‘Amazing, heart-pounding sex’: 61 married men reveal why they cheat
By Eric Spitznagel
March 16, 2022 4:19pm Updated

"Randy," a Maryland man who’s been married for 20 years, is having multiple affairs — not just because he enjoys the sex. His mistresses, he says, offer something different from his wife.

His most current girlfriend, for example, is "always perfumed. She's always wearing sexy underwear. She's always attentive to my needs. You're not cutting a fart in front of each other. It's an oasis."

"Joe," another married man, said he likes cheating on his wife for the thrill. His current mistress and her husband have "both been to our house." If their spouses ever found out, her husband "would kill me, and then my wife would revive me so that she could kill me."

But that threat of violent retribution is what makes it fun. "The sex is absurd," Joe says. “It’s risk-your-life good."

These are just two of the 61 married American men who confess to their infidelity in "Cheatingland: The Secret Confessions of Men Who Stray" (Atria Books), out Tuesday. The author, a "journalist" (no other details are provided by the publisher), spent four years interviewing men, both in person and over the phone, for his investigation. All names and many identifying details of the men quoted have been changed, the author writes. Even the author goes by the pen name “Anonymous” in order to protect the men's identities.


An anonymous survey of 61 unfaithful married American men, the book "Cheatingland" delves into the contradiction of infidelity. "Cheating is, like, 'OK, let's get a greasy, sloppy double cheeseburger and chow down on that even though I know that it’s bad for my heart,'" explains "Peter" from Denver. "But it tastes so good in that moment."

Kobojunkie:
Marriage is definitely not for the faith of heart!

Mariangeles:


Faith of heart?

Kobojunkie:
faint*

Mariangeles:
Ok.
I been think say na new term wey I no know, so I say make I ask.