I remember back in secondary school, news got to my only boys school that girls in a far away only girls school raped their gate man. As soon as we got the news boys in the senior class trooped to the only girls school begging to be raped. This can never be the case if the genders are reversed, why? Does this make men fundamentally different from women, thus invalidating feminism?

sadly, thats because you are looking at rape as just another sexual encounter while it is a CRIME (whether done by men or women).

here is a clue: if a woman full of deadly diseases and with maggots coming out her toto tries to rape you, would you still be cool with rape?!?