cococandy:
Wouldn’t it be best for the wife to go get her own house too since owning property is alien to married women. That way the man can exert all the authority he wants in HIS HOUSE and she can do likewise in HER HOUSE. I mean since it’s not THEIR HOUSE

This is an anomaly.

Why should a wife and mother start a power tussle for influence over a man's attention, money and support?

Nobody sees nothing wrong in this situation?
Nairalanders come from dysfunctional homes?

I love the right wing!

Kobojunkie:
Full right over her son? Is he a toddler or retarded?

It is an uncomfortable reality that many adults around struggle with psychological separatedness (individuation) which is more prevalent with some sons and their mothers .

ImaIma1:
Trick question.

Even the mother knows that the wife has more rights in the house that she does.

For some mothers, it takes time to come to terms with that. Especially with their first sons.

Mindlog:
It is an uncomfortable reality that many adults around struggle with psychological separatedness (individuation) which is more prevalent with some sons and their mothers .

Nigeria matter dey give headache!

Nvm

Double0h7:


Only you know how you reached this conclusion

Lol, why would any wife think to build "her" own house? I know women build and own properties but I have never really seen a woman admitting that her husband's house is his house. It is so weird. Maybe the husband made her feel so?

It means the house your husband built is clearly only seen as his??

I ask because, my understanding is, when a man builds his house with his own money and he is married, both the man and wife see it as theirs.
The wife nor the husband does not go about thinking, "it is his house" but "our house" get?

So for you to be thinking of it as "his house" and with a future intention to owning "your house", man! The thing is confusing me.

So, even though you both are married, there is still a dichotomy to his things? I don't really get...

You don't really need to explain things to me, I am just trying to explain my state of mind when I read your post.

Mariangeles:


A na e meka gi e meka? So, what's the point?

It is what it is, why is it thw daughters of eve hate to hear d raw truth

Tradegood:




Red.piller demon, you can not destroy what GOD has planted, you can only try.
The institution of marriage shall wax stronger and stronger.
Men will love their wives in the home they both share.

You can't change it oga emmanuelbrown26 red.piller demon lover

i dont know why daughters of eve hates to hear d raw truth

I'm confused by this thread... comments retracted

emmanuelbrown26:

i dont know why daughters of eve hates to hear d raw truth

Any one that refuses the red.piller ideology na daughter of Eve

TiffanyJ:

Last I check, the Holy book said, "For the man shall leave his mother and father and the woman shall leave her mother and father and they shall become one." No be me talk am o,na Bible talk am.

Oga emmanuelbrown26, possessed by the red.piller demon wants to prove by stronghead that he knows more about marriage than the GOD who created marriage and gave us the instruction for a successful union.

Get thee behind me you red demon piller

Double0h7:


Did you read that particular statement in it's context?
My point was I couldn't tell a man that his mother can't live with us especially when he spent his money to build that home. My Point was it's wrong to tell him his mother couldn't live with us in her old age if the need arise. I would need to go and build a house of my own to justify that kind of entitlement.

Okay, I think I get now. It was all written from an argumentative point of view.
Yeah, i understood the context with which you wrote it but it also seemed like it was very personal.

If you noticed, my reply to you was a question, I wasn't so sure of what I was reading so i had to ask.

Mariangeles:


For some mothers, it takes time to come to terms with that. Especially with their first sons.

Yeah. It might take a while for some. But any wise mum can't drag rights in her son's house. No one dragged rights with her in her own husband's house.

Some mums just find a way to attach themselves to their sons thereby creating problems for the wives. If they had their lives separate from their sons, life would be better.

emmanuelbrown26:

i know that u daughters of eve will awlways vomit nonsence

your mother has full right in her own husband's house. Your house belongs to your dear wife so she has the full right

Your mother wouldn't even dare claim right in her son's house. She'd be enlightened if she does that

Elporo:


This is an anomaly.

Why should a wife and mother start a power tussle for influence over a man's attention, money and support?

Nobody sees nothing wrong in this situation?
Nairalanders come from dysfunctional homes?

I love the right wing!

What’s an anomaly is that two full grown adults decide to get married and build a home together yet somehow the woman is not regarded as a true partner in that home. It’s his house. Even though they built it together. And y’all are okay with such useless terminology. The man’s house. Under the man’s roof.
No wonder some women are hesitant to invest with their men.

It’s high time y’all stop.

Tradegood:


Any one that refuses the red.piller ideology na daughter of Eve




Oga emmanuelbrown26, possessed by the red.piller demon wants to prove by stronghead that he knows more about marriage than the GOD who created marriage and gave us the instruction for a successful union.

Get thee behind me you red demon piller

O YES? BCS I DIDNT SAY WHAT U WANTED TO HEAR

emmanuelbrown26:

O YES? BCS I DIDNT SAY WHAT U WANTED TO HEAR

You cannot say what I want to hear.
It is beyond the capacity of a red demon piller.

How can a young, supposedly sane man like you not understand boundaries?

Even when it is glaring to you that your refusal to set boundaries is causing a huge fire on the Mountain? And you can see the fire o.

