Good day, fellas. Apart from living a Holy life, forgiving someone who hurts u or offends u, is the hardest thing a christian can put to work. Some offences are minor and might be easier to forgive but some aren't. This is another reason christianity isn't an easy thing. Sometimes, it would make u look like, u are a fool or u are weak. For example. A man had a child with a woman and abandoned her and the child for good 24years. She cater for the child all alone for 24 years, now the man came back pleading for forgiveness, that she should accept him back. How would u tell or convince her to forgive him? Example 2, how would u tell someone to forgive someone who gave him or her terrible injury resulting into a scar on the face?

Reason am this way.

Forgiveness is one of the hardest part of humanity.

Abi u think jews, Buddhist, Muslims, hindus forgive easily.

Its not a religion thing homie, ITS A HUMAN THING.

Truvelisback:
Good day, fellas. Apart from living a Holy life, forgiving someone who hurts u or offends u, is the hardest thing a christian can put to work. Some offences are minor and might be easier to forgive but some aren't. This is another reason christianity isn't an easy thing. Sometimes, it would make u look like, u are a fool or u are weak. For example. A man had a child with a woman and abandoned her and the child for good 24years. She cater for the child all alone for 24 years, now the man came back pleading for forgiveness, that she should accept him back. How would u tell or convince her to forgive him? Example 2, how would u tell someone to forgive someone who gave him or her terrible injury resulting into a scar on the face?

As long as you are within the relam of Christianity,

If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive. Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, you must forgive.”


Why
“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.


Forgiveness is not an impulse that is in much favor. It is a mysterious and sublime idea in many ways. . . . Forgiveness does not look much like a tool for survival in a bad world. But that is what it is.


Forgiveness is what she can do and very much within her grasp to do. As long as she understand and separate forgiveness from consequences of sin and you as well knows the difference between consequences of sin and forgiveness of sins.

Natbrowny:
Reason am this way.

Forgiveness is one of the hardest part of humanity.

Abi u think jews, Buddhist, Muslims, hindus forgive easily.

Its not a religion thing homie, ITS A HUMAN THING.

U said it all.
OP was sentimental
And inexperienced.

Truvelisback:
Good day, fellas. Apart from living a Holy life, forgiving someone who hurts u or offends u, is the hardest thing a christian can put to work. Some offences are minor and might be easier to forgive but some aren't. This is another reason christianity isn't an easy thing. Sometimes, it would make u look like, u are a fool or u are weak. For example. A man had a child with a woman and abandoned her and the child for good 24years. She cater for the child all alone for 24 years, now the man came back pleading for forgiveness, that she should accept him back. How would u tell or convince her to forgive him? Example 2, how would u tell someone to forgive someone who gave him or her terrible injury resulting into a scar on the face?

From your write-up,
One can deduce that
Na your type wey no dey forgive..
U exposed your inner being via ur Post.

Truvelisback:
Good day, fellas. Apart from living a Holy life, forgiving someone who hurts u or offends u, is the hardest thing a christian can put to work. Some offences are minor and might be easier to forgive but some aren't. This is another reason christianity isn't an easy thing. Sometimes, it would make u look like, u are a fool or u are weak. For example. A man had a child with a woman and abandoned her and the child for good 24years. She cater for the child all alone for 24 years, now the man came back pleading for forgiveness, that she should accept him back. How would u tell or convince her to forgive him? Example 2, how would u tell someone to forgive someone who gave him or her terrible injury resulting into a scar on the face?

Example 1 : Why would she have forgiven the man in all those 24 years? Doesn't she love herself or what?

She can forgive him but not have to take him back. There is nothing of Christianity that requires one to take back what may amount to evil into one's life after forgiving it. Christians are called, after all, to be cunning yet gentle.

Example 2: Forgiveness is given by Christians in order that the Father that the Father in Heaven may forgive us our sins too. If we do not forgive others, God will not forgive us our own sins. The sins of those who we fail to forgive are not forgiven. Making our claim to Christianity altogether of no meaning. So Forgiveness is a requirement, not an option.

fman:
From your write-up, One can deduce that Na your type wey no dey forgive.. U exposed your inner being via ur Post.

Ur assumption is wrong.

Kobojunkie:
Example 1 : Why would she have forgiven the man in all those 24 years? Doesn't she love herself or what?

She can forgive him but not have to take him back. There is nothing of Christianity that requires one to take back what may amount to evil into one's life after forgiving it. Christians are called, after all, to be cunning yet gentle.

