Ephetar:
Hello wonderful Nairalanders... Please I'll need advise from experienced parents. God blessed my family two weeks ago with a wonderful baby. But here's my little challenge, the baby prefers sleeping all through the day and doesn't sleep for long at night waking us up every 2 hours or thereabout. My MIL said it's normal but this lack of sleep is affecting my work and my sharpness during the day... Please is there anyway we can change his sleep cycle and make him sleep more at night instead of during the day...We are new parents please...

Yea I cried during my time. Its a stage, the baby will adjust

Jennyclay:
1. Train up a child in the way of the lord; even when he is old he will not depart from it. proverbs 22:6

2. Don't give him the redpill to swallow except you want him to be constituting nuisance on every social media platform like GooodHardDick, Smellysperm, TheGidRedpiller and co, But rather give him the blue pill so that he can be romantic and wise.

3. Give him quality and moral education, also focus on his talent and help him build his talents.

4. Build a cordial relationship between you and your son. Don't instill fear in him.

Congratulations to you! I pray God provide for you to take good care of your family.

You made a valid point but number 2 sounds very funny. Must you mention their names?

Ephetar:

Lol... thank you... it's not easy though...the stress of Lagos alone is enough headache for me...I drive about an hour to work and another one hour back coupled with the crazy traffic only to come back and not sleep well...But I'm proud to be a father nonetheless...I love my boy so much and I'll always be there for him and wifey

I'm happy for you.

Fatigue is something all parents complain about at the beginning but you and wifey can and should make it easier for yourselves by taking turns. It's important you do because it's not something that will get better within a week or two. It takes months till babies sleep for more than three hours without waking up. And you really need to be fit so that you do not fall asleep while driving. Talk to your wife and ask her if she would be ok with the solution I suggested here or maybe you find a different and better solution. Either way, I hope you guys will manage the situation and fatigue in a way that you can enjoy parenthood.

Aside from their cute faces and soft bodies, little children are problem.

From crying all night, they will become so active that they might turn you into mad person and they can't even help themselves with the littlest task not even feeding.

Na so you go dey shout command up and down. Abeg children get wahala especially boys.

You still have it easier OP
At least you started with one, in our case we're learning on the job with 2 (six weeks old today).
To say I'm stressed is an understatement.
Don't even want to imagine how I'll survive these next few months living like this like I'm literally taking it day by day.

Hathor5:


I'm happy for you.

Fatigue is something all parents complain about at the beginning but you and wifey can and should make it easier for yourselves by taking turns. It's important you do because it's not something that will get better within a week or two. It takes months till babies sleep for more than three hours without waking up. And you really need to be fit so that you do not fall asleep while driving. Talk to your wife and ask her if she would be ok with the solution I suggested here or maybe you find a different and better solution. Either way, I hope you guys will manage the situation and fatigue in a way that you can enjoy parenthood.

Thanks

Karleb:
Aside from their cute faces and soft bodies, little children are problem.

From crying all night, they will become so active that they might turn you into mad person and they can't even help themselves with the littlest task not even feeding.

Na so you go dey shout command up and down. Abeg children get wahala especially boys.

TypicallyBrunt:
You still have it easier OP
At least you started with one, in our case we're learning on the job with 2 (six weeks old today).
To say I'm stressed is an understatement.
Don't even want to imagine how I'll survive these next few months living like this like I'm literally taking it day by day.

Lol...God is your strength and muscle o... Congratulations

Ephetar:


Lol....Yea wifey is on mat leave and MIL is around...The issue is that he cries whenever he wakes up to feed and once I hear that cry I won't sleep again till morning...Nawa o ... please at what age will he revert back to normal sleep cycle? It's really not easy being a father....

Learn to sleep after waking up. Since your MIL is around, let the baby sleep in her room provided your wife have extracted enough breast milk for the night and that way, you are not exposed to the noise.

Is your wife planning to go to work after the usual 3 months maternity leave? You also have to factor that into the care of the child. Because your wife will work all day and come back to stay awake all night again. It can drive the weak insane.
Also your MIL is a human too, when that stage comes, don’t leave it all to her. The three of you should band together and make it work. Na so life be.

Congratulations

TypicallyBrunt:
You still have it easier OP
At least you started with one, in our case we're learning on the job with 2 (six weeks old today).
To say I'm stressed is an understatement.
Don't even want to imagine how I'll survive these next few months living like this like I'm literally taking it day by day.

congratulations

Ephetar:


Lol...God is your strength and muscle o... Congratulations

E no easy fa
Congratulations too.
Hope you have learnt how to prepare the formula and change pampers?

cococandy:
congratulations

Thanks Cococandy

GboyegaD:


Learn to sleep after waking up. Since your MIL is around, let the baby sleep in her room provided your wife have extracted enough breast milk for the night and that way, you are not exposed to the noise.

