Why do some men do this? A woman that suffered to have three children for you, you abandoned and followed a side chick..what do men really want.

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Wahala dey! he must go back to his wife and kids Wicked man.

let them each come and give their side of the story... i know many that feel the same way.

Scripted, not real.

This question you just asked now is what i asked my fellow man that just did this same thing to his wife and he told me that when he was dating the lady...eee! She was always looking sweet,took bath more than 4 times a day and when she gets to the room,the lady was so good on bed with all the WHEELBARROW,DOGGY AND MONKEY STYLES but immediately he took charge of her and paid the bride price she immediately restored to MISSIONARY STYLE,so since him no be missionary na,infact he went on to tell me categorically and whole heartedly that he had no other option than to get a NEW CHARGER.
That he can be suffering and enjoying at the same time

EriMma1:
Why do some men do this? A woman that suffered to have three children for you, you abandoned and followed a side chick..what doen really want.

A better question would be why do women continue to do this to themselves? The wife must have been aware of the man's cheating. Why did she sit back and birth more kids for him knowing all that? Why did she sit back rather than divorce him before it got to this extent? What was she expecting to see happen?

Orfankwagh:
This question you just asked now is what i asked my fellow man that just did this same thing to his wife and he told me that when he was dating the lady...eee! She was always looking sweet,took bath more than 4 times a day and when she gets to the room,the lady was so good on bed with all the WHEELBARROW,DOGGY AND MONKEY STYLES but immediately he took charge of her and paid the bride price she immediately restored to MISSIONARY STYLE,so since him no be missionary na,infact he went on to tell me categorically and whole heartedly that he had no other option than to get a NEW CHARGER.
That he can be suffering and enjoying at the same time

So it's all about sex? SMH.

Did he complain to the wife about it? No. Cos I'm sure if he did, she'll have adjusted.Na long throat dey worry your friend. Men generally.

Kobojunkiee:
A better question would be why do women continue to do this to themselves? The wife must have been aware of the man's cheating. Why did she sit back and birth more kids for him knowing all that? Why did she sit back rather than divorce him before it got to this extent? What was she expecting to see happen?

How would she have known that he was that kind of person? Or are you trying to tell me all men are naturally like that hence the need for her to be informed and well guided?

How did we get here?

Shapeaso:
Wahala dey! he must go back to his wife and kids Wicked man.

Can this one go back like this? I doubt.

Long throat don carry am go.

MrBrownJay1:
let them each come and give their side of the story... i know many that feel the same way.

Did you watch it? He also gave his own side of the story but a very flimsy and lame excuse which men usually give

EriMma1:
■How would she have known that he was that kind of person?
■ Or are you trying to tell me all men are naturally like that hence the need for her to be informed and well guided?
■How did we get here?

1. In Nigeria, the average married woman is already aware of her husband's straying, even though she pretends to herself that by remaining in the marriage and continuing to play a good and innocent wife, she is somehow removed from the problem. Through these many "innocent acts", these women establish themselves as enablers of adultery.

2. Not necessarily but we are all humans and we can all sense when things are no longer as they used to be. Our curious sides immediately urge us to dig to find out the reason for the change, no matter what it is. We develop suspicions and are forced to either act on them or feign ignorance.

3. We got here because married women, en masse, sitting tight in adulterous marriages, decided, that adultery had become an acceptable aspect of marriage.

Shapeaso:
■ Wahala dey! he must go back to his wife and kids Wicked man.

1. Why must he go back to her? Why must she take back an adulterous man who abandoned her and her kids for a hooker? Why can't she simply divorce him and make sure to take him for everything she can?

EriMma1:


So it's all about sex? SMH.

Did he tell the wife about it? No. Cos I'm sure of he did, she'll have adjusted.Na long throat dey worry your friend. Men generally.

No be men generally,this is were women commit marriage abortion.
-A man will marry you just because ur good in bed
-others will do same if u're a good cook
-some are just looking out for the most beautiful
-some are looking for short ladies or busty ladies etc
You can't have everything in a single woman,so the purpose he married you must be sustained,then others will be added or subtracted onto that but if you deviated from the actual purpose everything go spoil

Orfankwagh:
■ No be men generally,this is were women commit marriage abortion.
-A man will marry you just because ur good in bed
-others will do same if u're a good cook
-some are just looking out for the most beautiful
-some are looking for short ladies or busty ladies etc
You can't have everything in a single woman,so the purpose he married you must be sustained,then others will be added or subtracted onto that but if you deviated from the actual purpose everything go spoil

1. He has a point here, @EriMma1. If the reason a man chooses to marry a woman is based on any of the above, then the union is breached once the woman is unable to meet up with her side of the agreement, the same way a man deciding to seek sex outside of the marriage is equally a breach in his side of the agreement. So, why do women, when unable to continue with their end of the bargain, continue to remain in such unions when divorce is available in such situations?

