Emotional intelligence is being smart about emotions. The ability of human being to manage his or her emotions in a healthy way will determine the quality of his life in a much more fundamental way than his IQ this is EQ according to psychologist emotional intelligence quotient. In one huge longitudinal British study, babies were followed through childhood and into adulthood for fifty years. Their success and happiness in life was strongly correlated to their emotional intelligence. Many other studies link emotional health to better physical health, more academic and employment success and happier marriages. Your child's EQ begins with his or her relationship with you. How can you lay a solid foundation?.
1. Start with trust. High EQ starts in infancy with baby's earliest interaction with caregivers, from where the child develop feeling of security and trust.
2. Calm your own anxiety. Almost a hundred years ago, psychologist Harry Stack Sullivan originated the ideal that infants pick up anxiety from parents. Recent research has confirmed that parents touch, voices, and movements can either soothe a child or stimulate anxiety. We radiate our mode and inner state whether calm and content or frazzled and fractious, to the people around. Therefore, it's worth to use mindfulness practices to calm yourself and increase your sense of well-being when you're lacking. Your calmness help your child to build a calmer brain and nervous system.
3. Don't punish emotions or try to distract your child from his feeling. Don't shame your child when he or she gets hurt (A little scratch like that doesn't hurt, "big boys don't cry".
Acknowledge, empathize and give your child time to process. Then he or she will be ready to move on.
4. Help your child to learn how to solve problem. Most of the time, when kids feel their emotions are understood and accepted, the feeling lose their charge and begin to dissipate. This leaves an opening for problem solving. sometimes, kids can do this themselves and sometimes they need your help to brainstorm. But resist the urge to handle the problem for them as this will make your child believe that you don't trust his or her ability.
5. Don't undermine your child's emotional self-knowledge. Your child needs your encouragement to develop his or her inner compass, respect their feelings about others. If your child does not feel comfortable to give uncle Effiong a hug, don't force him or her. when your child refuse to play with a playground acquaintance, listen to why, and try to assist in problem solving, but let your child make a decision of who to play with. Affirm your child's ability to trust his or her feelings. Children need to learn to make decisions about what feels safe for them, from an early age.
Be family oriented.
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