Olonitola:
Dear Nairalanders, what do you think of this?
I got a new job 7th of February and the pay although not a normalised pay is very okay. The least I have received every month since I joined has been #126,000. There were months I was paid #170K ( happened twice) because it's commission based.

So far, I have been able to save #315,000 but I have a little problem.

I am a 29-year old guy who presently stays with my elder sister who also works in this company. She's a single mother of two. The apartment is a one bedroom-parlor apartment. She stays in the room while I occupy the parlor with my few properties (Mattress, Wardrobe, Plasma TV and home theatre) none of which she has because she had to abandon her husband late last year as she was being frustrated by him. She didn't pick anything while leaving, so she literally has just started buying a few things in the house. Apart from the parlor, 70% of the things in the kitchen and bathroom belong to me.

What actually happened about this was that; when she newly got this job (August, last year), she desperately needed a space as her ex husband was seriously frustrating her. She just left the husband's house with absolutely nothing like I already stated. Then as an unemployed graduate, I couldn't renew my rent which expired (November, last year). Because of this I decided to move them to her place and also shelter with her. Now my question is that, I am 29 years old, should I get a personal space with my current savings as my monthly pay seems enough or should I keep staying with her while I keep saving?
Mind you, I contribute to everything in this house, from food to water to NEPA bills and everything. Times we share the bills, other times I pay alone or she pays alone but it's all seem balanced in a way. No complaints so far.

Mind you I do not care what neighbors think as well even as they seem utterly unpleased with a man this grown staying with his sister. I do not care and also, I do not have a girlfriend so it's not about privacy or whatever.
But you know as a grown man with a lot yet to be achieved, I just seem confused.

What would you advise a brother?

Olonitola:
Dear Nairalanders, what do you think of this?
I got a new job 7th of February and the pay although not a normalised pay is very okay. The least I have received every month since I joined has been #126,000. There were months I was paid #170K ( happened twice) because it's commission based.

So far, I have been able to save #315,000 but I have a little problem.

I am a 29-year old guy who presently stays with my elder sister who also works in this company. She's a single mother of two. The apartment is a one bedroom-parlor apartment. She stays in the room while I occupy the parlor with my few properties (Mattress, Wardrobe, Plasma TV and home theatre) none of which she has because she had to abandon her husband late last year as she was being frustrated by him. She didn't pick anything while leaving, so she literally has just started buying a few things in the house. Apart from the parlor, 70% of the things in the kitchen and bathroom belong to me.

What actually happened about this was that; when she newly got this job (August, last year), she desperately needed a space as her ex husband was seriously frustrating her. She just left the husband's house with absolutely nothing like I already stated. Then as an unemployed graduate, I couldn't renew my rent which expired (November, last year). Because of this I decided to move them to her place and also shelter with her. Now my question is that, I am 29 years old, should I get a personal space with my current savings as my monthly pay seems enough or should I keep staying with her while I keep saving?
Mind you, I contribute to everything in this house, from food to water to NEPA bills and everything. Times we share the bills, other times I pay alone or she pays alone but it's all seem balanced in a way. No complaints so far.

Mind you I do not care what neighbors think as well even as they seem utterly unpleased with a man this grown staying with his sister. I do not care and also, I do not have a girlfriend so it's not about privacy or whatever.
But you know as a grown man with a lot yet to be achieved, I just seem confused.

What would you advise a brother?

Gandollaar:
My dear brother, I have made money, plenty money, and it was even at a younger age. What did I do at the most then; Clothes, shoes, car, fine flat, gold, hair, vacation, friends and family members problem.

If not for my husband that rescued me from family members, it would have continued on and on without me building myself.

I was doing business and getting paid sometimes in dollars when dollar was still N125, if I knew what I know now, I would have been a better investor.

His sister doesn't mind, and he doesn't mind what people are saying, so why are you regurgitating?

osazsky:
i dont understand u..some of u think to build a house is 1m naira..oga this present nigeria if u have 1m savings remove mind for house matter..op never fit stay on his own without depending on his sis and family members and friends and u are talking of house..life is in stages oga...he has to start from somewhere..any small thing u see them runing to nl for advise..someone that cant think on his own y wont dey run to nl..na only nigeria person way dey 34 go still dey him papa house a whole complete human beign..i keep telling people house is not an i investment its for inheritance..most times people dat spend all thier live in building a house dont get the money back till death and thier children sells them off..and who told u those of us paying tent are not building..ur personal financial wastage is none of my biz..all i know is that at 29 or 30 u are not suppose to be living with ur parents or relative..anyone who stil keaves with relatives at 30 should check himself as a guy cuz he nor normal oga..

Gandollaar:
What's one million naira?

Hiss!

The guy is making money. He should lie low and achieve something for himself instead of pursuing big boy status!

