NoFucksToGive:

Paddy you read my mind now...

My colleague lost his 5 year old daughter.. I don't know how to visit him and what to say oooo

how the hell do you do that?

What the hell am I going to say ?

I am just weak ... He hasn't been coming to work its been over 1 week now ... Do I just wait till he resumes and pretend I just heard ?

larrypourl:


Go visit the family before he resumes

NoFucksToGive:


You think it's easy ?

AnonyUser:
I'm thankful to all the contributors on my previous thread here: https://www.nairaland.com/7032114/how-greet-neighbor-just-gave

I took the advice of some matured Nairalanders, rehearsed them couple of times, went with a little courage and overcame.

Some people from my previous thread were asking me what's difficult in going to greet someone who gave birth?

Well, that's what makes us different. To you it's easy. But for some of my type, it's very difficult.

The one I hate more than anything is going for condolence visit. I don't know of any other visit as hard as that. I always avoid that sh!t

Anyways, once again, thank you all.

deavicky:
hope na my advice you use.

visijo:
Igbo parents apologizing to their kids like "It's ok, I said it's ok before mmawa gi anya now"

AnonyUser:
I'm thankful to all the contributors on my previous thread here: https://www.nairaland.com/7032114/how-greet-neighbor-just-gave

I took the advice of some matured Nairalanders, rehearsed them couple of times, went with a little courage and overcame.

Some people from my previous thread were asking me what's difficult in going to greet someone who gave birth?

Well, that's what makes us different. To you it's easy. But for some of my type, it's very difficult.

The one I hate more than anything is going for condolence visit. I don't know of any other visit as hard as that. I always avoid that sh!t

Anyways, once again, thank you all.

cho25bc:


Lol. From your posts, i can see that you are an extreme introvert who hardly talks verbally to people around you. Like, maybe you keep to yourself a lot and stay indoors all day. Perhaps, your most comfortable mode of communication is chatting on social media but when it comes to real conversations, you lose ideas.

I believe most of what i guessed about you are wrong but if im right, then you might need to go out more and interact with people on phone and around you.

Going for a visit to greet parents of a newborn baby is not difficult at all, even condolence visits. You are not the father of the child nor the family of the deceased. You dont need special and prolonged words to express yourself on both occasions.

For the newborn visit, just say. "Congratulations ooo. God will bless and preserve the baby ooo. When is the naming ceremony? See how e resemble him papa and mama? This baby is so beautiful." That's all.

Then drop your gift (cash or kind), sit for a while with the parents. If they allow you to carry the baby, fine. Carry the baby for a few minutes, smile at him or her all the while s/he's in your arms. Within 10 mins, you are done. Tell them you will still come back later to play with the baby, then leave. It doesnt matter again if you dont return to the house. You have played your part. One thing is that you should never go there without gifting them something. They will need it at this crucial time. And it's a way of blessing the newborn and welcoming him/her to this world. Even the 3 wise men went to visit baby Jesus with precious gifts.

About the condolence visit. The same way you visit new parents is the same way you will visit a bereaved family, but this time, instead of a smile, your expression will be sober. All you have to say is. "Im so sorry about what happened. S/he was a good man/woman/guy/girl when he was alive. May his/her soul rest in peace. Please take heart and be strong. May God give you the strength to go through this trying time. Accept my condolence." If any other prayer point comes to your mind, add it to this address. When you are done, excuse yourself and leave if you dont want to stay there for long. You can shake hands with the family members or just pat their shoulders lightly while telling them about the incident. If you have any money, give it to one of the oldest members of the family or the closest person among them that you know, maybe your friend or girlfriend. You can also ask the cause of death (if you didnt know this before). You can also ask for burial arrangements so that you can attend (if you wish).

You did well by visiting your neighbor though. That's commendable.

SUPERBLOOM:
you are more than a conquoror

AnonyUser:


You are very correct. I'm an extreme introvert. I find it difficult to communicate with even people closest to me.

It has always been just me and my thoughts. Social media is the only place I express my self.

I appreciate your input. Thank you

cho25bc:


I guess as much. Hope you can woo a girl like this sha?

You are welcome

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AnonyUser:




About that... Well, that would be a topic of another day.

But I guess that shouldn't be any difficult

Laeroy:
Please fellow nairalanders who are Yoruba, how do you greedy someone who just lost a loved one in Yoruba?

Olayinka8793:
if the deceased is an old man or woman, you say "eku aseinde mama o (or 'baba o', depending on gender of the deceased), olohun a fori jiwon. Omo rere lo ma gbeyin wa o.


If the deceased is a young person, you say "eku ijoko o, e pele o, a o ni ri iru e mo o. Olohun a fori jin"

AnonyUser:
I'm thankful to all the contributors on my previous thread here: https://www.nairaland.com/7032114/how-greet-neighbor-just-gave

I took the advice of some matured Nairalanders, rehearsed them couple of times, went with a little courage and overcame.

Some people from my previous thread were asking me what's difficult in going to greet someone who gave birth?

Well, that's what makes us different. To you it's easy. But for some of my type, it's very difficult.

The one I hate more than anything is going for condolence visit. I don't know of any other visit as hard as that. I always avoid that sh!t

Anyways, once again, thank you all.

MAGG0T:



I know say you use alcohol wash eyes first
You no get liver ordinarily.