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Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Germi9: 11:42am On Apr 06, 2022 |
My brother RUN OOOOO |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Emaprince: 11:44am On Apr 06, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:You are right..but men deem it right to just ghost a woman or give excuses than to tell them in their faces how he no longer welcome their closeness because its becoming inappropriate. This because women don't take rejection lightly. The woman will develope a sudden hatred for him and even start speaking bad about him to her hubby..to the point both guys relationship will be soiled cos the hubby might be thinking his best friend wants to lay his wife. Women are manipulative. Take it or leave it. No woman likes to hear the truth..especially when it has to do with rejection. So best thing is to ghost them. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by chioma134: 11:56am On Apr 06, 2022 |
@Op cut off permanently from her. You don't want stories that touch. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by McCoy9067(m): 11:59am On Apr 06, 2022 |
Death loves calling you. Better flee from her. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by VULCAN(m): 12:06pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
You have spoken well. EmzyT: |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Testimony1988(m): 12:21pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
Cut off any healthy friendship you have with her. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Pharaohny: 12:32pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
Sixfiguresmart: You want us to give you go ahead on your bad intentions, you better cut her off ASAP |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Kobojunkie: 12:54pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
jaxxy:You don't need to know anyone so well to like em like that. That is typically the way crushes work, isn't it? Females don't always open up about their emotions to men especially in a place like Nigeria where society frowns on such things. Many even play good girl for as long as the feelings carry them hoping that one day the one they like will finally see and give them a chance. To you, the relationships were likely going nowhere but to them it may have been worth it investing even their time dating your friends to wait and see. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Kobojunkie: 1:01pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
LegitGirl:But that's actually the point. If she senses that she is being accused of something by him. She will have to gradually pull back or reevaluate her investment in the relationship and decide what to do next without necessarily spoiling the general rapport between them. The problem here stems from the fact that she and her own husband don't seem to have a rapport of their own and I can very much understand why she would seek to find friends outside who will listen and keep her company. I am not against a man and woman being friends. I have seen such friendships in my time and have had some too. What I am for is for it to be managed in a manner that is respectful to the unselfish goals and desires of those involved. If he wants to be a friend to his friend's wife, I see nothing wrong with that and if she wants to be friends with him, same. Such friendships can exist and remain healthy for decades if both individuals are willing to be honest with each other every step of the way is what I have observed and believe. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by myke92(m): 1:02pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
jaxxy: You deserve a medal. You actually know what's up. It's also what I do, and it always work very well. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Kobojunkie: 1:12pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
Emaprince:1. Men also don't take rejection lightly. Have you not seen the romance section on here littered with posts from men who can't seem to accept they have been dumped? Even the redpill group are made of men who instead took rejection to an extreme. This isn't a gender thing at all. Rejection is hard on both innies and outies. However, when the person needing to be rejected is a close friend, it is good to, in respect of your friendship, to be willing to honestly stand your case yet this while allowing the other person process it whichever way he or she will. These two are both married and believe they are simply friends. If one of them reveals to the other that he/she is having a hard time keeping the simple relationship going, ofcourse the other, not wanting to loose a good friendship may suggest a separation for the time being or something along those lines if the friendship is of value to him/her. However, if an absolute end to the relationship is what the one seeks, then it should also be communicated and the other allowed to deal in his/her way. What I noticed here is OP assuming to tell us about the friendship as if from her side without really letting us know if he himself is the one struggling. That is why I think he needs to be honest with her in order to resolve the friendship as best fits them both. 2. As for being manipulative, there is no difference between both genders as far as manipulation. If you observe children, you will note they are equally manipulative so no one gender has the edge as far as that is concerned. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by sonofElElyon: 1:20pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
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Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Freelance363: 1:36pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
when a woman starys comparing u to her husband,who happens to be ur friend,it is a bad sign,and u need to quickly step back. Such leads to affairs u both will regret. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by CashVessel(m): 1:41pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
Continue with your busy schedule excuses while making plans to scram permanently before goat will now eat yam or vice versa. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by LegitGirl(f): 1:47pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: @emboldened. I don't think it's okay for him to accuse her of something that's merely a potential. Especially if she has not remotely considered the possibility. I also do not think it's healthy for married people of opposite sexes to be such "close friend," talking for hours on end. Feelings will very easily develop and things will go south. So he should create a wide berth, but without in any way accusing her. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Aaaaarghmed(m): 1:51pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
Exit yourself from their midst |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Kobojunkie: 1:51pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
