We have religious and non religious relationships. The religious relationship is interaction between two intending partners strictly for the purpose of marriage. Such relationship starts with proposal, a brother or sister can approach the other person, or better still, use a third party to register his or her mind for an eventual marriage. If the proposal is accepted, then the brother and sister go for prayers, background check, medical tests and counseling sessions, then a nikkah is announced if proper process is intended. During the course of interaction or relationship, privacy is not tolerated, because the main purpose of going into a proper process is to avoid Fornication or Adultery, so if immoral act is committed by intending partners, then they have gone against the rule of the creed which is severe and the purpose is defeated. The two people seeking marriage are not expected to waste time on the process, if he or she discovers that the relationship cannot lead to marriage, then they should quickly go their separate ways, but if the relationship is mailed for Nikkah, the wedding ceremony should be communicated.

Non religious relationship is linked to its Western origins, it encourages courtship, dating, sexual interactions, casual sex, romance etc. It does not support proposal and acceptance from inception, the relationship starts like friendship, boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, the man and woman are not really ready for marriage, they want to experiment themselves, indeed, non religious relationship does not have boundaries. Sex, unwanted pregnancies, abortions are features of this relationship, yet they have introduced homosexuality and lesbianism into their relationships. A man can date or court a woman for years, with countless sexual activities, with abortions and dirty acts, if the lady is unfortunately fortunate, the man takes her to an eatery, kneel down and brings out a ring, and say, 'will you marry me', this is campaign after election, and it's barbaric. If the lady in question is fortunately unfortunate, the guy abandons her, and goes to another lady for marriage, most guys jn this category do not like old stuff, they prefer the ladies they have not used sexually for marriage.

Before the Western influence, searching for a partner was a task almost solely delegated to the parents and relatives. Our forebearers were the match makers and counselors, the bride and the groom would have been prepared meticulously before entering marriage. But when the influence came, the parents abandon the process, so the young marriage seekers have taken it upon themselves to search for partners, relying on western version of choosing partners, this method is creating expectations of pre-marital romance and sex, and the effect is very disappointing.

We need to adhere to the tenets of the creed to get it right, relationship and marriage are interesting when we apply religious codes.

Please pay attention to details.

Abu Sheikh

Masha'Allah. Jazak Allah.

Bintdawood:
We have religious and non religious relationships. The religious relationship is interaction between two intending partners strictly for the purpose of marriage. Such relationship starts with proposal, a brother or sister can approach the other person, or better still, use a third party to register his or her mind for an eventual marriage. If the proposal is accepted, then the brother and sister go for prayers, background check, medical tests and counseling sessions, then a nikkah is announced if proper process is intended. During the course of interaction or relationship, privacy is not tolerated, because the main purpose of going into a proper process is to avoid Fornication or Adultery, so if immoral act is committed by intending partners, then they have gone against the rule of the creed which is severe and the purpose is defeated. The two people seeking marriage are not expected to waste time on the process, if he or she discovers that the relationship cannot lead to marriage, then they should quickly go their separate ways, but if the relationship is mailed for Nikkah, the wedding ceremony should be communicated.

Non religious relationship is linked to its Western origins, it encourages courtship, dating, sexual interactions, casual sex, romance etc. It does not support proposal and acceptance from inception, the relationship starts like friendship, boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, the man and woman are not really ready for marriage, they want to experiment themselves, indeed, non religious relationship does not have boundaries. Sex, unwanted pregnancies, abortions are features of this relationship, yet they have introduced homosexuality and lesbianism into their relationships. A man can date or court a woman for years, with countless sexual activities, with abortions and dirty acts, if the lady is unfortunately fortunate, the man takes her to an eatery, kneel down and brings out a ring, and say, 'will you marry me', this is campaign after election, and it's barbaric. If the lady in question is fortunately unfortunate, the guy abandons her, and goes to another lady for marriage, most guys jn this category do not like old stuff, they prefer the ladies they have not used sexually for marriage.

Before the Western influence, searching for a partner was a task almost solely delegated to the parents and relatives. Our forebearers were the match makers and counselors, the bride and the groom would have been prepared meticulously before entering marriage. But when the influence came, the parents abandon the process, so the young marriage seekers have taken it upon themselves to search for partners, relying on western version of choosing partners, this method is creating expectations of pre-marital romance and sex, and the effect is very disappointing.

