coputa:
If you can't take shit, don't go near marriage,It's an institution where you pretend,accept,and please your partner,if you want it to work, especially,the man,he must turn a blind eye to many shortcomings of his wife,that's why if you observe very well, you will see that in Many homes,the wife looks more plumpy and fresh than the man.its a shit swallowing institution.

aisha1314:
Yes I totally agree that marriage is very overrated. That's why I've decided that I don't want to get married. Rather I just want to have a partner (long term boyfriend) that I can just live with without being married. Marriage is just totally outdated. I want cohabitation not marriage.

ibechris:
If u marry a good woman or man,u won't come here and be saying all this.

Marriage is the best thing that can happen to people,society and even a community generally.

Parenting
When a marriage produces a child or receives a child through adoption, it is one of life’s greatest blessings. Roughly 40% of children being raised today are in a home without a father. The effects of that fact are staggering. Father absence causes increases in mental and behavioral disorders as well as criminal activity and substance abuse. But when children are raised in a healthy marriage, they get a front row seat to see and experience the lasting benefits of a strong family.

So,with this, tell ur friend the consequences of having his children and wife not directly involved in their children's lives.

I call it old age consequences.

Marriage is good only if every party in it discovered that,it is not a resting place.

Richy4:
The way you narrated this story, smile and draw conclusions with reckless abandon is amusing ...

There are millions of people enjoying their marriage and keeping mute about it because good news doesn't sale..

If people on this forum who are enjoying their relationship with their spouses comes up and start opening thread everyday on how God have blessed them with wonderful wife/ husbands... day in day out, Won't you all be rolling your eyes?..I believe some will say... "And So What do you want us to do?"... some will say "are u the first person to be married" and other bla bla bla...

Guy.. just enjoy your bachelorhood when u can because it's your God given right and you deserve it....But don't paint marriage black because it is a beautiful institution...

Sometimes people marry someone meant for another person...and when such happened, u don't blame the institution...

A lot of times, a woman will say to a man no..no.. no.. I don't want you.. my heart doesn't beat for you... they will think she was being an African woman with shakara.. A lot of times the men will take it as a challenge... They will mount pressure on her.. Bringing in all the persuasive skills ever known to man since the creation of Adam just to win her over.. when she finally agrees...Of course I don't need to tell u some of the repercussions... U know..

Op, in the next 9yrs, I am expecting your mumu button pressed by a nice young lady.. by then you will be singing a different song....U might even be ashamed of this your thread

Xj2020:
The crux of the matter is that the wife wasn't only toxic but has on a particular occasion threatened to kill the man and move on with his kids. Tell me sincerely if you would stayed in such marriage were your life is being threatened and the wife is constantly collaborating with her family to make the man's life a living hell here on earth? Coupled with the fact that the man had on several occasion tried to save the marriage by preventing her from packing on slightest provocation either by begging her or using those she respect outside to do same

Based on your question...No I will not be in such relationship because I like to be happy...

But why would a man whose life is made a living hell.. whose wife collaborates with her family to threatened to kill him still beg her to stay as you said whenever she packs her bag...Have you asked yourself of that part?..can u do that if indeed U know deep down that you were innocent?

Do you think just for a tiny second that there's something he wasn't getting right?...Are you sure he told u the whole truth or just demonizing her before you by telling you what you needed to hear?

Please don't judge that institution because of your friend's unpleasant experiences...When the time comes for you to tie the knot, u will be the one to draw such conclusion based on your experience...

However, we are living in a Morden world now, if u can't stand to share your bed with someone,... Or if u think that u can't take nonsense or tolerate another imperfect been around you sharing your space please don't force yourself ...

justfriends:
A friend confess that allowing his enstrange wife[b] to leave out of her own volition [/b]after more than 9years of marriage was the best thing to have happened to him.

His only regret is his three kids who are not with him presently. The kids are with their mother for now while he sought out some issues.

Notwistanding, he has been providing more than enough money to carter for his kids. He calls his kids almost everyday and visit once in a while.

The woman in question has being a problem for him over the past 9years+ and since she left more than 18months ago, this friend of mine has continue to experience financial, spiritual and emotional breakthrough life. No more suicide thoughts which is borne out of depression caused largely by the estrange wife. In fact, the guy is looking fresher and seems to be adding weight to the glory of God .

Peace of mind that words can not explain and a renew focus in life and rejuvenation of his career path has since began.

With all these, I am beginning to believe that that line "for good and for worse" is contestable. Marriage isn't by force. If it isn't working, the proper thing for both parties is to walk away with their shoulders high.

Infact, marriage is overated as it favor ladies more in the ratio of 9:1 (90% vs 10%) 90% for women and 10% for men

Do you agree