Richy4:
The way you wrote those things, one might be thinking that Nairaland is a continent or a country where Alpha male dominates....It's about time you realize that it is a faceless forum...What you read most times are just fetish from some people who wished to be what they were not offline...most of them are thick glass wearing nerds with backpacks..

OP, you too should learn to pen down a balanced right up...You have highlighted what you thing women does, from waking up in the morning to doing domestic chores... No time did it ever occurred to you that there are men out there who are committed to their family and family lifestyle...give some credit to some men while writing sometimes...It will not cost you anything if you do that..

Do not dwell only on negatives, u are not Al Jazeera....The idea of gender war write ups most of you create on forums like this is not really necessary..

pocohantas:


Stray bullet done touch Al Jazeera.

You have spoken well.

My dear Sis, Anyone that wants to watch war news or other negativities, Al Jazeera will get that person entertained for more than one hour nonstop...And they are always there to cover it...whenever I thought of it, I thank God that television is not monopoly ...Just Imagine that Al Jazeera was the only news channel in the whole world...

I wish I can see one of their staff member and ask if those negativities do have some impact on their mind and heart in their normal day to day activities... How do one sleep at night just thinking of negative things to report nonstop

Richy4:
The way you wrote those things, one might be thinking that Nairaland is a continent or a country where Alpha male dominates....It's about time you realize that it is a faceless forum...What you read most times are just fetish from some people who wished to be what they were not offline...most of them are thick glass wearing nerds with backpacks..

OP, you too should learn to pen down a balanced right up...You have highlighted what you thing women does, from waking up in the morning to doing domestic chores... No time did it ever occurred to you that there are men out there who are committed to their family and family lifestyle...give some credit to some men while writing sometimes...It will not cost you anything if you do that..

Do not dwell only on negatives, u are not Al Jazeera....The idea of gender war write ups most of you create on forums like this is not really necessary..

JONNYSPUTE:
..... Well said. Remain blessed

Richy4:
The way you wrote those things, one might be thinking that Nairaland is a continent or a country where Alpha male dominates....It's about time you...

Do not dwell only on negatives, u are not Al Jazeera....The idea of gender war write ups most of you create on forums like this is not really necessary..

Richy4:


My dear Sis, Anyone that wants to watch war news or other negativities, Al Jazeera will get that person entertained for more than one hour nonstop...And they are always there to cover it...whenever I thought of it, I thank God that television is not monopoly ...Just Imagine that Al Jazeera was the only news channel in the whole world...

I wish I can see one of their staff member and ask if those negativities do have some impact on their mind and heart in their normal day to day activities... How do one sleep at night just thinking of negative things to report nonstop

Richy4:


My dear Sis, Anyone that wants to watch war news or other negativities, Al Jazeera will get that person entertained for more than one hour nonstop...And they are always there to cover it...whenever I thought of it, I thank God that television is not monopoly ...Just Imagine that Al Jazeera was the only news channel in the whole world...

I wish I can see one of their staff member and ask if those negativities do have some impact on their mind and heart in their normal day to day activities... How do one sleep at night just thinking of negative things to report nonstop

Karleb:


The gender war can be really tiring.

We have Feminist on one end and Red Pillars at the other end, they are ever relentless and never give up.

Reality is often very different and I am especially grateful for that. These matters only get escalated online.

In Nigeria for example, outside of Lagos, a whole lot of Nigerians are still very traditional.
Some don't even know these gender war terminologies.

My brother reality is just the best thing that can ever happen to any sane individual that spends a little time here on Nairaland...
I don't even want to talk about the tribal war...That one is more nauseating than the gender war...Anyone reading certain post online might be thinking that it's exactly how people coexist ...But thanks to reality..

But what I really need to know from you is... does being a feminist or Red pillars as they were called deprive them of speaking the truth?...I mean, I have seen a lot of post here where a man/ woman was totally wrong....But based on the gender, you will find people defending that blunder.. No need weighing the pros and cons of the matter, they just jumped into it..

was it a deliberate act to mess on the reader's head/ mind on which gender can defend more or what?...you will see diapers wearing youths insulting every female folks like none of their family got anything to do with a female, as if their mothers were men....Again u will see little carrots calling all men scrum... I just taya ..

Richy4:


My dear Sis, Anyone that wants to watch war news or other negativities, Al Jazeera will get that person entertained for more than one hour nonstop...And they are always there to cover it...whenever I thought of it, I thank God that television is not monopoly ...Just Imagine that Al Jazeera was the only news channel in the whole world...

