When my dad was alive, i was his closest friend. A polygamous family and i can tell you that i was the most hated by my other siblings.

It was so embarrassing for me that i didn't see my dad up to a year before he died. Reasons being that i had altercation with my mum and my other siblings about how they treated my dad when he was sick and when i couldn't bear it anymore, i told my mum she won't see me for the rest of her life.

She died a year later without seeing me and my dad followed.

Chains of events happened after, family fighting over properties and these are the people that didn't care about my dad when he was sick.

So after the burial, i travelled from South Africa and bought his favourite Gin. I went home and wanted to talk to his grave before dropping the Gin. But the door to the grave was locked, so i called my step brother, the eldest son that inherited everything even though my dad fought with him when he was alive and my dad disowned him. He told me to come a day later.

The next morning, my uncle called me and told me not to do that. That it forbidden. That I can't drop drink on my dad's grave citing idol worshipping. I was pissed bt obeyed.

The thing is, i want to talk to my dad again. I send his number text every Christmas ever since he died, I just want to reconnect somehow and buying the drink is like connecting according to my understanding.

Bro just take heart and pray for him,May God forgive his short comings

Move on brother

Libation is an African culture. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Ok

You don't have to pour it on the grave.. thats a desecration . Pour some drops an the ground and speak to him as we always do for ancestors, even if it's elsewhere or outside the grave gate

Many families do this in Nigeria and there is no big deal here.

They are only afraid because of the way and manner they treated him,however,u can still talk to him wherever u are.

May his soul continue to rest in Peace.

My condolences, OP.

May his soul rest in peace. Amen. 🕊

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■ So after the burial, i travelled from South Africa and bought his favourite Gin. I went home and wanted to talk to his grave before dropping the Gin. But the door to the grave was locked, so i called my step brother, the eldest son that inherited everything even though my dad fought with him when he was alive and my dad disowned him. He told me to come a day later.
■The next morning, my uncle called me and told me not to do that. That it forbidden. That I can't drop drink on my dad's grave citing idol worshipping. I was pissed bt obeyed. The thing is, i want to talk to my dad again. I send his number text every Christmas ever since he died, I just want to reconnect somehow and buying the drink is like connecting according to my understanding.

1. Your step brother who was always at loggerheads with your dad inherited everything from your dad? Wow....

2. Anyways, why your uncle dey impose his religious ideals on you?