It's almost a month now since my mom died and I cannot begin to get over the pains of the loss. My father died 22 years ago when I was yet a small boy and because I went to stay with my uncles, aunt cousins, and grandparents, I was able to get over it after some time, because of how I was treated with so much love, because I was still a child. Children can easily forget pains.


I have come to the recognition of the fact that there is nothing as painful as the loss of a mother.


The first day my mother died, I thought that I would not be able to survive the knowledge that she is no more.


Life looked so meaningless and unnecessary that it looked as if there was no need for me to continue living.

Because everything I have achieved so far was to please her and make her enjoy my money and my little achievement.


But she didn't even live to properly enjoy my money before dying.


Although I have come to accept it, but the shock of her death still continues everyday.

How can one get over the death of his mother considering the fact that someone cannot bring her back from the dead?

What makes her death so striking(in the negative sense although) is the fact that she always listened to me, although I am not the first born.

When she was sick, if I mentioned that we should go to a hospital or church or anywhere, she would agree. But if my other brothers mentioned anything like that, she won't agree.

Anything I agreed upon, she always bought into it.

She seemed to have looked up to me more than to any other of her children.


So aside from the pain inherent in the death of a mother, I am also sad because it seems as if I was not able to prevent her death, even though she looked up to me.

VeryKindHearted:
It's almost a month now since my mom died and I cannot begin to get over the pains of the loss. My father died 22 years ago.

I have come to the recognition of the fact that there is nothing as painful as the loss of a mother.


The first day my mother died, I thought that I would not be able to survive the knowledge that she is no more.


Life looked so meaningless and unnecessary that it looked as if there was no need for me to continue living.

Because everything I have achieved so far was to please her and make her enjoy my money and my little achievement.


But she didn't even live to properly enjoy my money before dying.


Although I have come to accept it, but the shock of her death still continues everyday.

How can one get over the death of his mother considering the fact that someone cannot bring her back from the dead?

..... SMH. Some of you are bunch of disgrace walahi.

How did you overcome that of your father? Ooh now I know. You were happy when he died.
Most of you sissies don't know how to put a balance on issues like this.

How can you say that there's nothing as painful as the death of a mother as if that of a father is not also painful?

Rip to your mum but try get sense .

JONNYSPUTE:
..... SMH. Some of you are bunch of disgrace walahi.

How did you overcome that of your father? Ooh now I know. You were happy when he died.

don't be like that..he was probably not mature enof to understand what was happening then

JONNYSPUTE:
..... SMH. Some of you are bunch of disgrace walahi.

How did you overcome that of your father? Ooh now I know. You were happy when he died.

Don't you think you're being too insensitive?

VeryKindHearted:
It's almost a month now since my mom died and I cannot begin to get over the pains of the loss. My father died 22 years ago.

I have come to the recognition of the fact that there is nothing as painful as the loss of a mother.


The first day my mother died, I thought that I would not be able to survive the knowledge that she is no more.


Life looked so meaningless and unnecessary that it looked as if there was no need for me to continue living.

Because everything I have achieved so far was to please her and make her enjoy my money and my little achievement.


But she didn't even live to properly enjoy my money before dying.


Although I have come to accept it, but the shock of her death still continues everyday.

How can one get over the death of his mother considering the fact that someone cannot bring her back from the dead?

I can't imagine wat u are goin through...u are not actually expected to get over it like as if it's a plague or fever but let this mind be in you, that mama is in a better place if she was a follower of our Lord Jesus Christ and consciously prepare to join her by following and obeying the instructions of our Lord Jesus Christ

HRHQueenPhil:
don't be like that..he was probably not mature enof to understand what was happening then

.... Then let him know how to put a balance on matters like this and stop making it seem as if his father's death wasn't painful to him too.

JONNYSPUTE:
.... Then let him know how to put a balance on matters like this and stop making it seem as if his father's death wasn't painful to him too.

It's English, not many are good at using it to express themselves..be nice father's are loved and cherished

I am persuaded that you will definitely go over it. It is just a matter of time.

You should be in touch with reality, she is no more. Being sorrowful will only affect you not her and consequently, you may start to live the life she would not be proud of. Cheer up.
May Jesus Christ comfort you.

Receive the oil of gladness

HRHQueenPhil:


I can't imagine wat u are goin through...u are not actually expected to get over it like as if it's a plague or fever but let this mind be in you, that mama is in a better place if she was a follower of our Lord Jesus Christ and consciously prepare to join her by following and obeying the instructions of our Lord Jesus Christ

Thank you so much for this words of encouragement.