I wish I can see one of their staff member and ask if those negativities do have some impact on their mind and heart in their normal day to day activities... How do one sleep at night just thinking of negative things to report nonstop

Mindlog:


All those big international media firms, do budget for therapy sessions for their staff, especially their war correspondents because one of the therapy practice I previously worked for had the regional account of one of the big media firms and one got to see reporters/cameramen walk in for their therapy sessions to lessen the impact. Reason, I wonder if our local stations like NTA, AIT, TVC etc make such provisions for their staff who are in the North covering stories on terrorism.

Thanks for letting me know. I was just wondering how people can stand all the negative vibes day in day out... It could really bad ...
As for the Nigerian news stations... I doubt if their employers can afford that.. They might claim that we are mentally strong and can withstand any challenges

LienwaltAbel:

I thought it's only me that noticed this. They've even calmed down self, back when I was younger they'd always show footage of people getting executed in Libya. Though I'm not really sure if they showed the real executions. Even that time gadaffi was mobbed, they showed the scene live

My brother I believe the world knows them for that... When I removed cap for them was in 2011 or so... When Prince William was wedding.. every news channel were into the royal wedding... Al Jazeera was into it but still squeeze out time to show war and negative stuffs

Richy4:

My brother I believe the world knows them for that... When I removed cap for them was in 2011 or so... When Prince William was wedding.. every news channel were into the royal wedding... Al Jazeera was into it but still squeeze out time to show war and negative stuffs

Richy4:
The way you wrote those things, one might be thinking that Nairaland is a continent or a country where Alpha male dominates....It's about time you realize that it is a faceless forum...What you read most times are just fetish from some people who wished to be what they were not offline...most of them are thick glass wearing nerds with backpacks..

OP, you too should learn to pen down a balanced right up...You have highlighted what you thing women does, from waking up in the morning to doing domestic chores... No time did it ever occurred to you that there are men out there who are committed to their family and family lifestyle...give some credit to some men while writing sometimes...It will not cost you anything if you do that..

Do not dwell only on negatives, u are not Al Jazeera....The idea of gender war write ups most of you create on forums like this is not really necessary..

Kologirl:
Please let's be respectful, remember everybody must not have the same opinion as you. Remember that people's opinions are formed as a result of their, childhood experience, environment and life experiences.
So be respectful.

Kologirl:
Honestly I don't know what some Nigerian woman are enjoying in their marriages, now if I'm being honest, have seen some beautiful marriages. But I'm here to talk about the so called alpha males on. nairaland.

Kologirl:
First of all my definition of marriage is simple.
the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners. The partners have to promise to love, each other, stay together in good and bad days.

Kologirl:
Now if u ask a nairaland Nigerian man what he was in a wife, you will think he's describing a slave. They want a wife they can control, dominate. A woman without an opinion and a housemaid.

In 2022 most women have jobs, some women wake up around 4 sometimes 5, prepare food and bath the children, by 7 food is ready, she sweeps the house and arranges the house. By 8 she takes the children to school and goes to work. Let's say she closes by 6. She rushes to the market, by 7 she is home and done with all her errands. She starts preparing food, bath the children, forces them to do their homework work , ask them to bath and she baths the little baby. By 8 food is ready, everyone eats, she decides to rest for a minute. By 9 she is already tired but has to wash your clothes and the kids clothes, she washes the plates. By 10pm she is done with all the house chores but her office work is still there, she forces herself to do the work. By 11 she is tired and goes to bed
Now this is just an example on what some women go through in day.[/b]

Kologirl:
Now where is the husband, with a sidechick telling her how his wife doesn't have time for sex, how her body is now shapeless.

Kologirl:
No appreciation, no love, nothing. Sometimes the house rent is even being paid by the woman, have worked in an agent office, I Know what am taking about. A woman that will do anything to keep her family including sacrificing her happiness and time. Now you rarely see the so called alpha men praising their wives but it's to come to nairaland. To call caring men simps and to advice themselves on how they are demi gods and should be treated as one.

Kologirl:
Aome men you dare not say "honey, please I'm on my period, on your way back from work please go to the market" omo all hell will break loose, he will come to nairaland to his fellow idiots to complain how is wife wants to control him. You dare not say" honey please help go to mama praise and buy pepper, I want to bath our child" he will tell his friends that you now have balls.
Like what type of marriage is that sef. marriage Is supposed to be filled with love and understanding, not a master - slave relationship.