LegitGirl:1. That I why, again, I called for him to be honest with her, rather than what he claims his OP. 2. I don't have a problem with married people being friends with each other. I know of many who have been friends since high school and are now married to other individuals even as their friendships continue to blossom. Some are emotionally mature enough to handle such where others aren't. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Mobog(m): 2:06pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
The husband is a fool for asking you to call her often! What about his siblings, mother et al. My brother I told a friend who's a marriage man to disturb her husband instead of me. Perhaps, I no be company keeper! Pretend you're a busy man too, it'll become emotional. Stay away from fornication! |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Munzy14(m): 2:49pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
Sixfiguresmart:Don't betray him because of a woman. Most of them will want the face of otedola, in dangote's body and a ruggedity of Elon musk with a sprinkle of Putin. A bro before woman... The only woman before a bro is your mom, your sister, your wife or your daughter. She is shifting focus from her man to you, if I am you, I will give her a surface of Exactly what her man is to redirect her mindset to see it as all men are the same..Then fall back to her man. The more you give her exactly what she wanted, the more she drifts away from your friend. This a reason why I don't like making my friend's babe or wives too relaxed around me.. Women are wired differently..If she gets too closer, I wear my cold uniform... Na only my woman suppose enjoy the sweet and comfortable side of me...Any other must be in check..Before Ndaa's goat will chop Ndaa's yam. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by segcymoor(m): 2:51pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: But some particular set of ladies were very good at it.... takes a lot of wisdom to outsmart them |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Kobojunkie: 3:01pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
segcymoor:Not some particular ladies but instead some particular individuals ... gender has little or nothing to do with manipulation. Even children to it to their parents. And speaking of wisdom to outsmart manipulator... I know I no get the mental power to engage a manipulative character so in almost every instance I find myself with such person's, I jejely walk out of the relationship before it gets bad for me. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by superCleanworks(m): 3:22pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
Sixfiguresmart: So you are the jobless ome that knows how to spend time keeping women company that is why your friend gave you that assignment. I would be mad at any friend that gives me such task. Worst of all is you are still blind to the fact that your toes are already on the line already. You have crossed the line and nobody will listen to this yeye talk if events should turn against you right now. You would be the perfect scape goat for a totally avoidable matter. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by LegitGirl(f): 3:22pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: But it's not about what you're okay with. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Kobojunkie: 3:24pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
LegitGirl:I can only speak from personal conviction in this and all things. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Jackipapa: 3:44pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
I Blame Buhari! |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by segcymoor(m): 3:56pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: I agree with you completely....but trouble na my work...I Sabi how to play along Defend mechanism.... |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Kobojunkie: 3:58pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
segcymoor:I no like drama at all at all for this life of mine. I literally walk on people when they begin to drag what is drama around. Even for house, I no dey even make sound when argument dey happen. I go just sit down wait till them finish before I go continuing doing wetin I been dey do before. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Sixfiguresmart(m): 4:51pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
BriggsBryan:I do have a job. I can talk while at work for hours. At least 6 hours each work day. Get the point. My friend and I got jobs. His job is more tasking. He gets home exhausted and he has a lackadaisical approach to life. Try to understand the situation. Things happen fast. I knew there was a problem when I'd ask her to do something that she had already declined from her husband and she would oblige. He callously asks me to talk her into doing things. Is like he has no control of the woman. Pleading and begging and literally he hands her 200k each month without a track on how the cash is spent. But, I can track the cash. I am very detailed and I don't let a woman control me. I stand my ground but he gives in too easily. I dunno why. I try to get him to stand strong as a man and place his feet on the ground. What I see is that, she needs a man who is domineering. A man who strips off her educated wings and makes her understand that she is a woman and someone who needs protection. I feel weak. Is like their relationship hangs on my shoulder. I feel pity for him and sometimes pissed off. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by kkins25(m): 5:12pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:OP is confused because he too os feeling the "electromagnetic force of attraction".. ... |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Kobojunkie: 5:14pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
kkins25:Yeah, but he conveniently offloads the blame on the woman suggesting she is instead the one developing feelings for him .I.e. addicted to him... did you notice that? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by kkins25(m): 5:21pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:. Im only here to watch and learn from history. But who turms down amebi?? Kikikiki... My man has identified himself as a better 'man' than his friend. He has confessed to having more control of the wife than his friend. Where he got the idea that she loves him was probably formed in his own mind. women can be that complex(i won't forget my experience in sec school. i thought she liked me too ) "Pleading and begging and literally he hands her 200k each month without a track on how the cash is spent. But, I can track the cash.".. look what we have up there.. kikikiki... But it doesn't end there, there is more: "I am very detailed and I don't let a woman control me. I stand my ground but he gives in too easily. I dunno why. I try to get him to stand strong as a man and place his feet on the ground. What I see is that, she needs a man who is domineering. A man who strips off her educated wings and makes her understand that she is a woman and someone who needs protection.". Op, Tell us the truth!! ¡!!!!!!!!!!! 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Friend's Wife Always Loves Calling Me by Kobojunkie: 5:36pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
kkins25:Na wa ooo! |
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