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WHEN YOU STOP CARING

I have come to realise that we have this attitude of castigating or sending the wrong signals on people when they fail to do our bidding, illrespective of the fact that they have their own problems to deal with.

We are quick to know who has changed but we dont care to know why they changed, we are hesitant to judge them while we keep our own short comings to the back, we slander and even go ahead to inflict pain because they chose to be themselves.

He was always there for them, he has no life of his own, he became a shadow of himself to satisfy the other's desires and needs yet he was taken for granted and used like a tool without maintenance.

He then changed and became more conscious, he allowed himself to be free and made himself a priority, he took care of himself and cared less, he had a life of his own, set goals and lived out his dreams, he became happier than ever.

When they saw he was happier they felt bad, they waged war against him and fought him to the knees, they wanted to limit him and make him a subject of scorn but he refused them, oh, because he stop caring, he is now declared the enemy.

Often times, we just want to Lord and rule over some other people's life, we feel we are in charge of their lives, we want them to always do our bidding and take instructions from us yet we subject them to emotional torture so unbearable to accept, but the very moment when they revolt we want to nail them to the spike and even make a show of them.

Learn to allow people be themselves, learn to accept changes you effected or not in the life's of people you feel you have control over, stop being to judgemental and bossy in the life of any one, even a little baby has access to privacy and respect, hence even animals too, how you want to be treated is how you should learn to treat people always.

Eveyone wants to be served and pampered, many find it so easy to label others bad and project them as wicked because they fail to align with our thoughts and actions, how so convinent do we take others opinions are nothing even when they are making sence but support or project negativity as a trophy.

There are so many factors that makes some who was a care giver, a peace maker, a goal getter, a sacrifice addict and a servant to all, decides to stop all these and become more intensional about his actions, its is because he learnt in the hard way and became carefree about what others think about him and do just whatsoever pleases him without giving a thought to what people would say and do.

His actions has be prompted by pains, regerts, slander, insults, worry and fear of the unknown, he has been ambushed by the wars people dish to him for being a servant to all, but alas we see a changed man and we all wonder what happened and why did he change?

Hear this, befor you take a stone and cast on any one make sure you are better of than them on all sides, make sure you are in the best position to judge them and enjoin you have the guts to proffer better solutions.

Don't be the reason someone changed from bad to worse, from good to bad and when they see you to aviod you, then you tag them evil and wicked, never let the pains of others be the reason why you rejoice, rather be the object of a postive change.


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