No be today husband and wife, boyfriend and girl friend start to dey fight. The thing don start before Oduduwa time, but na when the thing don move from slap, blow, bite to killing Nigerians come dey wake up. Some people just take am as part of life say it's normal untill that suma-binch stab that poor girl to death na him people start to dey discuss am. But on the real a Guy that beats his wife or girlfriend is the weakest man alive and there is no excuse on God's planet for that. Yeah I have head all the reasons in the world, "You dont know my wife, you dont know my girlfriend and all the blah! blah! and unripe plantains that follows"

So because you cant take it, then you had to resolve to violence? Truth is men only do this because they know they are stronger and can beat the ladies in question. My question be say, if your wife or girlfriend strong like Mike Tyson, you sure say you no go find another option even if she provokes you? Of cause you wont dare hit her because she will beat the hell out of you and you wont step outside for fear of being laughed at by your peers.

Now to all my Naija, African, inshort women all over the world here is an advice that might save your life, So please take this very seriously. Invest in yourself! Take "Karate lessons" It might save your life someday because it normally starts from little slaps and gradually graduates to killing. Especially for women in Naija, cos Nigeria is a copycat society, we sabi copy bad thing no be small and before you know it you will be reading about a guy that kills his wife or girlfriend everyday in the news papers. So take my advice serious because once a man knows you can defend yourself, he will think twice before hitting you. He will finally choose dialogue. For those wey dey Naija, hook up with "Natty Bruce" he is the same guy that gave Genevieve Nnaji and others lessons for the movie 30 Days. He is very known in Nollywood, ask anybody for "Natty Bruce"and I am sure he doesnt charge so much. I no wan hear say another lady loose her life o! And if your boyfriend slap you, just leave am at once no matter how much im beg unless he go for therapy. Dont allow his promise of taking you to Tantalizer, Mr Bigs or buying you the latest Blackberry make you go back to him o! I sabi say una Naija girls like Blackberry pass una mama, but your life is more important trust me. A word is enough for the? Oya finish the sentence.
http://naijajoint..com/2011/07/domestic-violence.html

Nigerians - Men and women- need to be properly enlightened on the issue of abuse.

Nice write-up. I enjoyed reading, esp. the part written in pidgin. Funny, but a serious issue.

nice write up.

of course violence shouldnt be escalated, but if a man constantly feels abuse is the only form of dialogue he has recourse to, that's not good.

also the police should man up and do a better job protecting women and children in nigeria.
there is a functioning 911 in the USA for anyone. you dial it opari. you don't even have to give them your address. they will locate where the call came in from. i just want nigeria to be able to do the same.
protect yourself, learn tae kwondo. don't take any nonsense, just a pinch is enough for you to show the man that he 'jam' gbagbati

i hate woman beater. i will never hestitate to call the cop for any man born of a woman who dare pinches me no matter how much i love him.

Missy ★ B:

Nigerians - Men and women- need to be properly enlightened on the issue of abuse.

Nice write-up. I enjoyed reading, esp. the part written in pidgin. Funny, but a serious issue.

Thanks Missy B,
glad you liked it, but as you said this is a very serious issue and I do hope women would start learning how to protect themselves cos it looks like nobody is ready to protect them and this abuse thing might even get worse

tpia@:

nice write up.

of course violence shouldnt be escalated, but if a man constantly feels abuse is the only form of dialogue he has recourse to, that's not good.

Thanks glad you liked it,
But domestic abuse has been part of our daily lives in Naija that some see it as normal and my fear is that with the recent stabbing to death of the young lady wahala dey for road!

armyofone:

also the police should man up and do a better job protecting women and children in nigeria.
there is a functioning 911 in the USA for anyone. you dial it opari. you don't even have to give them your address. they will locate where the call came in from. i just want nigeria to be able to do the same.
protect yourself, learn tae kwondo. don't take any nonsense, just a pinch is enough for you to show the man that he 'jam' gbagbati

i hate woman beater. i will never hestitate to call the cop for any man born of a woman who dare pinches me no matter how much i love him.

But na the same police fight their wives pass. Ask anyone that has been in police barracks before, Unless the government makes this a crime I dont see any solution except the girls/ladies takes my advice and learn some karate to protect themselves, and Sometimes harrass the male fellows like saying "Oya na you go wash plate and cook today or else I go just sound you!"

armyofone:

also the police should man up and do a better job protecting women and children in nigeria.
there is a functioning 911 in the USA for anyone. you dial it opari. you don't even have to give them your address. they will locate where the call came in from. i just want nigeria to be able to do the same.
protect yourself, learn tae kwondo. don't take any nonsense, just a pinch is enough for you to show the man that he 'jam' gbagbati

i hate woman beater. i will never hestitate to call the cop for any man born of a woman who dare pinches me no matter how much i love him.

The police are too busy beating their own wives to have time to save someone else's. It is a cultural thing. mutter said on this forum that her ex husband beat her visciously in public and when she jumped out of the car and ran into the arms of the police they turned her around and handed her back to the man. There you have it. Nigerian police at their finest

Outstrip:

The police are too busy beating their own wives to have time to save someone else's. It is a cultural thing. mutter said on this forum that her ex husband beat her visciously in public and when she jumped out of the car and ran into the arms of the police they turned her around and handed her back to the man. There you have it. Nigerian police at their finest

For real? That's so horrible, I feel like throwing up

i think i buy ur idea poster*** nice one

I wonder why this poster is taking credit for something he didn't write . . .

Outstrip:

The police are too busy beating their own wives to have time to save someone else's. It is a cultural thing. mutter said on this forum that her ex husband beat her visciously in public and when she jumped out of the car and ran into the arms of the police they turned her around and handed her back to the man. There you have it. Nigerian police at their finest

True talk! 

My advice to the women, if you know your husband is the beating type, then avaoid things that will trigger it. On the other hand, if he is outrightly insane (i.e beats for no just cause), then you should be thinking of a temporary seperation till he comes to his senses. You don't have to wait until someone comes to rescue you before you jump out.

Ujujoan:

I wonder why this poster is taking credit for something he didn't write . . .

Ujujoan:

I wonder why this poster is taking credit for something he didn't write . . .

It seems he did write it. If you check out the site, he appears to be the owner. Even if he didn't write it, he at least included the site he got it from (which seems to be a site he created and his name's under the same blog, meaning it's his).

But I get you though, many people post things they didn't write and don't credit the source.

I only wish women will be more careful before hooking up with half men