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Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by swagguElite(m): 2:49pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
priceactionx:This is the BEST ADVICE have seen. ZERO YOUR MIND. I was going to say sth close this but Egbon has capture everything. You're second level now. She has you now, she can't do shii without her most likely. She understands her position. Feelings can make her emotional towards you or the other man intra days. So expect crazy calls$no calls. ZERO YOUR MIND. Pet her (don't be extra) and remove jealousy from your actions. Before she starts calling you insecure. I have been in a similar position not married, but my girl earned more than me for a while and I saw EVE. Sorry EVE. Wtf. Why do I keep writing *Evil and gets changed to EVE. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by swagguElite(m): 2:54pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
THIS THREAD'S COMMENT SECTION is a Bible of wise men writing their edicts and proficient principles used in curtailing a lot of species of women. Women are not the same. So you will unfortunately meet one advice that seemed familiar to your Ex or present. 1 Like
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Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by NezzyMike: 3:18pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
IbrahimSola: You really get time to analyse situations you ain't sure of. Op go and die of hbp because of a woman you have been with for 11 years. Jobless man |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by kbower: 4:04pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
The 27million was not in bulk, I had like 9 million cash, so I had to work extra hard, did other side businesses to raise the rest, so it wasnt like the 27 milly was by the side. You guys saying i couldnt have relocated if I had such amount of money need to understand that we all have different view of this life and how we all plan to succeed and make a better living for ourselves. I have chosen this path because it aint like shes the one that brought the idea, I did, am this kind of guy that love to stay in my country, but with the situation of the country, I personally got tired and the best thing for me is just to move asap. |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by BoboKush(m): 4:04pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
dazzlingd: The dependant can work well... Student is limited to 20hrs The man needs to provide n face the hustle more..... More reason men do dependant 3 Likes |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by AlphaTaikun: 4:19pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
caandi:Hi there @Caandi Thanks for the feedback you gave me and the OP. I have no inhibitions about the zodiac signs and astrology since there are aspects of the cosmic energy that operate within time and space. This is the reason why for years, I have read about the eclectic mix of global faiths and religious paths to get a balanced perspective of people and life. I'll have a look at what you attached here and I hope the OP (kbower) gets to see it too. Have a great time ahead. Ciao. 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by 7arrows: 4:27pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
Carcholce: My Mouth is sealed. |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by zanshi: 5:23pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
Go and do magun. 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by bjay13: 5:24pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
It's just unfortunate that your wife has been a little insincere and gullible for what will make her future secure with her family. Many of them are natural dominating when they are financially empowered. Just like they say, just take it cool with her for the sake of your kids and [center]watch[/center] her closely if she gets deeper with the other man. Life is too short to worry over her. Try and relocate yourself there and then be financially stable and move on without her. |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by petitejolie(f): 6:23pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
vickydevoka:as long as he's not just staying home while only she works. He should avoid that like a plaque. If it's like that, it's better he stays back in Nigeria doing his job and just going there for visit until a job is sure for him there. Else he will hear it double |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by vickydevoka(m): 6:24pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
caandi:I think most ladies need the face of God. They way their attitude changes surprise me . Most divorced lady are the cause of they triggered it. First thing I will do when I bring my wife is introduce her to a very good church that tutor marriage. Though she is good but I know she will change. Lemme me start preparing for it 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by petitejolie(f): 6:50pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
OkoAmarashy:Why u calling her idiot na. The husband no call am that. Let him get there first. No help am conclude. |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by vickydevoka(m): 7:06pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
petitejolie:When you are in rome do like Romans. A relationship in Western world is three time stronger than marriages in Nigeria. If you dare cheat on a white woman she will waste you with bullet. In UK they don't marry much, all the have is partner but write down there dos and dons in the relationship. The run same account in most cases. They pay for house mortgage and car contract from same account. When the wife is working the husband is taking care of the kids and vise versa. Nigeria people want to have separate account and want to have their own savings while in marriage. If I can't trust a lady or have same account I will leave her. In marriage 1+1 =1 and not 2 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by sleekman(m): 7:07pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
Amotolongbo: Person marry wife. E know the kain person wen im wife be you sit down some kilometers away call am insecure. Did anything he wrote there sound insecure to you? You are just a mumu. |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by Pacesetterz: 7:22pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
kbower:Aww she still get u for mind na. She’s lonely over dia. Just take it easy,one step at a time. 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by phenom666(m): 7:28pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
kbower: As a man U mess up, that ever allow a woman to lead you. It would have be better to move from another state in Nigeria than the UK. Prepare yourself for the worse, if U like your peace of mind better return to Nigeria or divorce her. |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by MIKOLOWISKA: 7:30pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
Okonandmary:what is her priority? what makes you think she is on your team she only married you because she couldnt get what she wanted
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Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by MIKOLOWISKA: 7:57pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
advanceDNA:she will divorce him and collect half of whatever he makes.she can pull it off without him.na abroad o not shithole country fa |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by Annie001: 8:33pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
agaba:. So he will still be under her mercy baa? It's better he gets a work sponsorship and move |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by occfx: 8:38pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
Carcholce: OP is lost already.. He should just commot mind where that woman dey. Find another big nyyash for Nigeria dey fire. A lot of big nyyashes here. Let her enjoy herself, she is been longing for this freedom. Oga OP is just a SIMPle man already. |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by kbower: 8:51pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