I didn't read beyond the first line. Try paragraphing next time if you want to be read.

Gandollaar:
What's one million naira?

Hiss!

The guy is making money. He should lie low and achieve something for himself instead of pursuing big boy status!

I didn't read beyond the first line. Try paragraphing next time if you want to be read.

Gandollaar:
What's one million naira?

Hiss!

The guy is making money. He should lie low and achieve something for himself instead of pursuing big boy status!

I didn't read beyond the first line. Try paragraphing next time if you want to be read.

Gandollaar:
Op, I will advise you to stay back and and arrange how you and your sister will share the rent.
Keep saving and buy a land. Continue saving and be building it little by little. Finish building and either park in or rent it, but you would have succeeded in another good stream of income. Now you can go rent your own place if you want.

There's no point moving to get your own place where your bills will be more. Once you have your own place, the ladies must start coming and you could become distracted from your goals.

Calibrator:
Some people don't know life.... A 29 year old man staying with his sister will never progress in life as much as he wants because experience builds a man and he will likely not get such experiences living under his sister (forget about the 300k saved up).



Later you will wonder why some married men can't keep their family affairs in order, how can they gain the experience to do so when they have been sheltered all their lives.


Go and find a personal apartment of your own and you will be grateful for taking the decision. You will develop faster mentally and financially on your own.

Jaqenhghar:
198 people like this horseshit

tonididdy:
29yrs no GF ??


Anyway like I always say, the reason you can save that much is because you have no responsibilities.

My advice: stay in your sis apt for 6 months then get a small apartment that costs less and start your life.
Now is the best time to have kids, do marriage as the money is coming in.

Warning: from my understanding, your job is a jackee job ( I mean kee-body job) if you continue @35 your sperm count maybe too low already frm working so strenuously at old age.

I repeat start your life now the ovation is high!

Cashio:
people be talking about a man making a good life and you are concerned about his sperm count at 35.
So instead of saving to establish himself first, your priority is him saving to enter marriage and continue suffering and waiting for divine grace to uplift him?
Crazy.

Gandollaar:
WOW! That's interesting!

You know what

Eat shit! A million flies can't be wrong!

Gandollaar:
Op, I will advise you to stay back and and arrange how you and your sister will share the rent.
Keep saving and buy a land. Continue saving and be building it little by little. Finish building and either park in or rent it, but you would have succeeded in another good stream of income. Now you can go rent your own place if you want.

There's no point moving to get your own place where your bills will be more. Once you have your own place, the ladies must start coming and you could become distracted from your goals.

Olonitola:
Dear Nairalanders, what do you think of this?
I got
What would you advise a brother?

ojun50:
Don't rush out, gather more money and get more properties befor getting your apartment.

And look for a good lady to start building relationship with

Gandollaar:
WOW! That's interesting!

You know what

Eat shit! A million flies can't be wrong!

Olonitola:
Dear Nairalanders, what do you think of this?
I got a new job 7th of February and the pay although not a normalised pay is very okay. The least I have received every month since I joined has been #126,000. There were months I was paid #170K ( happened twice) because it's commission based.

So far, I have been able to save #315,000 but I have a little problem.

I am a 29-year old guy who presently stays with my elder sister who also works in this company. She's a single mother of two. The apartment is a one bedroom-parlor apartment. She stays in the room while I occupy the parlor with my few properties (Mattress, Wardrobe, Plasma TV and home theatre) none of which she has because she had to abandon her husband late last year as she was being frustrated by him. She didn't pick anything while leaving, so she literally has just started buying a few things in the house. Apart from the parlor, 70% of the things in the kitchen and bathroom belong to me.

What actually happened about this was that; when she newly got this job (August, last year), she desperately needed a space as her ex husband was seriously frustrating her. She just left the husband's house with absolutely nothing like I already stated. Then as an unemployed graduate, I couldn't renew my rent which expired (November, last year). Because of this I decided to move them to her place and also shelter with her. Now my question is that, I am 29 years old, should I get a personal space with my current savings as my monthly pay seems enough or should I keep staying with her while I keep saving?
Mind you, I contribute to everything in this house, from food to water to NEPA bills and everything. Times we share the bills, other times I pay alone or she pays alone but it's all seem balanced in a way. No complaints so far.

Mind you I do not care what neighbors think as well even as they seem utterly unpleased with a man this grown staying with his sister. I do not care and also, I do not have a girlfriend so it's not about privacy or whatever.
But you know as a grown man with a lot yet to be achieved, I just seem confused.

What would you advise a brother?

Dwin046:
it is more expensive to build a relationship this time around, I think he should stay put with his sister and invest more in properties, relationships no dey run, he can do that later, no time is late

Gandollaar:
The guy is making money. He should lie low and achieve something for himself instead of pursuing big boy status!

SommyGudman:
Marry your sister ASAP