HRHQueenPhil:

It's English, not many are good at using it to express themselves..be nice father's are loved and cherished

.... Ok. Thanks for your understanding.
@ op. Take heart and may God be with you.

chiefolododo:
I am persuaded that you will definitely go over it. It is just a matter of time.

You should be in touch with reality, she is no more. Being sorrowful will only affect you not her and consequently, you may start to live the life she would not be proud of. Cheer up.
May Jesus Christ comfort you.

Receive the oil of gladness

Thanks for this encouragement.

Sorry bro..

To forget about her... you just have to accept the fact that she's no more and she's somewhere resting peacefully....


If you can't accept that... then you can't move away from it and it will drawn you....


Stay strong and positive.... Please dont stay idle... always find something doing for the next few months.... you need to take your mind I to something....

JONNYSPUTE:
.... Then let him know how to put a balance on matters like this and stop making it seem as if his father's death wasn't painful to him too.

SMH!

The ability to bear grief and loss is termed as "fortitude" the vision of you stepping ahead and payers to your late mum will guide you along in life as time passes all wound will heal, so will yours , uou will become stronger emotionally and something new will come in your life giving you a greater sense of joy and happiness, thats when you will remember your mother and smile , how strong she was to be a mother to a star

VeryKindHearted:
It's almost a month now since my mom died and I cannot begin to get over the pains of the loss. My father died 22 years ago when I was yet a small boy and because I went to stay with my uncles, aunt cousins, and grandparents, I was able to get over it after some time, because of how I was treated with so much love, because I was still a child. Children can easily forget pains.


I have come to the recognition of the fact that there is nothing as painful as the loss of a mother.


The first day my mother died, I thought that I would not be able to survive the knowledge that she is no more.


Life looked so meaningless and unnecessary that it looked as if there was no need for me to continue living.

Because everything I have achieved so far was to please her and make her enjoy my money and my little achievement.


But she didn't even live to properly enjoy my money before dying.


Although I have come to accept it, but the shock of her death still continues everyday.

How can one get over the death of his mother considering the fact that someone cannot bring her back from the dead?

So sorry for your lost. Trust me, the first few days will look like hell, especially when you see things that remind you off her. But after midnight, morning will come


Go somewhere different from where to too used to go


Have people you love come around and stay with you


Stay around children, they carry an energy that makes you smile or stop thinking.

Pray, God is very very close to heart broken people.

In all know that you are gonna be fine.
Just stay strong.

SHE WOULD WANT YOU TO BE FINE AND BE STRONG. DO THAT FOR HER.

PS: stop blaming yourself. IT WASN'T YOUR FAULT. IT WAS TIME.

PM ME IF YOU NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO

VeryKindHearted:
It's almost a month now since my mom died and I cannot begin to get over the pains of the loss. My father died 22 years ago when I was yet a small boy and because I went to stay with my uncles, aunt cousins, and grandparents, I was able to get over it after some time, because of how I was treated with so much love, because I was still a child. Children can easily forget pains.


I have come to the recognition of the fact that there is nothing as painful as the loss of a mother.


The first day my mother died, I thought that I would not be able to survive the knowledge that she is no more.


Life looked so meaningless and unnecessary that it looked as if there was no need for me to continue living.

Because everything I have achieved so far was to please her and make her enjoy my money and my little achievement.


But she didn't even live to properly enjoy my money before dying.


Although I have come to accept it, but the shock of her death still continues everyday.

How can one get over the death of his mother considering the fact that someone cannot bring her back from the dead?

You will get over her death, just mourn her as what you are passing through is part of mourning her

You will definitely be fine

JASONjnr:
Sorry bro..

To forget about her... you just have to accept the fact that she's no more and she's somewhere resting peacefully....


If you can't accept that... then you can't move away from it and it will drawn you....


Stay strong and positive.... Please dont stay idle... always find something doing for the next few months.... you need to take your mind I to something....

Ok. Thanks

frozen70:


You will get over her death, just mourn her as what you are passing through is part of mourning her

You will definitely be fine

Alright. Thanks

JONNYSPUTE:
..... SMH. Some of you are bunch of disgrace walahi.

How did you overcome that of your father? Ooh now I know. You were happy when he died.
Most of you sissies don't know how to put a balance on issues like this.

How can you say that there's nothing as painful as the death of a mother as if that of a father is not also painful?

Rip to your mum but try get sense .

