes; education, health, clothing, food, general maintenance and a roof over their head.

This means he will be partly responsible for your house rent. If I may ask, was





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your marriage contracted under the Marriage Act? If yes, who is in possession of the marriage certificate?


Should you have further questions, I will advise we reach discuss in private as I will not advise you to put private facts in public space. My WhatsApp number is on my signature.

Thanks.

https://www.nairaland.com/5727592/no-erection-problem

PenSniper, errm sorry to ask. Did you create this topic for a friend? Because I am not understanding. The above thread leaves me confused since it was created by you

Beremx:
https://www.nairaland.com/5727592/no-erection-problem

PenSniper, errm sorry to ask. Did you create this topic for a friend? Because I am not understanding. The above thread leaves me confused since it was created by you

Yes, you're right. Very smart of you. Doing it for someone who has no access to a forum like this, atleast for now and the issue in discuss is assuming urgent consideration.
Thanks.

Beremx:
https://www.nairaland.com/5727592/no-erection-problem

PenSniper, errm sorry to ask. Did you create this topic for a friend? Because I am not understanding. The above thread leaves me confused since it was created by you

Would you have any useful input for me ?

Why are you going for divorce after separating for 3years and a blessing of 2 children?
Why not kuku enjoy your lives apart abi you have seen another man that wants to marry you with 2 grown up children.

I'm just beginning my own journey of separation but would settle with another woman soon because thank God my estranged wife has no kids. ( she left herself though not that I sent her packing)

Baba40:
Why are you going for divorce after separating for 3years and a blessing of 2 children?
Why not kuku enjoy your lives apart abi you have seen another man that wants to marry you with 2 grown up children.

I'm just beginning my own journey of separation but would settle with another woman soon because thank God my estranged wife has no kids. ( she left herself though not that I sent her packing)

But you're female

PenSniper:

But you're female

Lol, the guy forgot that he is a female.
So how far with the divorce process? Honestly I dont like when couples who were once in love with eachother and have fought many battles against their homes together, to now start thinking of divorce except there are cases of violence and life-threatening differences. I wish the two of you could swallow the pride by coming together and tackling the problem headlong. It is well sha.

kernniejay:

Lol, the guy forgot that he is a female.
So how far with the divorce process? Honestly I dont like when couples who were once in love with eachother and have fought many battles against their homes together, to now start thinking of divorce except there are cases of violence and life-threatening differences. I wish the two of you could swallow the pride by coming together and tackling the problem headlong. It is well sha.

You got it. This was a life-threatening situation. So there is no going back. Escape for dear life by the whiskers !!!

PenSniper:


You got it. This was a life-threatening situation. So there is no going back. Escape for dear life by the whiskers !!!

Oh, that is serious! In that case, I support that you move without hesitation though I wish to know the details.