blessedoluseun:
I want to help a B.sc Single Mother with 650k to start a business but am afraid of this Wicked World.
Note: am not Yet Married, we haven't slept together, kiss or Fun & never send any Love messages.
Good afternoon Nairaland, a Male colleague asked for advice pls Honestly comment.
Below is what he told me:
1. This Single mother is Graduate, with male Child 
2. Her Pregnancy is out of Wedlock, the Man has engaged anoda Woman is his house),
3. Her Mother & Father died, (accident)
4. The only Child for her mother while she has Step-brother & Step-Sister  She needed a job and came to the front of our Company office for Job, that time, I went for Lunch. approached me, pleaded to gain access H.R.  we dont know ourselves from adam.I submitted  Since Last year, but not yet Called, but she still pesting me to push her CV which i DID ..  no vacancy for her yet. But she will get Job b4 December 2022 (am very Sure)
now Yesterday She ask me if i can Get a loan for her to Start Grocery/Mini Supermarket. & she said she has experience.In my mind i want to give her, but i told her i will borrow from my company for her.
Now the Problem, She said cos of my attitude & Generocity Since when we met,  she want to setup the business in my area for me to Supervise it also. & she will be paying the loan weekly.
she said She will stay with me in my flat Till she is financially buoyant then get her own apartment.. House Where is living now will expire this monthend.
Pls advice me.. We both sat down & plan the 650k today for the growth of the business. But i want to take advise from Nairaland to  Either cancel the plan or Modify the Plan or Start it.
PLS advise
 if to cancel it: i will tell her my company refused to give me the Loan.
If to modify the plan :  pls tell me & advice me
if to Start the Plan: pls tell me & advice me
Thank you
@Kobojunkie:
My relationship with this lady is Just an acquittance but i do sent money to her if she ask me (once in a while)

U no c ur fellow man help...just go to any river and throw away the money...na waste u wan waste it 650k u go still come here day find police man wey go help u recover the money..

Use Ur head

blessedoluseun:


This is real life issue. I and the guy involved , we are both reading the comments...
pls this not a fake thread.. we both work in Ibadan, Inside holdup like this currently

IT IS real my dear

I'm in ibadan too sir... I need a job... will be glad if you link me up sir

blessedoluseun:


This is real life issue. I and the guy involved , we are both reading the comments...
pls this not a fake thread.. we both work in Ibadan, Inside holdup like this currently

IT IS real my dear

btw... help her only as a good samaritan. Give what you can let go. Define the relationship and never allow her stay with you, the moment you have sex... the agreement changes; I'm familiar with their ways and youd be surprised that she'd assume shes paying with sex and the little house chores shes doing. Most women tend to act like they love you when there are stuffs to gain. And single mothers are even more difficult to deal with

Sounds like a bad idea.
1)Borrowing money to give as loan to someone who barely know.
2) what does her being a single mom have to do with any of this?
3)And why is she moving in with you if there’s nothing between you too?

Not a wise move.

Truth be told, you may not be the generous person you think you are. I’m thinking this way because of your focus on her single mother status. Some guys see single moms as desperate women that they can easily have their way with. I don’t see why you’re considering having her live with you if you don’t already foresee something happening.

Your only problem may be that you don’t know how to do that without losing your money in the process. As in, you want to eat your cake and have it back. Meanwhile she’s also looking for someone to use in that manner. So either suck it up and give her what she wants while you also get what you want or you just tell her No and move on. Stop trying to use our heads

blessedoluseun:
I want to help a B.sc Single Mother with 650k to start a business but am afraid of this Wicked World.
Note: am not Yet Married, we haven't slept together, kiss or Fun & never send any Love messages.
Good afternoon Nairaland, a Male colleague asked for advice pls Honestly comment.
Below is what he told me:
1. This Single mother is Graduate, with male Child 
2. Her Pregnancy is out of Wedlock, the Man has engaged anoda Woman is his house),
3. Her Mother & Father died, (accident)
4. The only Child for her mother while she has Step-brother & Step-Sister  She needed a job and came to the front of our Company office for Job, that time, I went for Lunch. approached me, pleaded to gain access H.R.  we dont know ourselves from adam.I submitted  Since Last year, but not yet Called, but she still pesting me to push her CV which i DID ..  no vacancy for her yet. But she will get Job b4 December 2022 (am very Sure)
now Yesterday She ask me if i can Get a loan for her to Start Grocery/Mini Supermarket. & she said she has experience.In my mind i want to give her, but i told her i will borrow from my company for her.
Now the Problem, She said cos of my attitude & Generocity Since when we met,  she want to setup the business in my area for me to Supervise it also. & she will be paying the loan weekly.
she said She will stay with me in my flat Till she is financially buoyant then get her own apartment.. House Where is living now will expire this monthend.
Pls advice me.. We both sat down & plan the 650k today for the growth of the business. But i want to take advise from Nairaland to  Either cancel the plan or Modify the Plan or Start it.
PLS advise
 if to cancel it: i will tell her my company refused to give me the Loan.
If to modify the plan :  pls tell me & advice me
if to Start the Plan: pls tell me & advice me
Thank you
@Kobojunkie:
My relationship with this lady is Just an acquittance but i do sent money to her if she ask me (once in a while)

Note that once you exhibit any form of intimacy or romance, consider the loan and forgotten.

