Hi Nairalanders,
I had to use this new moniker for the purpose of this post.

I have been going out with my lady for 7 months now, and the relationship has been beautiful with everything falling in the right places, she has most of the qualities i have always desired in a woman.

I traveled out of town for two weeks, i got back yesterday, she opted to make me something before i got back so she went to my house earlier yesterday to prepare food.

I noticed that since I got back she has been texting on her smaller phone and has been carrying the phone everywhere while leaving the big one on the bed or anywhere. She work up this morning and continued texting on that phone, i have been acting like i am not seeing all the moves so that i can actually find out what it is.

I am trying so hard to be calm in other not to make her realize and wipe anything that might be as a pointer to evidence.

I have been having different thoughts as to have to handle it:
1. I was thinking of checking the phone, depending on what i see, i will ask her who she has been texting, i will after a few days like i did not see anything.
2. The second thought was i ask her who she has been texting and request that she opens the text and we see together.

I don't want to jump into conclusion until i see what it is. I really don't know what to do, i am confused and i don't want to make mistakes with my marital life as i plan settling down.

Please advice me, criticism is welcomed as i know some people will come at me.

Tell her this. Your continous texting and smiling is making you insecure. And you are messing with my head. Just say this and she will do the rest

We have more pressing needs for our time & data. Nigerians are passing through very difficult times at the moment.

Op take out your phone and do some texting too.

Find someone and text stop acting insecure.

As you're texting keep smiling.

Text your own too na

Just 7 months and he proudly calls her My Lady

Omo una wey dey relationship dey try. How will I be monitoring adults? 😅

All these things are pure stress.

Possible things involved...

1. She's not faithful (she's cheating)

2. She's keeping her options open..

3. There are things you don't know about her yet despite being with her for 7 months

4. Women are cunning, if she's smarter than you, catching her red-handed will be difficult..

When a lady is being unnecessarily secretive about her phones, it says a lot... Don't accuse her, still act naive, but keep an open mind that the relationship might end and not lead to the marriage that you expected and it might be for the best... Do not let emotions override your thinking ability... See things as it as not as you want them to be.. don't worry, she go lose guard one day and you go catch her, she might be erasing evidences for now so it would be quite hard.. asking her who she's chatting with will raise her defenses up and will make her change tactic... Just prepare your mind for anything, so if e later sup, e nor go pain you... And I hope you're not the only one investing in the relationship because if she later give you breakfast, na you the thing go pain pass...

Nothing wrong with him calling her like that...I m not understanding this new you o.

Tallesty1:
Just 7 months and he proudly calls her My Lady

ahnie:
Nothing wrong with him calling her like that...I m not understanding this new you o.

She is not his lady yet

paulosan:
I noticed that since I got back she has been texting on her smaller phone and has been carrying the phone everywhere while leaving the big one on the bed or anywhere. She work up this morning and continued texting on that phone, i have been acting like i am not seeing all the moves so that i can actually find out what it is. I am trying so hard to be calm in other not to make her realize and wipe anything that might be as a pointer to evidence.
I have been having different thoughts as to have to handle it:
1. I was thinking of checking the phone, depending on what i see, i will ask her who she has been texting, i will after a few days like i did not see anything.
2. The second thought was i ask her who she has been texting and request that she opens the text and we see together.
I don't want to jump into conclusion until i see what it is. I really don't know what to do, i am confused and i don't want to make mistakes with my marital life as i plan settling down. Please advice me, criticism is welcomed as i know some people will come at me.

Lack of communication is the root of many marital issues. You came here to tell us your fears but you forgot to communicate the exact same to the one who is right beside you. We have no way of reading her mind for you on this so if you want to get answers to either allay or lend support to your fears, the best person to approach for just that is your partner.

Hello insecurity!


Nairalanders, Una go quote tire. I be feminist wannabe wey no get shame.

Ur life first u need to ask her
If family can betray each other who be gf

Check the phone when she is totally asleep.

Don't dull. It makes no sense that you are faithful to a lady and she is playing games

TINTINABULATION:
We have more pressing needs for our time & data. Nigerians are passing through very difficult times at the moment.

Keep quiet, please.

Kobojunkie:
Lack of communication is the root of many marital issues. You came here to tell us your fears but you forgot to communicate the exact same to the one who is right beside you. We have no way of reading her mind for you on this so if you want to get answers to either allay or lend support to your fears, the best person to approach for just that is your partner.

This.

I mean I understand what/how you're feeling, OP. But shouldn't you really be broaching this with the person you're with?

Be direct and assertive. Tell her to open the damn phone.

Check the phone.simple

Magnoliaa:


Keep quiet, please.

May God pardon the insensitivity of the social media, I am old enough to be your father.

Tallesty1:
Just 7 months and he proudly calls her My Lady

;

pesin wey de double date in peace.

MY LADY MY FOOT!!

234GT:
Check the phone when she is totally asleep.

Don't dull. It makes no sense that you are faithful to a lady and she is playing games

what makes you think she won't delete the messages

Aaaaarghmed:
Check the phone.simple

what makes you think she won't clear traces

Lungdick:


what makes you think she won't clear traces

checking phones has saved me alot.i have always being 2 steps ahead because of checking phone.

Lungdick:


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pesin wey de double date in peace.

MY LADY MY FOOT!!

No mind the werey, person dey on probation dey claim rights.


My lady kor, my queen ni.

It's always "Fiancee", we all know it's your girlfriend. Using "fiancée" to avoid us bashing you won't help you either.

Only a woman you engaged to is your "fiancee"

Back to you post, a relationship without TRUST should be discontinued because we all know the ending.


COMMUNICATION is the key in relationship. if you have suspicion, confront her and iron it out... instead of coming to seek public opinions on private matters.

She's doing it on purpose, ladies are very smart in covering their tracks,
If she is indeed flirting, you won't even know.

She dey tuant you

I thought I read 'My Finance is acting suspiciously'. I had wanted to say 'Report your bank to CBN'

Focus on earning money and keep shaking your head and Smiling whenever she is texting, carry her for shoulders and not head. Just tell her everything na time and no complete the sentences, APC is still dealing with every body. Person wey dey hide phone, if not planning to cheat or cheating because continue texting dey different from single text. Wake up but e bi like say inflation no affect you abi you be APC active members

Ok