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I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Imlost: 8:57pm On Sep 11, 2022
Good evening everyone, I had to create an account and put this out in order to get this out of my chest.

I got married to my pastor's daughter last 2 weeks ago and right now, all I think of is to divorce her as I can't lie to myself that I'll continue with the marriage.

Here's the issue:

All through my life, I've always been a virgin due to the fact that I'm a very religious person.

I finally got to wed the love of my life 2 weeks ago. We had met at a friend's wedding and it was like love at first sight for the both of us.

She is the perfect woman and has all the qualities I had always imagined In a woman.

After our wedding 2 weeks ago, I got to have our first time 4days after the wedding.

Even though it was my first time, it just didn't feel right to me (I've had people discuss about virgins having tight virgina, and the hymen being broken, etc.).

And so, I jokingly asked my wife who her first was (I wish I never did).

She got a little bit excited and told how she started having sex at 13 while she was in SS1 with one of her senior in SS3.

She also told me how she had 3 boyfriends in the university and also about her ex in her former place of work.

In all, she had 5 body counts. she asked me about my sexual experience too and which I told her that I'm a virgin, and she was my first.

She got silent and the environment was a bit quite. Well, we were like that until sleep drifted us both to sleep.

Ever since then, my love for her has dwindled.

I have always have respect for this girl and right now, I feel cheated.

Agreed, I never discussed anything about her being a virgin or not. I just assumed she was since she's my pastor's daughter.

Right now, I can't divorce her because I feel like it will seem like I'm disrespecting her dad, who is my pastor.

And also, I feel like I should cheat outside my marriage and have fun just like she did in her youthful years so that we can be even.

I am 29 while my wife in question will be 26 next month.

I'm I being childish? Or will I get over it?

Anytime I look at her, I always look at her with some disgusted look on my face.

I wish I never asked her about her past in the first place and I wish I could just erase the memory of her past in my head.

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Totilopussylick(m): 9:01pm On Sep 11, 2022
Carry your cross on your shoulders and move on with your marriage sad

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Righteousness2(m): 9:03pm On Sep 11, 2022
My Friend, Marriage is not a 2 week affair or where you enter and jump out anyhow u want.
It's a lifetime commitment.

Also being a pastor, Prophet, or bishop's son or daughter does not make one a saint. The reason we are admonished to seek God's face before we take decisions.

As long as you have said I do, you have to blank your mind from all that talk and feelings and love your wife.

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Imlost: 9:08pm On Sep 11, 2022
Righteousness2:
My Friend, Marriage is not a 2 week affair or where you enter and jump out anyhow u want.
It's a lifetime commitment.

Also being a pastor, Prophetborb bishop's son or daughter does not make one a saint.

As long as you have said I do, you have to blank your mind from all that talk and feelings and love your wife.

How can I love her back like the way I used to?
Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by mployer(m): 9:08pm On Sep 11, 2022
I don't believe your story anyway.

A virgin man at 29 is not that feasible and not even something to be proud of.

No woman is ever excited to talk about her body count.

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Imlost: 9:09pm On Sep 11, 2022
Totilopussylick:
Carry your cross on your shoulders and move on with your marriage sad

How can I move on when I don't feel an affection for her like I use to?
Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by 2goodbobo(m): 9:09pm On Sep 11, 2022
Yes you are being childish. Her past is her past. Just because you married her as a virgin doesn’t mean you are better than her. Why did you not discuss her body count before marriage?

Marrying a virgin doesn’t guarantee she will be a better wife. Marriage is like a gift box, take whatever you find inside it and make it better.

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Nobody: 9:09pm On Sep 11, 2022
Old recycled story, I’ve read this here before

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Totilopussylick(m): 9:10pm On Sep 11, 2022
Imlost:


How can I move on when I don't feel an affection for her like I use to?

Is how you feel.

But in a short period of time, you'll get over it.
Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Righteousness2(m): 9:11pm On Sep 11, 2022
Imlost:


How can I love her back like the way I used to?

See her for what she is Presently. She is your newly wedded wife . She is now your own.

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by IamDietiesGod: 9:12pm On Sep 11, 2022
I feel your emotions brother. But you guys Court or date now, didn't you?. You should have known this fact during courtship.

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Zonefree(m): 9:13pm On Sep 11, 2022
To see a 26-year-old Nigerian girl with body count of just 5 is truly a miracle. You actually don't know what God did for you.

You don't know the value of what you have until you lose it, that's when you'll realise that Nigeria is filled with girls like Siofra and Iyaebe them.

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Imlost: 9:15pm On Sep 11, 2022
mployer:
I don't believe your story anyway.

A virgin man at 29 is not that feasible and not even something to be proud of.

No woman is ever excited to talk about her body count.

You losing your virginity at an early age, doesn't mean others don't keep theirs. You just need to control your urge.

In my case, I've always avoided relationship with women and so, my wife is my first love

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Romanoff(f): 9:15pm On Sep 11, 2022
Imlost:


How can I love her back like the way I used to?

So your love for her was dependent on her being a virgin?

What were you people discussing during your courtship?

So she's no longer the perfect woman cause of her body count, rotfl.

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Imlost: 9:16pm On Sep 11, 2022
Totilopussylick:


Is how you feel.

But in a short period of time, you'll get over it.

I pray so
Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Imlost: 9:16pm On Sep 11, 2022
Righteousness2:


See her for what she is Presently. She is your newly wedded wife . She is now your own.