Kologirl:
Honestly this is why a lot of women now leave their marriages, and the same men will come to nairaland to complain on how women are now too independent and not like our mothers.

In Nairaland if a woman is too independent- don't marry her.
She is too dependent - don't marry her

Like what do you guys want, I honestly pity the men that are taking their advise because in the real world no woman born from 1997 down will tolerate a man with all these ideologies.

marriages in the real world is more understanding, the country is hard so a lot of couples now share responsibility. like my neighbor now he's the one that bathes and take the children to school, his wife is a trader so by 5 she is already on the road. when she comes back she cooks and they all arrange the house including the man and their elder child because in the morning they are all too busy to even sweep the house. now that's marriage. now this man has a job but his job is a 9-5.

honestly don't let nairaland fool you, some people are very happy with their marriages.
the country is hard so a lot of men are being supported by their wives and the men do appreciate and show love to them in public.

honestly I pity any woman that will marry all these so called nairaland alpha males.

Kologirl:
Their own is to come to nairaland to insult and body shame women, while they are poor and miserable.

Kologirl:
Please let's be respectful, remember everybody must not have the same opinion as you. Remember that people's opinions are formed as a result of their, childhood experience, environment and life experiences.
So be respectful.

Honestly I don't know what some Nigerian woman are enjoying in their marriages, now if I'm being honest, have seen some beautiful marriages. But I'm here to talk about the so called alpha males on. nairaland.

First of all my definition of marriage is simple.
the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners. The partners have to promise to love, each other, stay together in good and bad days.

Now if u ask a nairaland Nigerian man what he was in a wife, you will think he's describing a slave. They want a wife they can control, dominate. A woman without an opinion and a housemaid.

In 2022 most women have jobs, some women wake up around 4 sometimes 5, prepare food and bath the children, by 7 food is ready, she sweeps the house and arranges the house. By 8 she takes the children to school and goes to work. Let's say she closes by 6. She rushes to the market, by 7 she is home and done with all her errands. She starts preparing food, bath the children, forces them to do their homework work , ask them to bath and she baths the little baby. By 8 food is ready, everyone eats, she decides to rest for a minute. By 9 she is already tired but has to wash your clothes and the kids clothes, she washes the plates. By 10pm she is done with all the house chores but her office work is still there, she forces herself to do the work. By 11 she is tired and goes to bed
Now this is just an example on what some women go through in day.
Now where is the husband, with a sidechick telling her how his wife doesn't have time for sex, how her body is now shapeless.

No appreciation, no love, nothing. Sometimes the house rent is even being paid by the woman, have worked in an agent office, I Know what am taking about. A woman that will do anything to keep her family including sacrificing her happiness and time. Now you rarely see the so called alpha men praising their wives but it's to come to nairaland. To call caring men simps and to advice themselves on how they are demi gods and should be treated as one.

Some men you dare not say "honey, please I'm on my period, on your way back from work please go to the market" omo all hell will break loose, he will come to nairaland to his fellow idiots to complain how is wife wants to control him. You dare not say" honey please help go to mama praise and buy pepper, I want to bath our child" he will tell his friends that you now have balls.
Like what type of marriage is that sef. marriage Is supposed to be filled with love and understanding, not a master - slave relationship.
Honestly this is why a lot of women now leave their marriages, and the same men will come to nairaland to complain on how women are now too independent and not like our mothers.

In Nairaland if a woman is too independent- don't marry her.
She is too dependent - don't marry her

Like what do you guys want, I honestly pity the men that are taking their advise because in the real world no woman born from 1997 down will tolerate a man with all these ideologies.

marriages in the real world is more understanding, the country is hard so a lot of couples now share responsibility. like my neighbor now he's the one that bathes and take the children to school, his wife is a trader so by 5 she is already on the road. when she comes back she cooks and they all arrange the house including the man and their elder child because in the morning they are all too busy to even sweep the house. now that's marriage. now this man has a job but his job is a 9-5.

honestly don't let nairaland fool you, some people are very happy with their marriages.
the country is hard so a lot of men are being supported by their wives and the men do appreciate and show love to them in public.

honestly I pity any woman that will marry all these so called nairaland alpha males.

Their own is to come to nairaland to insult and body shame women, while they are poor and miserable.

ahnie:
The ashawo thread is a pointer.

Richy4:

Do not dwell only on negatives u are not Al Jazeera The idea of gender war write ups most of you create on forums like this is not really necessary..