For the person saying classes dont hold at that time, we have done video school severally when she's at class codedly seeing her lecturer delivering lectures, so do ur findings for uel and u will verify what I just said. |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by kbower: 8:52pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
occfx: STFU |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by occfx: 9:01pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
kbower: Truth doesn't sound nice but we have to say it anyways . That woman is riding you and your only option is to prioritize your happiness. Anything that will make you happy should be your selfish desire. Just let her be and move on, if not you may not survive the shockers. |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by kbower: 9:11pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
occfx: Na so them dey leave woman wey u dun dey with for 11 years and 3kids? I understand that the recent occurrences are sort of bad, but he dun reach level wey i go talk sey i wan leave am for there? Abeg anything wey wan happen make he happen 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by occfx: 9:21pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
kbower: Oh yea I forgot she is mummying 3 kids... However, consider your mental health. Women can emotionally kill a man before his time, avoid it. |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by kbower: 9:34pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
occfx: I have been handling this over the last 11 years, not like am being complacent, but God will handle the rest for me. |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by Gwan2(m): 10:11pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
OP, I took my time to read your post (not all of it though) and read lots of comments here as well. Marriage is so complex that you can’t allow your marriage live off opinions and experiences of strangers. Eventhough some could be useful,, the variables in marriage are to many to learn about marriage through opinions. Now imagine the numerous opinions and advise given to you on this post, don’t forget..everyone is contributing according to either peculiar experience which might be different from yours or according to their personal view of marriage. Like a revered preacher said…Marriage is a thing of the spirit. The major mentors on the issues of marriage in the bible were not married, that is God, Jesus and Apostle Paul. There is a template for this marriage thing, forget the whole westernisation, feminism and what you call it. Men only understand LOVE from the prism of RESPECT and SUBMISSION from the woman…that’s why there’s no place in the bible that asked wife to love their husbands, rather they should summit and respect their husbands, because psychologically, that’s a man’s idea of love. Men or Husbands on the other hand MUST provide that cover of security (physically and emotionally) to their wives, because by that it is easier for the woman’s kneels to touch the ground as a support to the husband. Whenever these principles are violated, trust me…sooner or later the marriage will witness instability or other negative consequences of marriages |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by goody234: 10:35pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
Just have a back up plan to get back to Nigeria if you divorce which I hope never happens ….if she comes after you for child support for 3 kids it will render you broke ,they will take that money at source if you refuse to pay and it will be a lot for 3 kids ….shine ya eye |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by Pharmjossy(m): 11:37pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
kbower:I just finished reading thru all the comments beginning from 8am today too this very min. Guy, you must definitely be as old as me (in your early 40s or late 30s). I followed through with your adjusted attitude towards her calls especially, and probably your prayers, which may have resulted to her coming to her senses. Thanks to God. That was just one of those things women, whatever their status, face on a daily basis. Keep commending her for such accomplishments. More of such will come her way and she will successfully come off unscathed, hopefully. But e no go easy for u Sha as you eventually join up with her. I don't wish to see you on NL again with further details. C how small CHILDREN dey insult u. As for me i dey 9ja, and will give my kids the best of education as my money can afford and go oversees on vacation with them every so often. Y? Ask David, Obi Cubana, Chief Priest and Wizkid to relocate and here from them. Y don't the Hausa man Relocate as much as other ethnic groups? Leave matter Sha. Besides,I don't want to be a murderer or for domestic violence as a result of being driven to madness by such attitudes from wife and my destiny is ruined as I spend the rest of my life in jail. Best of luck bro |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by Cullinane: 11:38pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
NoToPile:So you are telling me most Nigerian husbands don't fulfill their role. You are talking trash please. How many ladies like yourself can be supportive of their husbands when the man goes through a tough time briefly? You girls allow all these feminists on Facebook and Twitter to brainwash you into believing nonsense. You husband can never be your equal. Check the Bible when God cursed Adam and Eve. He defined things that way. If you don't like it, don't marry or go become a lesbian. There are useless men out there yes, nothing stops you from divorcing if your husband is useless. Instead, a lot of good men out there undergo stress due to very unsupportive wives. The concept of marriage in Nigeria does not appeal to most guys anymore. It is good sef cos Nigeria is over-populated. My Dad's business had issues 3 times when I was growing up, and my Mum single handedly carried the house expenses briefly cos she also had her own business. She never complained, the only thing we had to do was cut down a bit on expenses until things picked up again for my Dad. How many of you so-called modern women today in Nigeria can make such a sacrifice without opening my mouths to expose your husband's shame to the world. I rather marry a Cameroon lady, our neighbors here than you jokers. I have travelled several times to Douala and Yaounde for business and the ladies there are very feminine and very few of them fake it. I have also noticed that the Cameroon ladies who come to Nigeria get spoilt after living here for a few years. Even Senegal and Ivory Coast women sef are better than 9ja girls. 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by ayinba1(f): 12:02am On Oct 31, 2022 |
kbower: It sounds like things are turning around for you both. The reality is that it is tough and challenging. If you were verbally or physically abusive to her, please do not attempt that when you get to the UK. At the same time it does not mean that she should be abusive to you. Even though women are listened to, you are a human being as well and she has no right to abuse you. Try to understand the community/society and adjust your behavior. I wish you well, there is a lot of good that you both can still do for your family. |
Re: Married Guys That Relocated To The UK, Whats Your Experience by ayinba1(f): 12:07am On Oct 31, 2022 |
@timojerry What you described sounds like an abusive situation. It’s unhealthy for you and your children. And your wife. I am unable to locate your original post So I am unable to quote it. Please find a social worker and have a discussion with them on the way forward. At the minimum, they will document it. This will serve as a witness for you if anything were to happen. Because if you say she’s yelling at you all the time, things could escalate at any time. And even if she’s a woman, she has no right to do (be emotionally abusive to her husband) that even in the UK. 1 Like |
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