Thanks

cococandy:
Is your wife planning to go to work after the usual 3 months maternity leave? You also have to factor that into the care of the child. Because your wife will work all day and come back to stay awake all night again. It can drive the weak insane.
Also your MIL is a human too, when that stage comes, don’t leave it all to her. The three of you should band together and make it work. Na so life be.

Congratulations

MIL that will go in a month's time? I really don't know how we are going to cope when her Mat leave is over... and she doesn't want a live in nanny...

TypicallyBrunt:


E no easy fa
Congratulations too.
Hope you have learnt how to prepare the formula and change pampers?

Yes o...I can change diaper and feed him...I want to learn how to bath him but Comrade no gree...

Ephetar:


MIL that will go in a month's time? I really don't know how we are going to cope when her Mat leave is over... and she doesn't want a live in nanny...

I can’t imagine that it would be easy.
If you guys get a live-in nanny and god forbid something goes wrong, everyone will blame her for bringing someone to come and live with her.
But if she decides not to go back to work, they’ll also say she’s a lazy leech.
You could consider crèche for infants so that at the end of the work day you or her can go pick the baby up.

I’ll tell you what worked for us. At my job I only have to work 3 days to count as full time with all benefits. So I chose to work weekends and my husband worked weekdays. So he took care of the kids during the weekend and I took care of them during the week. When we needed time off, we tried to make it happen at the same time so that we can have a few weeks off work at the same time. Otherwise we wouldn’t have made it.

See if it’s possible for you to come to an arrangement like that. If not, maybe a different family member from your side or hers can come over. Good luck.

cococandy:

I can’t imagine that it would be easy.
If you guys get a live-in nanny and god forbid something goes wrong, everyone will blame her for bringing someone to come and live with her.
But if she decides not to go back to work, they’ll also say she’s a lazy leech.
You could consider crèche for infants so that at the end of the work day you or her can go pick the baby up.

I’ll tell you what worked for us. At my job I only have to work 3 days to count as full time with all benefits. So I chose to work weekends and my husband worked weekdays. So he took care of the kids during the weekend and I took care of them during the week. When we needed time off, we tried to make it happen at the same time so that we can have a few weeks off work at the same time. Otherwise we wouldn’t have made it.

See if it’s possible for you to come to an arrangement like that. If not, maybe a different family member from your side or hers can come over. Good luck.

Wow... thanks cococandy...

cococandy:

I can’t imagine that it would be easy.
If you guys get a live-in nanny and god forbid something goes wrong, everyone will blame her for bringing someone to come and live with her.
But if she decides not to go back to work, they’ll also say she’s a lazy leech.
You could consider crèche for infants so that at the end of the work day you or her can go pick the baby up.

I’ll tell you what worked for us. At my job I only have to work 3 days to count as full time with all benefits. So I chose to work weekends and my husband worked weekdays. So he took care of the kids during the weekend and I took care of them during the week. When we needed time off, we tried to make it happen at the same time so that we can have a few weeks off work at the same time. Otherwise we wouldn’t have made it.

See if it’s possible for you to come to an arrangement like that. If not, maybe a different family member from your side or hers can come over. Good luck.

When you have kids you realize the importance of TRUSTED family members! .

OP by now you should be going to interview Crèches to see which is most suitable for your son. Also consider bringing in RESPONSIBLE and TRUSTED family members. Since her mom is going, you can bring your mom to help out. You try your best to rotate to the other once one gets tired and runs away. You try to settle them small for their work because it’s not easy taking care of these tiny humans. Even you now will appreciate their Crèche carers.

You can also get close family Nanny recommendations. This is a nanny that will come and go home. Especially when your mother is there because husband mothers, most of the time their shakara is too much. Like their son is baby Jesus . So your mum will watch the nanny.

Trusted family is highly Underrated.

Someone you can have peace of mind when you leave your kids with. It’s definitely something to treasure.

OP should be taking them shopping, money, spa treatment

baby124:

When you have kids you realize the importance of TRUSTED family members! .