Kobojunkiee:
1. In Nigeria, the average married woman is already aware of her husband's straying, even though she pretends to herself that by remaining in the marriage and continuing to play a good and innocent wife, she is somehow removed from the problem. Through these many "innocent acts", these women establish themselves as enablers of adultery.

2. Not necessarily but we are all humans and we can all sense when things are no longer as they used to be. Our curious sides immediately urge us to dig to find out the reason for the change, no matter what it is. We develop suspicions and are forced to either act on them or feign ignorance.

3. We got here because married women, en masse, sitting tight in adulterous marriages, decided, that adultery had become an acceptable aspect of marriage.

Hmmm... Sad but true.

EriMma1:
■ Hmmm... Sad but true.

These women aren't victims but enablers. The only victims are the children caught in such unions, many of whom then go on to repeat the mistakes of their parents going as far as to perpetrate the foolishness that is "men are polygamous and so ought to be allowed to cheat" nonsense that we have today.

Kobojunkiee:
1. He has a point here, @EriMma1. If the reason a man chooses to marry a woman is based on any of the above, then the union is breached once the woman is unable to meet up with her side of the agreement, the same way a man deciding to seek sex outside of the marriage is equally a breach in his side of the agreement. So, why do women, when unable to continue with their end of the bargain, continue to remain in such unions when divorce is available in such situations?

How many men live up to their own end of the bargain? Yet women are willing to put up with their sorry ass till death do them part . But just a little strain here and there, they ( men) jump out and start frolicking with another woman.

Men are naturally cheats. No matter the situation, good or bad, they'll always cheat.

EriMma1:
■ How many men live up to their own end of the bargain? Yet wen are willing to put up with their sorry ass till death do them part . But just a little strain here and there, they ( men) jump out and start frolicking with another woman. Men are naturally cheats. No matter the situation, good or bad, they'll always cheat.

1. When you allow your kids the freedom to eat their cake and have it too — allow them to have two incompatible things — you create the notion that such a situation is OK and acceptable. I don't believe men naturally cheat because not all men cheat. But I do believe that by removing the clear line between what is a healthy marriage and an adulterous union, women have helped enable the cheating culture that exists in Nigeria today.

Wahala nor too much

Kobojunkiee:
1. When you allow your kids the freedom to eat their cake and have it too — allow them to have two incompatible things — you create the notion that such a situation is OK and acceptable. I don't believe men naturally cheat because not all men cheat. But I do believe that by removing the clear line between what is a healthy marriage and an adulterous union, women have helped enable the cheating culture that exists in Nigeria today.

So the women should be on their toes to make sure the "lines" are not removed before the men can have sense to do the right thing? I don't get it.

This has nothing to do with the women. The men are just naturally wired like that. They lack the ability to think back and forth of the consequences of their actions before commiting the act. They just go straight up into it.

EriMma1:
■ So the women should be on their toes to make sure the "lines" are not removed before the men can have sense to do the right thing? I don't get it. This has nothing to do with the women. The men are just naturally wired like that. They lack the ability to think back and forth of the consequences of their actions before commiting the act. They just go straight up into it.

1. I am not saying women should be on their toes. Rather, women should come to the realization that when they sit tight in these adulterous unions, they cease to be victims but become enablers of these atrocities against them. You can't cry foul and at the same time continue to give rope to the one who you cry against. That is just wrong! The law allows divorce in the case of adultery. So why would a sane woman refuse to take the exit door yet continue to make noise in our ears? For what?

Kobojunkiee:
1. I am not saying women should be on their toes. Rather, women should come to the realization that when they sit tight in these adulterous unions, they cease to be victims but become enablers of these atrocities against them. You can't cry foul and at the same time continue to give rope to the one who you cry against. That is just wrong! The law allows divorce in the case of adultery. So why would a sane woman refuse to take the exit door yet continue to make noise in our ears? For what?

When the man knew he cant be faithful to a woman, why did he marry her in the first place?

Stop apportioning blames on the woman. The man is to be blamed here for his lack of self control and unfaithfulness.

EriMma1:
■ When the man knew he cant be faithful to a woman, why did he marry her in the first place?
■ Stop apportioning blames on the woman. The man is to be blamed here for his lack of self control and unfaithfulness.

1. Because he is human?

2. No one is apportionment blame. Simply stating women ought to bear responsibility for the parts they play in enabling the situation is all.

We need to hear the two sides of the story.


With first-hand experience,, I can tell you this..
“Sometimes, I feel like leaving my family and work, and go for a full one-month retreat where I will stay all alone by myself.
Just alone., without any HUMAN Visitors (no matter who that person might be),, I would just be left all alone with my thoughts.. and my only nearest companions would be the trees and the birds, and animal sounds and noises..
And my phones would be put off..
I may only read newspapers and listen to news on radio in order to get updated, that is, if there might even be need for such”.


The reason I think of such things at times, even though I have a family, is because, sometimes I get totally fed-up with everything.