Example 2: Forgiveness is given by Christians in order that the Father that the Father in Heaven may forgive us our sins too. If we do not forgive others, God will not forgive us our own sins. The sins of those who we fail to forgive are not forgiven. Making our claim to Christianity altogether of no meaning. So Forgiveness is a requirement, not an option.

Where is the forgiveness, if she doesn't accept him back?

achorladey:



As long as you are within the relam of Christianity,

If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive. Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, you must forgive.”


Why
“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.


Forgiveness is not an impulse that is in much favor. It is a mysterious and sublime idea in many ways. . . . Forgiveness does not look much like a tool for survival in a bad world. But that is what it is.


Forgiveness is what she can do and very much within her grasp to do. As long as she understand and separate forgiveness from consequences of sin and you as well knows the difference between consequences of sin and forgiveness of sins.

Some offences aren't that easy to forgive.

Truvelisback:
Where is the forgiveness, if she doesn't accept him back?

Here's a simple question to help you answer your own question. Does forgiving a thief for stealing from you mean you allow the thief to walk away with the money he stole from you?

Kobojunkie:
Here's a simple question to help you answer your own question. Does forgiving a thief for stealing from you mean you allow the thief to walk away with the money he stole from you?

That's another scenerio entirely.

Truvelisback:
That's another scenerio entirely.

If a roommate of yours stole money from your room, does forgiving said roommate means you should not put a lock on your door to prevent him or anyone else from stealing from you again?

Truvelisback:
Ur assumption is wrong.

Am not assuming.
I just told you the fact

Forgiveness is like hard pill prescribed by the greatest physician (God) but if you don't know the practical benefits you may find it really hard to swallow the pill!

Truvelisback:
Where is the forgiveness, if she doesn't accept him back?

Forgiveness is erasing the person's offence in your heart but that doesn't mean you should continue with the unfaithful person because he has shown he's weak, so if you're still OK with his weaknesses you can continue but if not then you're free to divorce the unfaithful partner. You continue to love and care for him as a Christian brother but you can't continue the journey with him again because his weaknesses may cause you harm!
That's why Lord Jesus said it's only on the ground of adultery (unfaithfulness) that he can permit a disciple to divorce his or her partner! Matthew 19:9

MaxInDHouse:


Forgiveness is erasing the person's offence in your heart but that doesn't mean you should continue with the unfaithful person because he has shown he's weak, so if you're still OK with his weaknesses you can continue but if not then you're free to divorce the unfaithful partner. You continue to love and care for him as a Christian brother but you can't continue the journey with him again because his weaknesses may cause you harm!
That's why Lord Jesus said it's only on the ground of adultery (unfaithfulness) that he can permit a disciple to divorce his or her partner! Matthew 19:9

What does adultery has to do with the context? Did i mention anything related to adultery? I mentioned "abandone".

Kobojunkie:
Here's a simple question to help you answer your own question. Does forgiving a thief for stealing from you mean you allow the thief to walk away with the money he stole from you?

Doesn't the talked abt reconcilation?

Truvelisback:
What does adultery has to do with the context? Did i mention anything related to adultery? I mentioned "abandone".

In that case the man had nothing with another woman then it simply means he lost his mind now that he's back in his right senses the partner will be stupid to say NO to him!

MaxInDHouse:


In the case the man had nothing with another woman then it simply means he lost his mind now that he's back in his right senses the partner will be stupid to say NO to him!

How would u know that he had something with another woman or not? There are men who are in adulterous act that their wives aren't aware abt.

Truvelisback:
How would u know that he had something with another woman or not? There are men who are in adulterous act that their wives aren't aware abt.

So if she doesn't have anything against him apart from leaving her for long it will be stupid on her part to deny him of his duties.
This has little or nothing to do with forgiveness since they're supposed to bear the load together but he left for reasons best known to him, and now that he's back the best thing to do is give him back his own share of the load and continue the journey.
It either she bear all the burden alone throughout or she share the load with him, his children will always be his children!

Truvelisback:
Some offences aren't that easy to forgive.

I love your choice of words,......aren't easy to forgive

base on your thread and in the realm of Christianity, The person should find a way to forgive once the offender seeks forgiveness despite the difficult circumstances.

Truvelisback:
Doesn't the talked abt reconcilation?

