It is obvious that most intending partners do not have constructive discussions before going into marriage, when you get into counseling sessions, you will realise you have not been discussing important issues in the real sense. Look at your relationship as an interview, no play or joke, it is a serious business, when you employ a good applicant, then you stand a better chance in your company, so marry a person on merit, not emotions.
You have the intention of getting it right, your decision to get married is enveloped by expectations, but you refuse to plan towards achieving the goals in marriage. When you stop having conversations in a relationship, immorality sets in. You do not need to get dirty with a brother or sister you are not married to, you should be interested in knowing the facts, not pants, you should invest in the relationship, not the individual.
Many issues tearing couples apart in marriage should have been settled in relationship, you could have accepted or declined the offers and actions prior to the wedding, but the kind of relationship you choose prevents you from seeing the bigger picture. The red flags you ignore in a mere relationship, constitute obstacles in marriage.
The man is focusing on content, but the woman is addressing context, so they are not connecting, they are not actually talking, they are practically lusting. Irrespective of your educational qualification or religious acumen, you can be a victim of a blind relationship. There are people you should not marry, they have told you what should've made you to run away but you stayed back because you did not pay attention to details.
She is aware that most men disappear after sex before marriage, she knows sex before marriage is a taboo, she opens her legs, screams and moans under her unmarried man, she gets pregnant without marriage, the man maltreats her afterwards, yet she comes to the public to seek sympathy, if the man is bad, you are not a good person too, relationship is for constructive discussions, not a period to discover your immoral skills, when you uncover damaging red flags, decline immediately, block him if he mounts pressure, be in control of your emotions, just because you don't want to regret.
People about to join together in holy matrimony should discuss issues, not frivolities, everything is important. A woman tells you she hates plural marriage, she can destroy any man that tries it with her in marriage, you laugh over it, instead of keeping away, and you decide to take a second wife in marriage, then she really makes your life miserable, indeed, many people are religious but they're not Godly, no matter the situation, there are people you should not marry.
After meeting him or her, and you are satisfied to go ahead, then create space and invest in the process of getting it right, do not get close, avoid every minute chats, calls, videos and visits, when you make yourself too available in a mere relationship, you will be taken for granted, and committing errors will be possible. The moment you loose the guards, then you get infatuated, and miss the chance of getting it done properly. The problem is, you will be extremely moving in the wrong direction and still be thinking, you are doing well.
When your intending partner compromises the process, violates the rules of engagement, it is enough as a red flag, if you go ahead to marry him or her, the rule of marriage will be broken, a brother or sister demands for hug, peck, romance or sex in a relationship, do not tell me you are having a conversation in that regard, your intending partner is displaying illicit act, but you are winking in the dark, you should know the blessing that comes with marriage is already being negotiated, you cannot eat your cake and still have it.
Bring up topics on religion, finance, parenting, intimacy etc, take note of the details, these issues should be discussed before a trusted third party, be guided, do not fall for, 'we are adults', because it is a statement of deceit. There's nothing wrong in discussing sex related issues before marriage, do not create private moments with a brother or sister you are not married, it makes easy for you to fall for temptations, 'I cannot fall into any immoral acts in seclusion with opposite sex', it's a statement of ignorance.
To avoid traumatic experience, and to perform better in your relationship and marriage, endeavour to get information, as they say, 'if you are not informed, you will be deformed'.

Pay attention to details.

Abu Sheikh