aanuoluwami14:
Why asking?

thorpido:
You're obviously not ready for marriage and she is.
You also say you love her but do you love her enough to wed her?

uthlaw:
Don't try it,I don talk my own!

Gosh234:
I think this is the right section to post this to get the audience needed after posted earlier on Romance Section

I am 25 years while she is 30years
Currently doing my NYSC, while she deals on laptops and other accessories,which is going fine

We have stayed for a year and few months now
We are very compatible and of like minds
We love each other so much
Very decent
Responsible
And very humble all these while we have known

Whatever desired in a woman she has them all

On November,this started
She came to my house and after eating
She asked me out for a marriage and she doesn't mind footing all the bills and everything as regards to that

I never expected this because our agreement is to marry when any serious suitor comes

She isn't desperate because if she , I know of at least 3 of stable men with good source of income waiting just for her YES

I don't have a house of mine neither any source of income

She suggested I join her in business as well, as her business is my business as well while searching for a job

At same time I so much love her


Actually at this point
I don't know where to start

NB- Never knew she owns the business till months we have dated

Same as age gap because she looks damn younger than her age

Gosh234:
Actually at this point
I don't know where to start

NB- Never knew she owns the business till months we have dated

Same as age gap because she looks damn younger than her age

SeaTrade:
The bolded is a lie sha...
Financially stable guys(or rich by your description) waiting for the yes of a 30years old woman that peddles probably used laptops for small profits doesn't seem weird to you?...
That girl has her fingers way up the higher echelon of your developing brain.

Gosh234:
I think this is the right section to post this to get the audience needed after posted earlier on Romance Section

I am 25 years while she is 30years
Currently doing my NYSC, while she deals on laptops and other accessories,which is going fine

We have stayed for a year and few months now
We are very compatible and of like minds
We love each other so much
Very decent
Responsible
And very humble all these while we have known

Whatever desired in a woman she has them all

On November,this started
She came to my house and after eating
She asked me out for a marriage and she doesn't mind footing all the bills and everything as regards to that

I never expected this because our agreement is to marry when any serious suitor comes

She isn't desperate because if she , I know of at least 3 of stable men with good source of income waiting just for her YES

I don't have a house of mine neither any source of income

She suggested I join her in business as well, as her business is my business as well while searching for a job

At same time I so much love her


Actually at this point
I don't know where to start

NB- Never knew she owns the business till months we have dated

Same as age gap because she looks damn younger than her age

Gosh234:



She isn't desperate because if she , I know of at least 3 of stable men with good source of income waiting just for her YES

Kobojunkie:
Your relationship is already unique as it is. So it is erroneous to assume that those who have never had your kind of experience would know how to properly advice her in these things.

To begin with, no two relationships are the same and no two individuals the same, so you are the best place to know about this lady than anyone here or even in your family, I think.

As to whether you are ready for Marriage,only you know that too. You know if you are mature enough for the responsibilities and intricacies of a marriage. So you need to consider the points you point forth and look in wards to decide. If you need more time, you and your gal can decide that too.

InTheCloudySky:
Have your own source of income first. It's the same advice I would give to any female before getting married. Have a job, or business in which you're earning money from. As for her age, if you love her, shouldn't be a problem. I look 23 and I'm not 23, so age is really just a number.

Acidosis:


She is actually desperate and you don't know jack about those 3 "stable men". Saying "Yes" to any of those men will only get her laid. She knows this and that's why she's hell bent on funding her marriage with you. It takes nothing to tell a lady about marriage. It takes bravery to approach her family for a traditional marriage list. When it comes to the "former", she's seen it all at her age, she's experienced all the lies and disappointment and can see through the desperation of those 3 men. That's why she's never going to give them her attention.

I don't know what to say about getting married to someone 5 years older but do not get married while you're jobless. Her promises and intentions to fund the wedding are from a place of desperate kindness but here is the problem, the moment a man becomes too comfortable with this system, the man will hardly want to do anything. Sooner or later, you'll begin to irritate her. I am sure her thriving business and kindness are reasons you're considering marriage at this point. You don't want to lose a "kind" woman but it's a trap in disguise.

Do not push your responsibility to your woman unless the situation at hand is critical (e.g. loss of employment, sickness). Yours is not a critical case. There's nothing critical about an unmarried 25 year old boy.

Gosh234:
Thanks , getting a business of my own is the plan now, which is working out or getting a job

Acidosis:


Good. But having a business or job is not an automatic ticket to jump into marriage. Also, make sure you carry your family along to avoid wasting her time.

oldienavie:

You took your time to really educate him, but from what I am seeing, this 25year old guy seems to have the exposure of an 18 year old.
A 30 year old lady who is 5 years older than you is saying she will pay her own bride price just for you to marry her and you think it is out of love.
OP should go and read about Tonto DIke and CHurchill, it will end in premium tears...

VeeVeeMyLuv:
There is one program I watched recently on DStv

In the program there was this guest couple that introduced themselves, the man (husband) say 25 years the young woman (wife) says 26. They have a 4 years son together.

The host who was far older than them was stunned as in shell shocked funny man...

How many times have we seen women that were once slim like "l" multiply in size immediately they put to birth? They blow out of proportion into teddy bears.

Well it all depends on you sha. It is up to you!

MufasaLion:


Your story doesn't add up.

VeeVeeMyLuv:

Watch restaurant impossible on REALtime on dstv (I can't remember the season & episode now).

MufasaLion:


I'm gonna check but then, how could a couple that ain't up to 30 years have a 24-year-old child?

VeeVeeMyLuv:

Bros check well what I wrote is a 4 year old boy!