We need to adhere to the tenets of the creed to get it right, relationship and marriage are interesting when we apply religious codes.

Please pay attention to details.

Abu Sheikh

As salaam alaikum, I've once a victim of unislamic relationship but alhamdulillah though still searching and I don't to go back to unislamic ways to get a wife

Bakrabas:


As salaam alaikum, I've once a victim of unislamic relationship but alhamdulillah though still searching and I don't to go back to unislamic ways to get a wife

Wa'alaikassalaam warahmatulloh..
Maa Sha Allah alaik..
You see the best love is where you find someone who makes your Imaan rise, who makes you more pious, and who helps you here in the duniya beacuse that person wants to meet you again in Jannah, May Allah bless you with a pious Spouse who will be the pleasure of your eyes, the comfort of your heart and the sweetness of your soul.
Ameen Ya Rabb!

Bintdawood:



Wa'alaikassalaam warahmatulloh..
Maa Sha Allah alaik..
You see the best love is where you find someone who makes your Imaan rise, who makes you more pious, and who helps you here in the duniya beacuse that person wants to meet you again in Jannah, May Allah bless you with a pious Spouse who will be the pleasure of your eyes, the comfort of your heart and the sweetness of your soul.
Ameen Ya Rabb!

Aamin Jazakhumullahu Khairan

Bintdawood:



Wa'alaikassalaam warahmatulloh..
Maa Sha Allah alaik..
You see the best love is where you find someone who makes your Imaan rise, who makes you more pious, and who helps you here in the duniya beacuse that person wants to meet you again in Jannah, May Allah bless you with a pious Spouse who will be the pleasure of your eyes, the comfort of your heart and the sweetness of your soul.
Ameen Ya Rabb!

Baarakallahu feek, Haadhaa mufeed, but i'll say somethings
The best love is love and hate for the sake of Allah, such a person would have tasted the sweetness of iman, if not perfected it
And if you want to increase your iman, take it from where those with high iman took, i.e. the Book of Allah and the sunnah of His Rasul sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam.
If you're hoping for something from other than Allah, even if for your partners to be pious, then you are in a sense dependent upon that person, and if he/she does not come through, you will be disappointed.
But if you depend on Allah, while seeking what benefits you, such as a righteous spous, then you will be patient with what afflicts, and less likely to be disappointed.

The Prophets were the best of minkind, but someone of them married women who betrayed them. Asiyah was amongst the best of women, but was married to one of the worst of men, who tortured her to death, because she believed in Allah and His Messenger.

Point: There is hardship and difficulty in this world, by all means seek what will benefit you, but trust in Allah, and whatever, even if it's not what you wanted, you will at least have relief that people are just means, and the real giver of benefit and remover of Harm is Allah, and true happiness is in the Hereafter.

Shidda:


Baarakallahu feek, Haadhaa mufeed, but i'll say somethings
The best love is love and hate for the sake of Allah, such a person would have tasted the sweetness of iman, if not perfected it
And if you want to increase your iman, take it from where those with high iman took, i.e. the Book of Allah and the sunnah of His Rasul sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam.
If you're hoping for something from other than Allah, even if for your partners to be pious, then you are in a sense dependent upon that person, and if he/she does not come through, you will be disappointed.
But if you depend on Allah, while seeking what benefits you, such as a righteous spous, then you will be patient with what afflicts, and less likely to be disappointed.

The Prophets were the best of minkind, but someone of them married women who betrayed them. Asiyah was amongst the best of women, but was married to one of the worst of men, who tortured her to death, because she believed in Allah and His Messenger.

Point: There is hardship and difficulty in this world, by all means seek what will benefit you, but trust in Allah, and whatever, even if it's not what you wanted, you will at least have relief that people are just means, and the real giver of benefit and remover of Harm is Allah, and true happiness is in the Hereafter.

Wa feeka baarakalloh!
Maa sha Allah alaik, thank you.
Iftaar Mubarak🙌

Bakrabas:


Aamin Jazakhumullahu Khairan

Wa iyyaaka amin!