Mynd_44:

Without wanting to be insultive, you sound desperate madam but you can call him and talk with him, tell him your fears and how you feel and if he is still evasive then you should step

sexkillz:

Op! How old are you? . . . . . Before i say my Thoughts?

Goldieluks:

Maybe he doesn't want to commit himself too much.
You might wanna let him know how you feel,and you would get your answer from his reply.

M M M:

op
why not ask your pastor on mFIREm

uju_1:

Desperate ke? More like the other way round he's d one disturbing me thought i made that clear.

I'm 22,   not saying he should propose or anything just that he shud commit to building a relationship or let me move on.

He knows how i feel from the fact i make so much time available to him,  not gonna ask him out or anything i value myself and its not in my culture.

M M M:

^^
Then get pregnant 4 d boy

Goldieluks:

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oh well.

uju_1:

I would say that we are dating.
We meet up 2 or 3 times a week and talk every other day.
Everyone associates me as his girlfriend but he doesnt associate me himself.
The main problem is he has not asked me anything or spoken of his intentions. 
  When I ask him what we are or what we are doing he makes one excuse or another. 

uju_1:

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Goldieluks:

Pray about your future instead,and besides your still young and you have a lot of time in your hands,
you just have to make use of your time wisely,and if your a student,you might wanna focus more on
your studies,instead of allowing your mind to be bothered by a guy,at this stage.Don't get me wrong,that doesn't stop you from keeping friends though.

just my suggestion.

M M M:

ok
u re already in 4 him, dats very good of u

uju_1:

I graduated in ghana 2 years ago and I am currently working for my dad's company so no books to focus on. I am considering if this guy is a waste of my time and was just sharing the facts to get an outside opinion. I pray about marriage for the future [/b]but havent prayed if he should be my boyfriend or not as i dont think it warrants prayer. If in 2 or 3 years we are still going strong then maybe we would have heard from God, As he has not committed to building something [b]I want someone I can build something with or is it normal for a guy to just be in a relationship with you in his mind without any verbal confirmation?

sexkillz:

OP!
Let's RAP! Now, There is absolutely NOTHING WRONG with you! The Guy loves You quite alright, and he sees a future with you! but Believe me when i say that he is scared of committing himself to you out of fear of REJECTION! He fears You may see him as a BROTHER! That would even BREAK HIS HEART TO PIECES! Now what i'll advise you to do is to OPENLY start seeing the other GUY that comes Around! DONT HIDE IT! If this Guy you are talking about REALLY REALLY cares about you, HE'll get the message, overcome his fears and then ASK YOU OUT! You have your reasons for not wanting to ASK HIM! You've thought of that and think it's a BAD IDEA! It's not always a BAD IDEA though, but STICK to your decision NOT to ask him! YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT! IF HE'S NOT READY, PLS MOVE ON TO THE NEXT AVAILABLE PERSON!

uju_1:

The rejection thing is making sense,  because people see me as more attractive than him,  and from a wealthier family,  and igbo people aint the biggest fans of yoruba people in this town,  and i'm more popular while he is quite shy,  maybe he's scared,

I like this idea and I think I will give it a go,    thanks.

LOL! Now you are TALKING!!!  He Feels INTIMIDATED too! Hey! Before you decide, Answer this Question Sincerely & as Honestly as you can!:

Do you by Any chance LOVE this Guy? How Would you feel, seeing this Guy with another Girl?
Now if you answered positively, then Give him a chance, put your ego & pride aside and ASK HIM OUT! You have nothing to lose shey? There's someone else knocking, right? If he says NO, just WALK! It's better you take the risk of asking him NOW, than jumping into another relationship without asking him, only to realize that you love HIM MORE THAN EVER!!! Believe me when i say that when you come to that realization, You'll crawl back to him, like a LOST PUPPY, and then maybe, just maybe, it MIGHT be tooooo LATE! GIVE IT A TRY GAL!

uju_1:

Please if you have nothing valuable to contribute to this discussion, replying is not by force, there are a million other topics on the forum. Thank you and God bless you!