This is very insensitive, Johnny. VERY VERY insensitive

nnamdiosu:



So sorry for your lost. Trust me, the first few days will look like hell, especially when you see things that remind you off her. But after midnight, morning will come


Go somewhere different from where to too used to go


Have people you love come around and stay with you


Stay around children, they carry an energy that makes you smile or stop thinking.

Pray, God is very very close to heart broken people.

In all know that you are gonna be fine.
Just stay strong.

SHE WOULD WANT YOU TO BE FINE AND BE STRONG. DO THAT FOR HER.

PS: stop blaming yourself. IT WASN'T YOUR FAULT. IT WAS TIME.

PM ME IF YOU NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO

Alright. Thanks

godofuck231:
The ability to bear grief and loss is termed as "fortitude" the vision of you stepping ahead and payers to your late mum will guide you along in life as time passes all wound will heal, so will yours , uou will become stronger emotionally and something new will come in your life giving you a greater sense of joy and happiness, thats when you will remember your mother and smile , how strong she was to be a mother to a star

Ok. Thanks

JONNYSPUTE:
.... Then let him know how to put a balance on matters like this and stop making it seem as if his father's death wasn't painful to him too.

He was young then so it didn't quite hit him the way it is hitting now that he is an adult. Leave him to grieve the best way he knows how to.

VeryKindHearted:


Ok. Thanks

Time, they say, heals all wounds. I can't give you any advice because I don't know what you're going through, neither can I fully understand it. All I know is pain eventually fades. It might take time, but it fades. Death, like life is a part of our existence. Nobody will escape it and it will get to our turn one day, leaving those around us in pain, just as you are in pain.

Ask God for strength to pass through these dark, dark days and He will give it to you. Trust me, He will.

Ishilove:

Time, they say, heals all wounds. I can't give you any advice because I don't know what you're going through, neither can I fully understand it. All I know is pain eventually fades. It might take time, but it fades. Death, like life is a part of our existence. Nobody will escape it and it will get to our turn one day, leaving those around us in pain, just as you are in pain.

Ask God for strength to pass through these dark, dark days and He will give it to you. Trust me, He will.

Thanks for this.

Just time o. I'm sorry for your loss.

VeryKindHearted:
It's almost a month now since my mom died and I cannot begin to get over the pains of the loss. My father died 22 years ago when I was yet a small boy and because I went to stay with my uncles, aunt cousins, and grandparents, I was able to get over it after some time, because of how I was treated with so much love, because I was still a child. Children can easily forget pains.


I have come to the recognition of the fact that there is nothing as painful as the loss of a mother.


The first day my mother died, I thought that I would not be able to survive the knowledge that she is no more.


Life looked so meaningless and unnecessary that it looked as if there was no need for me to continue living.

Because everything I have achieved so far was to please her and make her enjoy my money and my little achievement.


But she didn't even live to properly enjoy my money before dying.


Although I have come to accept it, but the shock of her death still continues everyday.

How can one get over the death of his mother considering the fact that someone cannot bring her back from the dead?

Give it one year, time heals all injury

JONNYSPUTE:
..... SMH. Some of you are bunch of disgrace walahi.

How did you overcome that of your father? Ooh now I know. You were happy when he died.
Most of you sissies don't know how to put a balance on issues like this.

How can you say that there's nothing as painful as the death of a mother as if that of a father is not also painful?

Rip to your mum but try get sense .

You're letting nairaland influence you negatively.
This is not a fathers vs mothers, husbands vs wives, males vs females situation.
Someone is grieving and needs comfort.

ogawisdom:


Give it one year, time heals all injury

Ok. Thanks

Karleb:
Just time o. I'm sorry for your loss.

Thank you.

He was still a child when his father died

JONNYSPUTE:
..... SMH. Some of you are bunch of disgrace walahi.

How did you overcome that of your father? Ooh now I know. You were happy when he died.
Most of you sissies don't know how to put a balance on issues like this.

How can you say that there's nothing as painful as the death of a mother as if that of a father is not also painful?

Rip to your mum but try get sense .

VeryKindHearted:
What makes her death so striking(in the negative sense although) is the fact that she always listened to me, although I am not the first born.

When she was sick, if I mentioned that we should go to a hospital or church or anywhere, she would agree. But if my other brothers mentioned anything like that, she won't agree.

Anything I agreed upon, she always bought into it.

She seemed to have looked up to me more than to any other of her children.


So aside from the pain inherent in the death of a mother, I am also sad because it seems as if I was not able to prevent her death, even though she looked up to me.

you just dey speak English


All men must die!