I will pray over it so that I can forget whatever she told me that day

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Abduljohn(m): 9:17pm On Sep 11, 2022
My Brother, you will surely get over this, I know how you feel but this is your wife not your girlfriend. Just as you were able to love her at first sight love her again with her fault. Get prepared for more surprises to unfold but know this is marriage and it is for better for worse. It is not easy but I believe you can do it. God bless your marriage

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by mployer(m): 9:19pm On Sep 11, 2022
Imlost:


You losing your virginity at an early age, doesn't mean others don't keep theirs. You just need to control your urge.

In my case, I've always avoided relationship with women and so, my wife is my first love

Virgin at 29, you are looser, you deserve what you get.

I still don't believe your story.

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by nifemi25(m): 9:19pm On Sep 11, 2022
Bro to be sincere with you that is your own cross . You just have to carry it and move on. Even Jesus carry his own personally and no one assisted him.... every marriages has his own obstacles... no perfect relationship... am sure you will be happy if she had lied to you about her sex life... for her to tell you the truth, that means she is really sincere to you... I can assure you if you loose her simply because of her past you will definitely fall for someone that her past is worst than your current wife ... move on life continues

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by extol1(m): 9:24pm On Sep 11, 2022
Bro, i feel like nacking you 2 by 2. Not that she is cheating on you, that is her past. So just accept it that way, everybody can't be a saint

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Imlost: 9:25pm On Sep 11, 2022
IamDietiesGod:
I feel your emotions brother. But you guys Court or date now, didn't you?. You should have known this fact during courtship.

I never pried into such details as I consider it sinful to discuss such things.
Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Imlost: 9:27pm On Sep 11, 2022
nifemi25:
Bro to be sincere with you that is your own cross . You just have to carry it and move on. Even Jesus carry his own personally and no one assisted him.... every marriages has his own obstacles... no perfect relationship... am sure you will be happy if she had lied to you about her sex life... for her to tell you the truth, that means she is really sincere to you... I can assure you if you loose her simply because of her past you will definitely fall for someone that her past is worst than your current wife ... move on life continues

Thank you for this. I'll have to apologize to her for my changed attitude the past week when I get home.

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Imlost: 9:27pm On Sep 11, 2022
Abduljohn:
My Brother, you will surely get over this, I know how you feel but this is your wife not your girlfriend. Just as you were able to love her at first sight love her again with her fault. Get prepared for more surprises to unfold but know this is marriage and it is for better for worse. It is not easy but I believe you can do it. God bless your marriage

Amen, thank you
Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Imlost: 9:28pm On Sep 11, 2022
mployer:


Virgin at 29, you are looser, you deserve what you get.

I still don't believe your story.

So, being a virgin at 29 is a sign of one being a looser? Are you jealous you lost yours very early or what?

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Nobody: 9:35pm On Sep 11, 2022
You mentioned she is the love of your life. Being a virgin or not doesn't make a good or a bad wife. Since you guys didn't discuss that before getting married, it's your fault to assume she is, and not verify the product you're buying. Hope you guys did blood test, HIV and hepatitis tests before your wedding?
This is no grounds for divorce, because it's her past and not the present.

That being said, your feelings are understandable. But just tell yourself you're the owner now, and all those that came before you were just thieves.

Jesus said concerning the adulterous woman, that whoever has not committed sin before should cast a stone. Note that Jesus said sin, and not adultery, meaning sin is sin. The fact that you kept yourself a virgin till marriage doesn't make you a saint, or less of a sinner than her.

Discuss your feelings with her, and let her reassure you that she's yours only now. Go ahead and have sex, when the thing sweet you, you go forget this matter.

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Niwdog(m): 9:40pm On Sep 11, 2022
Just five BDC
She tried
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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by mployer(m): 9:43pm On Sep 11, 2022
Imlost:


So, being a virgin at 29 is a sign of one being a looser? Are you jealous you lost yours very early or what?

men don't loose virginity, it doesn't apply to men, they don't have hymen.

I conquered the women territory at age 19.

I dealt with the bulshit you are dealing with now that early in life. You are just a slow pathetic looser.
Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Nobody: 9:48pm On Sep 11, 2022
I also think you should find adult materials about maximizing your pleasure during sex, good for both of you. Not porn oo, porn can only help very experienced sexual partners.
The two of you should work on building your sex life together.

I can add you up to a Christian couples WhatsApp group where you can get healthy information on sexual matters. You could also DM me if you want personal talk.

Please don't listen to those nairaland redpillers that would say you're simp or women are whores. Just don't listen to them!

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by NoToPile: 9:51pm On Sep 11, 2022
mployer:
I don't believe your story anyway.

A virgin man at 29 is not that feasible and not even something to be proud of.

No woman is ever excited to talk about her body count.

The things I read on NL sha


Nawa oo

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Imlost: 9:54pm On Sep 11, 2022
goodamerican:
OP, I can understand your disappointment. You wanted to marry a virgin like yourself and wanted your first time to happen with each other. I get it. You should've asked before marriage, especially when you were getting serious, but I understand you didn't because you had assumed she was one since she's a pastors daughter. Anyways, if she has all the other qualities you want in a woman, continue the marriage. Don't make this an issue. Happy married life.



I believe it's feasible for some men and he should be proud of himself. There are men who remain virgins up until their late 20s and even 30s, the same way there are some women who are still virgins. We exist - there's nothing unfeasible or impossible about it.

Thank you for your kind words.

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Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Imlost: 9:55pm On Sep 11, 2022
mployer:


men don't loose virginity, it doesn't apply to men, they don't have hymen.

I conquered the women territory at age 19.

I dealt with the bulshit you are dealing with now that early in life. You are just a slow pathetic looser.


Well, congratulations on getting your trophy of conquering territories smiley

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