OP by now you should be going to interview Crèches to see which is most suitable for your son. Also consider bringing in RESPONSIBLE and TRUSTED family members. Since her mom is going, you can bring your mom to help out. You try your best to rotate to the other once one gets tired and runs away. You try to settle them small for their work because it’s not easy taking care of these tiny humans. Even you now will appreciate their Crèche carers.

Jennyclay:
1. Train up a child in the way of the lord; even when he is old he will not depart from it. proverbs 22:6

2. Don't give him the redpill to swallow except you want him to be constituting nuisance on every social media platform like GooodHardDick, Smellysperm, TheGidRedpiller and co, But rather give him the blue pill so that he can be romantic and wise.

3. Give him quality and moral education, also focus on his talent and help him build his talents.

4. Build a cordial relationship between you and your son. Don't instill fear in him.

Congratulations to you! I pray God provide for you to take good care of your family.

Jennyclay, this your number two advice off me.

She say "don't give him the redpill".

Ephetar:
Hello wonderful Nairalanders... Please I'll need advise from experienced parents. God blessed my family two weeks ago with a wonderful baby. But here's my little challenge, the baby prefers sleeping all through the day and doesn't sleep for long at night waking us up every 2 hours or thereabout. My MIL said it's normal but this lack of sleep is affecting my work and my sharpness during the day... Please is there anyway we can change his sleep cycle and make him sleep more at night instead of during the day...We are new parents please...

He's too young to try sleep patterns. But as he grows older, he may change. If he doesn't, his sleep during the daytime should be controlled to allow him sleep longer at night.

Ephetar:


Yes o...I can change diaper and feed him...I want to learn how to bath him but Comrade no gree...

Little comrade sef know why.

He could get very slippery, so leave it to experienced. Abeg o!

cococandy:
Trusted family is highly Underrated.

Someone you can have peace of mind when you leave your kids with. It’s definitely something to treasure.

OP should be taking them shopping, money, spa treatment

Yes o. Better bribing o. So that they can be at your beck and call. That’s why it’s not good to go in with an aggressive and fighting stance cause you need these people these days, since help is no longer safe or reliable. Especially the mothers.

It's the Buhariflation. If you can afford it go and buy two years worth of diapers right now.

Molfix is the most economical last time I checked. You may want to do same with baby food but check the expiration dates first.

There is nothing you can do about your baby's sleep cycle. Prepare for a year or more of this.

You can also consider cbeebies type baby videos down the line.

To this day teletubbies are great and safe for holding babies attention.

It is safer for the baby to sleep in a crib than in the bed with you and madam.

Zero your mind to no knacking for the next 9 to 12 months.

baby124:

When you have kids you realize the importance of TRUSTED family members! .

OP by now you should be going to interview Crèches to see which is most suitable for your son. Also consider bringing in RESPONSIBLE and TRUSTED family members. Since her mom is going, you can bring your mom to help out. You try your best to rotate to the other once one gets tired and runs away. You try to settle them small for their work because it’s not easy taking care of these tiny humans. Even you now will appreciate their Crèche carers.

Thanks very much for this...But with the stories I'm hearing about crèche, I'm afraid it will be difficult for me to allow my son there... We're still looking at other options...Wifey had a previous side hustle...She might resign and concentrate on it since it gives her more time...we are still looking at some other options though...

baby124:
You can also get close family Nanny recommendations. This is a nanny that will come and go home. Especially when your mother is there because husband mothers, most of the time their shakara is too much. Like their son is baby Jesus . So your mum will watch the nanny.

My mum is quite far away and she's a civil servant...she never retire...

cococandy:
Trusted family is highly Underrated.

Someone you can have peace of mind when you leave your kids with. It’s definitely something to treasure.

OP should be taking them shopping, money, spa treatment

Mariangeles:


Little comrade sef know why.

He could get very slippery, so leave it to experienced. Abeg o!

Really? But I have watched the bath process so many times and I think it's something I can do...

GloriousGbola:
It's the Buhariflation. If you can afford it go and buy two years worth of diapers right now.

Molfix is the most economical last time I checked. You may want to do same with baby food but check the expiration dates first.

There is nothing you can do about your baby's sleep cycle. Prepare for a year or more of this.

You can also consider cbeebies type baby videos down the line.

To this day teletubbies are great and safe for holding babies attention.

It is safer for the baby to sleep in a crib than in the bed with you and madam.

Zero your mind to no knacking for the next 9 to 12 months.

2 years diapers ke? God pass Buhari and his inflation...Lol

Ephetar:


Really? But I have watched the bath process so many times and I think it's something I can do...

It is not as easy as it seems.
Just wait a bit more.