Hello Everyone, I hope you are all well. I'm here to seek experience and wisdom from the married folks (especially the males).

I am at a stage where I want to make this important decision in my life. I have few elderly people I can discuss this with. I can't discuss it with my parents as I was not raised to freely discuss these kind of things with them. So here I am looking to get different views from you all.

So you already have the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, when did you know it was time to start the plans for marriage, at what age, how much were you earning you started your plans? You can add more insights to your replies please.

Thank you as you contribute.

when did you know it was time to start the plans for marriage,

After her parents contributed money and gave me

at what age

Somewhere before 40

how much were you earning you started your plans?

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Bia, this OP.

Why exactly did you put that kind of picture?

Magnoliaa:
Bia, this OP.

Why exactly did you put that kind of picture?

Updated Ma!

guy just fix date, everything will fall into place one by one. But make no put wedding for election period oooo and try to liaise with your church (if na church wedding) about the date and continue from there.

congratulations in advance!

Speeed:
Updated Ma!

This one is better.

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AfroKnight, me and you in the next five years. ❤

Magnoliaa:


This one is better.

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AfroKnight, me and you in the next five years. ❤

Maggie but you are cheating on me na

AfroKnight:
Maggie but you are cheating on me na

So?

Like, really, what's your case here?

See them!! When the marriage crash now, they will start crying.
Prepare for your marriage that will last a life time not preparing for a wedding that is just for a day

AdamuKD:
See them!! When the marriage crash now, they will start crying.
Prepare for your marriage that will last a life time not preparing for a wedding that is just for a day

Oh great, can you share a tip or two on that?

lilvicky68:


2k

Hope it was urgent

This should be on fp na

Magnoliaa:


So?

Like, really, what's your case here?

You’re a woman. You are not allowed to cheat.

It is the privilege of men.

I’m so disappointed but what do you think of December 10th for the trad?

AfroKnight:
I’m so disappointed but what do you think of December 10th for the trad?

I get whocup appointment that day .

17th nko?

In my case, I knew I wasn't willing to spend so much and also, I wasn't looking for too many people at my wedding, so we sat down together to draw out our budget. I contributed 60% while she did 40%. We chose a venue close to the church for our traditional (it was the hotel we lodged our parents and siblings) and we agreed no reception.
At that point, we informed both parents of the date we chose and told our siblings as well. Most important thing was we had a number in mind (70 guests from both sides) although, on her side, the number was more than was agreed and the parents later apologized that it was some close family members that told some other people. She was also too conscious of colleagues she knew she wasn't going to work with anymore after the wedding, but I had to understand because she felt she had worked long with them, attended their wedding, and as a boss, she couldn't do without inviting them. She is beginning to learn that no be everybody person dey tell things to and that is the good side.
One thing that almost caused trouble was the church. They kept acting like God and at some point, I almost canceled that part of it. The interesting thing is I haven't spoken to her pastor/marriage committee after that day because there is no need to. She rarely speaks to him as well (may be once or twice a year). I think our religious institutions should learn to remember that they have no business in people's home as that would earn them the respect, they should get instead of trying to shove it down people's throat. The idea of shoving it down would never help as it means, they do not get any respect whatsoever. Marriage is about two people and I do not know why some think it is about them and not even the couple.
Most importantly, the buy in you need is that of your partner.

GboyegaD:
In my case, I knew I wasn't willing to spend so much and also, I wasn't looking for too many people at my wedding, so we sat down together to draw out our budget. I contributed 60% while she did 40%. We chose a venue close to the church for our traditional (it was the hotel we lodged our parents and siblings) and we agreed no reception.
At that point, we informed both parents of the date we chose and told our siblings as well. Most important thing was we had a number in mind (70 guests from both sides) although, on her side, the number was more than was agreed and the parents later apologized that it was some close family members that told some other people. She was also too conscious of colleagues she knew she wasn't going to work with anymore after the wedding, but I had to understand because she felt she had worked long with them, attended their wedding, and as a boss, she couldn't do without inviting them. She is beginning to learn that no be everybody person dey tell things to and that is the good side.
One thing that almost caused trouble was the church. They kept acting like God and at some point, I almost canceled that part of it. The interesting thing is I haven't spoken to her pastor/marriage committee after that day because there is no need to. She rarely speaks to him as well (may be once or twice a year). I think our religious institutions should learn to remember that they have no business in people's home as that would earn them the respect, they should get instead of trying to shove it down people's throat. The idea of shoving it down would never help as it means, they do not get any respect whatsoever. Marriage is about two people and I do not know why some think it is about them and not even the couple.
Most importantly, the buy in you need is that of your partner.

I appreciate you for taking your time to write such a detailed reply.

Magnoliaa:


I get whocup appointment that day .

17th nko?

Why did you delete the part where I declared the law which says you as a woman are not permitted to cheat? Maggie, you are playing with me. Don’t let me postpone our honeymoon to election time next year. You have been warned!!!

So why don’t you cancel the whocup appointment for your bobo na? Don’t make me visit my 2 steady girlfriends o!