According to the gospel, the following are the rudiments of Forgiveness

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* DO NOT BE ANGRY WITH ANYONE - “You have heard that it was said to our people long ago, ‘You must not murder anyone. Any person who commits murder will be judged.’ But I tell you, don’t be angry with anyone. - Matthew 5 vs 21 -22a
* DO NOT BE ANGRY WITH OTHERS OR YOU WILL BE JUDGED - "If you are angry with others, you will be judged. - Matthew 5 vs 22b
* DO NOT INSULT ANYONE OR YOU WILL BE JUDGED IN THE HIGH COURT - And if you insult someone, you will be judged by the high court. - Matthew 5 vs 22c
* DO NOT CALL SOMEONE A FOOL OR YOU WILL BE IN DANGER OF THE FIRE OF HELL - And if you call someone a fool, you will be in danger of the fire of hell. - Matthew 5 vs 22d
* DO MAKE PEACE WITH ALL THOSE WHO HAVE OUGHT AGAINST YOU BEFORE YOU OFFER YOUR GIFT TO GOD - “So, what if you are offering your gift at the altar and remember that someone has something against you? Leave your gift there and go make peace with that person. Then come and offer your gift."- Matthew 5 vs 23 - 26
* DO SETTLE ALL ISSUES WITH ANYONE WHO WISHES TO SUE YOU IN COURT BEFORE YOU ARE TAKEN TO COURT - “If anyone wants to take you to court, make friends with them quickly. Try to do that before you get to the court. If you don’t, they might hand you over to the judge. And the judge will hand you over to a guard, who will throw you into jail. I assure you that you will not leave there until you have paid everything you owe." - Matthew 5 vs 25 - 26
* DO NOT DEFEND YOURSELF AGAINST ATTACKS FROM AN ENEMY - “You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth.’ But I tell you, don’t fight back against someone who wants to do harm to you. - Matthew 5 vs 38 - 39a
* DO TURN THE OTHER CHEEK WHEN SOMEONE HITS YOU ON THE ONE - If they hit you on the right cheek, let them hit the other cheek too. - Matthew 5 vs 39b
* DO GIVE YOUR COAT AS WELL WHEN SOMEONE SUES YOU TO COURT AND TAKES YOUR SHIRT - If anyone wants to sue you in court and take your shirt, let them have your coat too. - Matthew 5 vs 40
* DO WALK AN EXTRA MILE WHEN A SOLDIER FORCES YOU TO WALK WITH HIM FOR A MILE - If a soldier forces you to walk with him one mile, go with him two. - Matthew 5 vs 41
* YOUR WORDS WILL BE USED TO JUDGE WHETHER YOU ARE RIGHT OR WHETHER YOU ARE GUILTY - Your words will be used to judge you. What you have said will show whether you are right or whether you are guilty.” - Matthew 12 vs 33 - 37
* DO FORGIVE OTHERS IN ORDER THAT YOU WILL BE FORGIVEN - Forgive others, and you will be forgiven. - Luke 6 vs 37c
* DO NOT CONDEMN OTHERS THEN YOU WILL NOT BE CONDEMNED - Don’t condemn others, and you will not be condemned. - Luke 6 vs 37b

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Reconciliation, however, is an option only available if and only if both the one offended and the one that did the offended are of the Church of Jesus Christ, meaning they are both born-again and have the Spirit of Truth living on inside of them - Matthew 18 vs 15 - 19 & Luke 17 vs 3 - 4 - otherwise, treat the offender as you would treat a Pagan.

Keep shut Mr KoboJunkie.

RepoMan007:
Keep shut Mr KoboJunkie.

You just do not like being confronted with the Truth of Jesus Christ which clearly conflicts with your religion, is that it?

Truvelisback:
Good day, fellas. Apart from living a Holy life, forgiving someone who hurts u or offends u, is the hardest thing a christian can put to work. Some offences are minor and might be easier to forgive but some aren't. This is another reason christianity isn't an easy thing. Sometimes, it would make u look like, u are a fool or u are weak. For example. A man had a child with a woman and abandoned her and the child for good 24years. She cater for the child all alone for 24 years, now the man came back pleading for forgiveness, that she should accept him back. How would u tell or convince her to forgive him? Example 2, how would u tell someone to forgive someone who gave him or her terrible injury resulting into a scar on the face?

In the first case, you confuse trust with forgiveness. She doesn't have to take him back to forgive him. She can forgive him without taking him back. To take him back she has to ensure that he has truly changed otherwise she would be making a huge mistake. However to forgive him, it doesn't matter whether he's changed or not. She could still do so regardless but still keep him at bay.

In the second instance, I do have a scar on my face given to me by someone which I see every time I look in the mirror, but I have truly forgiven the person that gave it to me. I've even more or less forgotten about it but only remember when i am remembered.

So it's not easy obviously, but it's possible with God. He is the One that helped me.

God bless.