Borrow money to a woman and cohabit with her and expecting refund. What a "good mix" and "wonderful expectation"

Brother all your senses have disappeared.

cococandy:



Your only problem may be that you don’t know how to do that without losing your money in the process. As in, you want to eat your cake and have it back. Meanwhile she’s also looking for someone to use in that manner. So either suck it up and give her what she wants while you also get what you want or you just tell her No and move on. Stop trying to use our heads

hanging out with the er poors and you basically realise that in nigeria, for them the whole business of sex is a zero sum game where each partner is trying to one -up the other.

it is a transaction. sex for money. the game is now how much sex do i get without money, or how much money do i get out of teh guy with minimal sex.

author=GloriousGbola


he game is now how much sex do i get without money, or how much money do i get out of teh guy with minimal sex.

They are definitely trying to one up each other. He’s here to learn how best to go about it

blessedoluseun:
I want to help a B.sc Single Mother with 650k to start a business but am afraid of this Wicked World.
Note: am not Yet Married, we haven't slept together, kiss or Fun & never send any Love messages.
Good afternoon Nairaland, a Male colleague asked for advice pls Honestly comment.
Below is what he told me:
1. This Single mother is Graduate, with male Child 
2. Her Pregnancy is out of Wedlock, the Man has engaged anoda Woman is his house),
3. Her Mother & Father died, (accident)
4. The only Child for her mother while she has Step-brother & Step-Sister  She needed a job and came to the front of our Company office for Job, that time, I went for Lunch. approached me, pleaded to gain access H.R.  we dont know ourselves from adam.I submitted  Since Last year, but not yet Called, but she still pesting me to push her CV which i DID ..  no vacancy for her yet. But she will get Job b4 December 2022 (am very Sure)
now Yesterday She ask me if i can Get a loan for her to Start Grocery/Mini Supermarket. & she said she has experience.In my mind i want to give her, but i told her i will borrow from my company for her.
Now the Problem, She said cos of my attitude & Generocity Since when we met,  she want to setup the business in my area for me to Supervise it also. & she will be paying the loan weekly.
she said She will stay with me in my flat Till she is financially buoyant then get her own apartment.. House Where is living now will expire this monthend.
Pls advice me.. We both sat down & plan the 650k today for the growth of the business. But i want to take advise from Nairaland to  Either cancel the plan or Modify the Plan or Start it.
PLS advise
 if to cancel it: i will tell her my company refused to give me the Loan.
If to modify the plan :  pls tell me & advice me
if to Start the Plan: pls tell me & advice me
Thank you
@Kobojunkie:
My relationship with this lady is Just an acquittance but i do sent money to her if she ask me (once in a while)

Pls cancel dat plan!!!
Not bitter nor against helping........but it i’d be better if u channel it to your fellow Co man.......cos forever will he worship and treasure u............

As for that lady.........most she had do to appreciate u back is through sex..........forget her plans and promises bout remitting it will never happen .......that’s if she wouldn’t take your generosity as WEAKNESS..........hence taken u for granted!!!!!

Pls and please don’t!!!!!

[/b]Have helped girls so many times........and I regretted it all.........

Just consider yourself a married man and a father.

You will get burnt if you dabble into this thing you want to do with a woman whose relationship with you is not defined.

I see premium tears

This I have seen (in falseprophet1 voice)

The OP is asking for trouble.

Humans are a continuous disappointment, especially my countrymen. I have learned that the best way to help people is to dash them money. Loaning or investing in their business is usually a waste.

I have invested severally in people's businesses and then they default. Not one was able to fully honor the agreement. Loan is even worse, they never pay back and the irony is that they want to come back for more. We can even see the way they treat loan apps in this country.

The bottom line is to just give and don't expect anything back. Unfortunately, that will usually lead to just given little handouts and nothing major.

Righteousness2:
If you willing to assist her with the Loan, do it.
But let me Admonish and Warn you! Stay away from her. Let her not stay with you.
That will be a trap! And will Finish you off.

LOVE WHAT YOU WROTE, SHE IS SETTING TRAP FOR YOU. SHE HAS SLEPT WITH YOU ALREADY IN HER MIND. RUNAWAY FROM HER.
SYMPATHY IS GRADUALLY SETTING IN. USE YOUR HEAD

Since shes an orphan help her with any amount to start table market & dnt expect payback pending on when she will secure a job. To avoid story that toches dnt acommodate her, body no be firewood