In 2022 most women have jobs, some women wake up around 4 sometimes 5, prepare food and bath the children, by 7 food is ready, she sweeps the house and arranges the house. By 8 she takes the children to school and goes to work. Let's say she closes by 6. She rushes to the market, by 7 she is home and done with all her errands. She starts preparing food, bath the children, forces them to do their homework work , ask them to bath and she baths the little baby. By 8 food is ready, everyone eats, she decides to rest for a minute. By 9 she is already tired but has to wash your clothes and the kids clothes, she washes the plates. By 10pm she is done with all the house chores but her office work is still there, she forces herself to do the work. By 11 she is tired and goes to bed

Kologirl:
Please let's be respectful, remember everybody must not have the same opinion as you. Remember that people's opinions are formed as a result of their, childhood experience, environment and life experiences.
So be respectful.

Honestly I don't know what some Nigerian woman are enjoying in their marriages, now if I'm being honest, have seen some beautiful marriages. But I'm here to talk about the so called alpha males on. nairaland.

First of all my definition of marriage is simple.
the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners. The partners have to promise to love, each other, stay together in good and bad days.

Now if u ask a nairaland Nigerian man what he was in a wife, you will think he's describing a slave. They want a wife they can control, dominate. A woman without an opinion and a housemaid.

In 2022 most women have jobs, some women wake up around 4 sometimes 5, prepare food and bath the children, by 7 food is ready, she sweeps the house and arranges the house. By 8 she takes the children to school and goes to work. Let's say she closes by 6. She rushes to the market, by 7 she is home and done with all her errands. She starts preparing food, bath the children, forces them to do their homework work , ask them to bath and she baths the little baby. By 8 food is ready, everyone eats, she decides to rest for a minute. By 9 she is already tired but has to wash your clothes and the kids clothes, she washes the plates. By 10pm she is done with all the house chores but her office work is still there, she forces herself to do the work. By 11 she is tired and goes to bed
Now this is just an example on what some women go through in day.
Now where is the husband, with a sidechick telling her how his wife doesn't have time for sex, how her body is now shapeless.

No appreciation, no love, nothing. Sometimes the house rent is even being paid by the woman, have worked in an agent office, I Know what am taking about. A woman that will do anything to keep her family including sacrificing her happiness and time. Now you rarely see the so called alpha men praising their wives but it's to come to nairaland. To call caring men simps and to advice themselves on how they are demi gods and should be treated as one.

Some men you dare not say "honey, please I'm on my period, on your way back from work please go to the market" omo all hell will break loose, he will come to nairaland to his fellow idiots to complain how is wife wants to control him. You dare not say" honey please help go to mama praise and buy pepper, I want to bath our child" he will tell his friends that you now have balls.
Like what type of marriage is that sef. marriage Is supposed to be filled with love and understanding, not a master - slave relationship.
Honestly this is why a lot of women now leave their marriages, and the same men will come to nairaland to complain on how women are now too independent and not like our mothers.

In Nairaland if a woman is too independent- don't marry her.
She is too dependent - don't marry her

Like what do you guys want, I honestly pity the men that are taking their advise because in the real world no woman born from 1997 down will tolerate a man with all these ideologies.

marriages in the real world is more understanding, the country is hard so a lot of couples now share responsibility. like my neighbor now he's the one that bathes and take the children to school, his wife is a trader so by 5 she is already on the road. when she comes back she cooks and they all arrange the house including the man and their elder child because in the morning they are all too busy to even sweep the house. now that's marriage. now this man has a job but his job is a 9-5.

honestly don't let nairaland fool you, some people are very happy with their marriages.
the country is hard so a lot of men are being supported by their wives and the men do appreciate and show love to them in public.

honestly I pity any woman that will marry all these so called nairaland alpha males.

Their own is to come to nairaland to insult and body shame women, while they are poor and miserable.

Acidosis:


I'm just wondering. What if she chooses to be a single mother of two? Who will do the chores, the office work, and every other thing you mentioned??

Let's stop portraying single women or single mothers as living soft lives. Everyone is subject to this workloads. Even those who can afford maids work extremely hard to make ends meet.

cococandy:


Being a single mom is easier than having an unhelpful partner. Because with an unhelpful partner, you still have to factor in the care that you provide for them. Cooking for them, their laundry, cleaning up after them. All that goes away. Whereas if they are helpful, then they are doing something to balance out that time you spent caring for them.