But your, "Soldier go, e go go, soldier come, e go come" mentality, an unchanging characteric
of the red demon piller, go watch until house burn down because, the word "wife" alone dey pinch you for body.

Kobojunkie:
Full right over her son? Is he a toddler or retarded?

No Matter how grown a child is, parent will always be parent

talk2hb1:

No Matter how grown a child is, parent will always be parent

So, it is OK then for a wife's parent to police their daughter in her husband's house same way the husband's parents police him in his house?

Kobojunkie:
So, it is OK then for a wife's parent to police their daughter in her husband's house same way the husband's parents police him in his house?

Who said That?

talk2hb1:

Who said That?

Did you not post the comment below earlier in response to my asking whether the grown man in question was still a toddler or an imbe-cile?

talk2hb1:

No Matter how grown a child is, parent will always be parent

Tradegood:

Lol, why would any wife think to build "her" own house? I know women build and own properties but I have never really seen a woman admitting that her husband's house is his house. It is so weird. Maybe the husband made her feel so?

It means the house your husband built is clearly only seen as his??

I ask because, my understanding is, when a man builds his house with his own money and he is married, both the man and wife see it as theirs.
The wife nor the husband does not go about thinking, "it is his house" but "our house" get?

So for you to be thinking of it as "his house" and with a future intention to owning "your house", man! The thing is confusing me.

So, even though you both are married, there is still a dichotomy to his things? I don't really get...

You don't really need to explain things to me, I am just trying to explain my state of mind when I read your post.

some when built their own house as reaction to things around them 1 culture were women end up loosing what they built together as hubby and wife (eg brother ls of the late husband taking over things as per tradition and culture)
2 hubby has lots of children with different women the moment he dies whatever wealth will be divided among the kids and their mothers
3 having property or wealth being passed on direct to blood related people aka inheritance through blood line

then finally both wife and hubby can pass on wealth and property to their children (bloodline) and their wife/husbands would be be entitled to such wealth and property but on their children

in simple terms ( son/daughter -in - laws shouldnt inherit any bloodline pass on wealth/property

ZIMDRILL:


some when built their own house as reaction to things around them 1 culture were women end up loosing what they built together as hubby and wife (eg brother ls of the late husband taking over things as per tradition and culture)
2 hubby has lots of children with different women the moment he dies whatever wealth will be divided among the kids and their mothers
3 having property or wealth being passed on direct to blood related people aka inheritance through blood line

then finally both wife and hubby can pass on wealth and property to their children (bloodline) and their wife/husbands would be be entitled to such wealth and property but on their children

in simple terms ( son/daughter -in - laws shouldnt inherit any bloodline pass on wealth/property

Oh wow, can you revise what you wrote, I think there may have been typos. I didn't really get the first parts?

But explain to me ..
You left your parents home to build a life with your S.O. Isn't the home for both of you with equal authority. ? You may have the final authority but the hierarchy should be either of you and then a 3rd person.
How would you feel if your mother-in-law moves in with you and asserts some kind of authority over the home, you and your spouse built.

A wise parent in my book would never try to assert any form of authority in her children's home but rather make sure that her son is treating his wife with respect and love.

Kobojunkie:
Did you not post the comment below earlier in response to my asking whether the grown man in question was still a toddler or an imbe-cile?

Of course I did, so acknowledgement of one parents as a parent qualifies one to be an slowpoke or toddler?
Or am I missing where you are driving this to?

cococandy:


What’s an anomaly is that two full grown adults decide to get married and build a home together yet somehow the woman is not regarded as a true partner in that home. It’s his house. Even though they built it together. And y’all are okay with such useless terminology. The man’s house. Under the man’s roof.
No wonder some women are hesitant to invest with their men.

It’s high time y’all stop.

What if the man finances the whole project, is it still their house?

No one can exert authority over me but I am more sympathetic to my mother.

My mum loves me unconditionally, I can't say the same for a wife. There's always a special bond between mothers and their kids.

Even if I was dirt poor and hungry, I know one person on earth would have my back 100%, and that matters to me a lot.

talk2hb1:

Of course I did, so acknowledgement of one parents as a parent qualifies one to be an slowpoke or toddler?
Or am I missing where you are driving this to?

This all started with your claim that even in marriage, parents retain full rights over their children, particularly the son , to which I posted the response below ..

Kobojunkie:
Full right over her son? Is he a toddler or retarded?

Kobojunkie:
This all started with your claim that even in marriage, parents retain full rights over their children, particularly the son , to which I posted the response below ..

It's a case of misunderstanding, only a bad parents will want to dabble or control their child marital home. But they still have great and limited influence on the marital home.

talk2hb1:

It's a case of misunderstanding, only a bad parents will want to dabble or control their child marital home. But they still have great and limited influence on the marital home.

And is it also OK then that the wife's parents also have the same "great and limited" influence on her marital home as well?,

theForth:


What if the man finances the whole project, is it still their house?

umm yes

cococandy:
umm yes

You're joking. Na who get document get house

Mama should stay in her house to avoid controversy, and when she visits, she should not stay too long.