My wife would be there thinking that having a Family SHOULD mean everything to me, and be More Than Enough for me to be always happy in this world..
Only if she would ever know that at times,, I prefer to stay with the wild trees and birds, than to stay with her and the kids

So, you don't know what the man might be going through in the family.
We need to hear both sides of the story.

tk4radi:
■ The reason I think of such things at times, even though I have a family, is because, sometimes I get totally fed-up with everything. My wife would be there thinking that having a Family SHOULD mean everything to me, and be More Than Enough for me to be always happy in this world.. Only if she would ever know that at times,, I prefer to stay with the wild trees and birds, than to stay with her and the kids So, you don't know what the man might be going through in the family. We need to hear both sides of the story.

1. Did your wife put a gun to your head forcing you into marrying her and having these kids who you now say you sometimes imagine you don't always care for? Why pretend they are somehow to blame for any of what you are dealing with?,

Also, why not go visit a mental health care counselor to help you deal with the turmoil in your head rather than pretend you were somehow forced into your present situation?

tk4radi:
We need to hear the two sides of the story.


With first-hand experience,, I can tell you this..
“Sometimes, I feel like leaving my family and work, and go for a full one-month retreat where I will stay all alone by myself.
Just alone., without any HUMAN Visitors (no matter who that person might be),, I would just be left all alone with my thoughts.. and my only nearest companions would be the trees and the birds, and animal sounds and noises..
And my phones would be put off..
I may only read newspapers and listen to news on radio in order to get updated, that is, if there might even be need for such”.


The reason I think of such things at times, even though I have a family, is because, sometimes I get totally fed-up with everything.

My wife would be there thinking that having a Family SHOULD mean everything to me, and be More Than Enough for me to be always happy in this world..
Only if she would ever know that at times,, I prefer to stay with the wild trees and birds, than to stay with her and the kids

So, you don't know what the man might be going through in the family.
We need to hear both sides of the story.

This your own strong o. It's not the same as the man in this video. You want time and space alone but this man is cheating with another woman. He absconded with another woman.

I think your case needs medical attention or... A visit to the specialist.

Pele.

Zupay:
Scripted, not real.

You are wise

EriMma1:


This your own strong o. It's not the same as the man in this video. You want time and space alone but this man is cheating with another woman. He absconded with another woman.

I think your case needs medical attention or... A visit to the specialist.

Pele.

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Having Time and Space Alone Solves A Lot..


A specialist wouldn't even suggest anything else for me, until I finished having the vacation first.


Life is really NOT all that serious.

We the people make it look like it's so serious.

Kobojunkiee:
1. Did your wife put a gun to your head forcing you into marrying her and having these kids who you now say you sometimes imagine you don't always care for? Why pretend they are somehow to blame[b] for any of what you are dealing with?,

Also, why not go visit a mental health care counselor to help you deal with the turmoil in your head [b]rather than pretend you were somehow forced into your present situation?

Let me not just assume that you misunderstood everything I wrote up there.


Now, read the things I wrote.
Understand it well..
And comment again.


If you saw anywhere I BLAMED anybody,, point it out for me..

tk4radi:
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Having Time and Space Alone Solves A Lot..


A specialist wouldn't even suggest anything else for me, until I finished having the vacation first.


Life is really NOT all that serious.

We the people make it look like it's so serious.

I understand you bro but dont you think you would have been better off not married since you're this kinda person who wants their privacy from time to time. Once in a while is ok but having this wish round the clock just simply means you're a loner and would be better off unmarried. Just saying.

EriMma1:


I understand you bro but dont you think you would have been better off not married since you're this kinda person who wants their privacy from time to time. Once in a while is ok but having this wish round the clock just simply means you're a loner and would be better off unmarried. Just saying.

Read what you typed...


And read what I typed..


Are we saying the same thing or not.?
Or you're trying to paint a picture here?



And about the video you shared.
Let me put myself in the man's shoes.


Getting married is not a problem at-all.
Getting married to the wrong person sef is not a problem..
The problem is, after things started getting sore, what was done about it.?

The man is tired of the woman.
He shouldn't be cheating.
He should just end the marriage legally, and be sending money legally for the kids upkeep.
This one he is doing is now is just tantamount to irresponsibility..

Just see the type of disgrace he is receiving,, even from the woman who is also very tired of being his wife.

Then, they should end the nonsense marriage, and let the money be the only thing that they have in common..
None of these embarrassments would have occurred.

tk4radi:
Read what you typed...


And read what I typed..


Are we saying the same thing or not.?
Or you're trying to paint a picture here?



And about the video you shared.
Let me put myself in the man's shoes.


Getting married is not a problem at-all.
Getting married to the wrong person sef is not a problem..
The problem is, after things started getting sore, what was done about it.?

The man is tired of the woman.
He shouldn't be cheating.
He should just end the marriage legally, and be sending money legally for the kids upkeep.
This one he is doing is now is just tantamount to irresponsibility..

Just see the type of disgrace he is receiving,, even from the woman who is also very tired of being his wife.

Then, they should end the nonsense marriage, and let the money be the only thing that they have in common..
None of these embarrassments would have occurred.

Ok. I get you now.